THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, my boyfriend got a message from a girl asking if he wanted dirty pictures from her and if so to send his email or his phone number to her. He doesn’t know I read the message. So when he got home I asked who this chick was, and he said I don’t know. So I checked his facebook message this morning and he deleted her and the message. So I checked his email and sure enough. He got an email from her. It was read, so I decided to go and look at it. She said I’m lonely blah, blah, blah. Make an account on this site and there’s the pictures for you! She even asked if he wanted to hook up and such, but I don’t see any emails of him replying. I tried to see if he was on this site but, I would have to make an account, which I’m not going to go that far. Was she just a fake account to get him to go on the site, or is he cheating on me? or at least, trying too? He’s 26, and I’m 21. We only have sex once or twice a week and when I ask him why, he says hes too tired for sex. This has going on for about 3 months, and we’ve only been dating for 5 months! What do you think I should do? Leave him or just wait to see if he does cheat?
He is cheating on you.- nik
Derek says:
1st – it’s just a facebook SPAMbot, every guy gets them every once an awhile and EVERY SINGLE GUY ON PLANET EARTH wants to get naked pics from any chick whether or not they are married, single, in a relationship, gay, straight ect ect ect…
2nd – if you dont trust your boyfriend you shouldnt be together.
to DerekAnonymous says:
U have to be pretty ugly to get cheated on
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Well aren’t you a mouthful of contradictions? You just told this girl that every guy behaves this way, but that if she can’t trust her bf they can’t be together. You need to read what you just wrote, dude. Shit doesn’t make sense.
And not every guy wants to get naked pics from whores when he is in a relationship. There are a few good men out there. You happen to be one of the bad ones, kid.
to AnonymousDerek says:
Being in a trusting relationship and wanting to see other chicks naked have NOTHING to do with each other.
If you believe that there is a guy on this earth that stops looking at other women because of his relationship status you are deluded or naive. I love my wife but I also love boobies.. and want to see as many as I can before I die.
to DerekAnonymous says:
He sounds really sketchy. At that age, he should be wanting to have sex ALL THE TIME. Confront him and ask him if he’s having an affair. You’ve only been together for 5 months, so leave him. You can do better, honey!
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Really? How dumb do you have to be!!! Of course he’s cheating on you. Who cares if you didn’t see the messages that he replied to her. After seeing the first message about him wanting dirty pictures it would have been a wrap for me.
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Trust him but guys are sneaky like that
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Relationships are a lie.
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Ur a moron realtionships a lie
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
I feel bad for you. Please seek some therapy or counseling. Relationships are not always “lies.”
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Bitter much??
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
You know what’s going on. you didn’t need to submit a post, asking if he is cheating on you. Obviously he is. Don’t be stupid.
to AnonymousFred Farkel says:
The old man (me) once again must comment that your puny little lives are utterly REVOLTING.
I must go puke now.
Thank you.
to Fred FarkelAnonymous says:
Actually, it sounds like spam. If that email is linked to his fb then that’s why they were sent there. Guys get spam like that on fb all the time.
to Anonymousanonymous says:
Hey, girl! Thanks for sharing.
Listen, the only reason you were able to see he got an email from the skank is because he gave it to her. Realize that at age 21, you have many options and a long life ahead, so you do not have to take that from him or anyone.
There is a way you can break up with him and keep your integrity intact. Point blank tell him that you deserve fidelity and honesty in a relationship; and you don’t feel he can provide that, and you will be better off independent, making your own choices, until you meet a guy who can deliver honesty and proves himself devoted and trustworthy.
You don’t need to be dramatic. Simply be self-assured and self-controlled. When you leave the situation in that manner, you will also feel good about the dignity and class you have shown yourself that you have.
Onward and forward, kiddo! You’ll be fine.
PS: The number of times you have sex a week doesn’t really matter. It’s the quality and passion of it! When you’re in an awesome, loving relationship, it’s always deeply satisfying no matter how often it occurs.
to anonymousAnonymous says:
“Make an account on this site and there’s the pictures for you!” Sounds like a scam some of the porn sites and cam sites run to get guys to sign up. I’m sure if you try signing up for that site it will ask for a credit card number… SCAM. He’s probably going to start getting a lot more spam emails also.
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Lady your an Idiot if you’re on facebook you should know that they send those messages to random guys if he did get pictures from “HER” it wasn’t a her and he had to pay for them its SPAM… check his credit cards psycho or better yet give your boyfriend privacy?!?!
to AnonymousJoe Vialls says:
re: “We have sex once or twice a week.”
There you go, you’re nothing MORE than just a typical cheap immoral WHORE/DOUCHE whose fate is imminent as it is for all fornicators/adulterers/sodomites …..
unless you REPENT (unlikely, or else you would have already)
to Joe ViallsSyphKingII says:
Thou shall not judge, you dumb dumb. Hail satan!
to SyphKingIILauren marzec says:
Stupid devil worishipers
to Lauren marzecYa who wouldnt want to be in constant pain in the after life
Usually satin worshiper
Worship satin cause they r freaks no one wants
No one will ever luv u
Aisha says:
Don’t u know the rule? If u have to ask, u already know.
to AishaBass Ackwards says:
Actually, in benefit to the guy, this sounds like one of those junk mail messages. The whole thing about send me your e-mail, then the email comes, now go to this site and create an account and you’ll be able to view my photos.
Her guy might now be cheating so much as just be gullible.
to Bass AckwardsAnonymous says:
seems like shes just some slut trying to bang out your dude. and it also seems like youre answering your own questions that he ISNT falling for it.
stop being a psycho
to AnonymousSheldon Cooper says:
Bazinga! I beg to differ Nik, I don’t think he is cheating on you, those messages were from a spam bot to get him to join the site, I would know, I get those messages a lot, so nothing to worry about there. As for the sex, he could actually be too tired for sex, depending on what he does during the day of course, or he could be one of those types who would rather masturbate instead of have sex. I say wait and see what happens. Keep an eye on him and go from there. If need be go a little extreme and make a fake profile with someone elses pictures and flirt with him and try and set something up, that’s how I have caught a few of my ex’s cheating on me. Hope this helps.
to Sheldon Cooperbernie lomax says:
You should get out of this relationship in the first place if you have to snipe your boyfriend’s emails / texts. Trust issues much? Even if I wasn’t cheating and I caught my girlfriend doing that I would break the relationship off. I could not deal with 50 years of that…
to bernie lomaxAnonymous says:
Sounds like a fake girl that just wants to get him to the site for pay photos or pay webcam. She’s probably a scam but if he’s responding, he’ll probably cheat on you with a real girl. If you’re questioning it now, then def break up with him. You’re too young to bother with him.
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
You’d think by the time she got done writing that she would already know her answer..
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
typical girls, always thinking the worst of the worst. perhaps he’s too tired from his full time day job requiring minimum 8 hour days of intense labour. and all you can think about is sex?… dumb b!tch
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Even in the very unlikely event that he’s not cheating on you, the fact that all this is even going through your head means you’re either perceiving his intentions and/or you have your own issues to work out.
Suspicion is always either warranted or a guilty conscience.
Either way this is not healthy for either person.
to AnonymousMeow says:
The account is FAKE. He is not cheating with that girl. However, since he is the type of guy who is 26 and dates 21 year olds, he is definitely the type that would be willing to cheat if given the opportunity. Also, you seem dumb. So, it would be easy to cheat on you.
Sorry.
to MeowJenna says:
It’s a fake account. They are everywhere on Facebook. I have gotten 5 messages from these fake accounts and they all want you to go to another website. Chill.
to JennaAnonymous says:
you have already invaded his privacy completely. your just as bad as that dumb slutty ho trying to send him pictures desperately.
to AnonymousDr. Girl says:
Girls, if you think hes cheating thow him in the trash! Think about this. YOU have the magical Vag!na, men rape, get addicted to porn, pay for sex, commit serious crimes, human traffic girls all for what we have. WE HAVE 1000% power over men. WE do not have to chase men, or put up with ANY abuse from them! Have self respect for yourself. A woman will never be alone their a plenty of great men NEVER SETTLE FOR TRASH.
to Dr. GirlDerek says:
Power of the hole is rendered useless once you realize you have power of the pole. I used to be a whipped little b*tch.. until I realized there’s a lot of vagina out there desperate for positive attention… I little bit of balls deep and some compliments and you can land a girl that will do anything for you.. leaving chicks like “Dr. Girl” who believe they own the world with their gash dried up and alone.
to Derekbrooklon (psychologist) says:
You need to leave him for a few reasons.
to brooklon (psychologist)1. He is at the age where men want to have sex everyday
2. He is no longer or never was attracted to you
3. He is going on the internet looking for hookers/escorts/massage
Anonymous says:
honestly, thats cheating. my ex was like that til i found another email full of naked pics girls were sending him and he was asking them for.it.. dont break.ur head doubting him. obviously u had ur doubts enough to make u look for dirt and u found it, now what? u gonna wait for more evidence and be an idiot. men that think they’re slick think like that bc women stick around regardless what they do to them.. smh
to AnonymousBIG D DIRTY DIRTY says:
If your a man and you take your wifes last name your penis is definately 2 inches long or less.
to BIG D DIRTY DIRTYMadam says:
Nik might be right. You should still be ‘honeymooning’ after only 5 months. Leave him.
to MadamFoghorn Longhorn says:
He ought to leave you you psycho stalker!
to Foghorn LonghornAnonymous says:
lord of course!!!! young guys LOVE sex, every day all day, no guy will tell his girlfriend he is tired unless he already used his greg earlier… you can stay with him but for sure he is with this girl. if you do break up she will get him … up to you… if was me i would cheat on him BIG time, believe me will make you better …. karma is a bitch!
to AnonymousCody L says:
Stop thinking so much into it. As far as that message goes its probably fake seeing how you have to go to a site, register, log in and probably pay just to see pictures.
On the other hand he probably hates that you read through his messages and texts. That’s his stuff stop snooping. Try changing up the sex life. Give him a bj or pull him into the shower with you and let him do the dirty. Express something kinky you want to try( not too kinky) and get him in the mood.
to Cody LAnonymous says:
From the sounds of it he is cheating on you… But I would ask him about it straight up!
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
From a guy’s point of view it sounds like he’s cheating on you because I never turn down sex no matter how tired I may be and never will. But these new dating sites are making fake Facebook profiles with pictures of women in bathing suits and sluty clothes and sending messages like this to join a site where you can see pics, I get a few of these a month on Facebook and you can tell there fake. So the pay dating site most likley caught his attention and started to make him think and next comes the cheating.
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
It’s a total scam. Have you tried searching her name on fb? If she’s a real person she will have something in common with you like her city or a couple of friends.
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
Those are fake spam emails…now if he replied that would be another thing, but those are definitely spam!
to AnonymousAnonymous says:
My friend got the exact same message on Facebook the other day…. SPAM!
to AnonymousYomama says:
I was also with a man in my early 20′s who I constantly thought was cheating on me… It was torture for myself mentally and when I confronted him he would play even more mind games and say I was the cheater since I brought it up. We also barely had sex… Together for 2 1/2 yrs and let me tell you breaking up was the best thing ever…. Sooooooo many other guys out there. Why waste time with someone who disrespects you. Respect yourself and leave him. Guaranteed you’ll find a nicer, hotter guy.
to YomamaAnonymous says:
QUIT reading his emails and hacking his FB you bitch
to AnonymousDerek says:
truth
to Derek...pretty one says:
lol yes truth derek
to ...pretty oneAnonymous says:
You moron. If anything said “sign up for this website and check out my pics” it’s SPAM. Or else, there would have been pics included in the email. Also, quit f*cking with his shit. You either start to trust him or break up. Quit seeking advice from idiots online and communicate with your boyfriend.
to AnonymousSyphKingII says:
Ask him. Checking his email is invading his privacy and he’ll be choked. If you have no communication, it will not work out, I promise. Communication is king with the syphkingII.
to SyphKingIIbewbew says:
If it was a scam, the bot would not have an email.
to bewbewAnd girl, you need to be sure he’s not and if you have even the slightest idea that he’s cheating, you shouldnt be with him. Break up with him before he breaks up with you. Save yourself from embarressment.
Anonymous says:
He told me he doesnt find u attractive and found hot girls
to AnonymousHe told me not to tell u
Move on u ugly