My Boyfriend Never Has Sex With Me
THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, my boyfriend gets angry with me when I try to to initiate sex. He says he loves me, but he doesn’t have a sex drive. I see him oogle other girls out when we’re in public so I know that he does have a sex drive. I recently told him that we’re either breaking up or we need to have an open relationship because I have to have sex. He said we can have an open relationship. I told him today that I made a date with another guy and he got furious. He’s not having sex with other people, so what’s going on?
He just cannot be alone. He doesn’t love you… he needs the idea of being in a relationship to keep him mentally status quo.- nik
I had a similar situation and I am a guy i didnt like having sex with the girl I was with. She was smoking hot and a nympho but there was a problem her pussy smelled like week old fish left out in the sun she never noticed and when I said something she got sad but did nothing about it. So if he likes other things from you but hates accually f***ing you maybe you should take a look down there.
Yo your girl probably had Bacterial Vaginosis which smells like a dead fishy smell! iF it smells the strogest after sex it’s for sure BV. 100% treatable you just have to go to the doctor. AND it doesn’t happen because of being unhygenic, sometime the cat just gets upset, douching, playing with unwashed toys or scented soaps can cause this. LISTEN LADIES IF YOUR STUFF EVER SMELLS LIKE THAT GO TO A DOCTOR RIGHT AWAY OR YOUR MAN WILL RUN THE OTHER WAY!!!!
Or…it could be this. Have you ever seen the Sex and the City episode where Charlotte’s rich husband won’t have sex with her? She caught him jacking off to porn but he still wouldn’t have sex with her. There could be something psychological going on with him. You should leave him.
Its cause ur ugly as hell look at him he is probably a ten u zero
Maybe he’s gay? Could be he’s got herpes and can’t make it with you? Or maybe you just don’t do it for him? Anyway, dump his’ ass.
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it’s one of three things 1) he’s gay 2) he’s on drugs, most likely opiates which decrease your sex drive significantly 3) what nik said.
I’m in a very similar situation but flip flopped. I’m a girl who never has sex with her bf. I care for him, but I’m totally not sexually aroused by him. I tell him I’m never in the mood and even told him we could have an open relationship. If you’re truly in love, you wouldn’t want the other person to be with anyone else and wouldn’t even contemplate being in an open relationship. I sleep with other people on the side.. never my bf and when we initiates, I get angry just like your bf does. He’s definitely sleeping with people on the side. Without a healthy sex life, the relationship will go nowhere. I say break up with him (since there’s a 99.9% chance he’s cheating anyway) and find someone who enjoys sex with you.. and everything else about you!
Ur both fuked
Your dude is probably gay….. No normal guys don’t want to have sex, they want it all the time!!!!!
Get his testosterone level checked. I went through this same thing. It made a huge difference to be on trt therapy
I have this same problem with my boyfriend but he smoke a lot of pot.. So this may be the problem
falls asleep before I do… Also because of the pot smoking he has a lack of motivation and has worked as a server for the past 5 years we have been together and doesn’t make very much money.. Also gets very moody when he doesn’t smoke.. He is very loving at other times and is my beat friend but between the lack of sex, lack of work motivation and rudeness at unnecessary times.. Any opinions.. Stay or go? I’m 22, have a great job, awesome car (which he tries all the f*cking time!) and am a decent looking girl so I know I could meet someone else easily.. So should I stay and see how things go or see whoelse is out there?
Life is too short why put up with nonsense?
I’m with a hottie but have a new belly that I’ve never had before so I’m not that excited to show it off in front of her. Doesn’t mean I don’t want it with her. Could be the reason?
It doesn’t matter WHY he won’t have sex with you. Time to move on, simple as that. And “Open-relationship” is paradox, quit lying to yourself, you already know the answer. Maybe he’ll be more honest if you show yourself a little honesty.
He can’t get a boner when he’s around you….TRUTH!
sounds about right. Saying he is gay is the easy, but wrong, answer. More than likely he isn’t gay. You just don’t turn him on and he doesn’t want to tell you. And one other thing, I’ve noticed a gf who plumps up and thinks you are unattracted to her will try and use lingerie to seduce you. A not to girls with bad cellulite or rolls. DON’T WEAR LINGERIE! It makes you look even worse and grosses us out even further! Maybe pull your shirt down instead of up so you can cover the rolls and leave the titties exposed.
Oh she is probley ugly my guy always wants me usually guys cant get it up because the girl looks like shit
he is gay
She is ugly face it
Do you take care of yourself? I love my girlfriend but I’ve been dating her so long that we only do it maybe once a week, max. She’s plumped up some though and now has a lot of cellulite. Now that I’m older and matured I am more in it for the companionship. I am very aroused by women who show interest in me, but I would never cheat. I think half of it is because she is in bad shape and I’m in good shape. The other half is that you get used to each other. Over time you want to try something new. Regardless, if you have a great companion and love being with them, weigh your options. It may be worth taking less sex if it means having a balanced and meaningful life. It’s harder and harder to find good people out there. Good sex is easy to offend but is not the answer to a happy life. Society has brainwashed us to think it’s the most important thing. It’s not. BTW, I’m tall, muscular, and a I have a big dick. So don’t write my comments off based on some bullsh*t. Think about it.
i’m 23 yr old male that was impotent from ages 18-22 for these reasons: low self esteem in bed, lack of experience(thanks to all these demanding sl*ts that te women-feminist movement created), i shaved my pubic area in term caused infection and irritation, and heavy smoking. Thought I was gay because i couldnt get/keep an errection while having monogomous sex! Long story short, I finally met a urban girl that is not a hoe and I finally got exerienced. I am definitely straight now.
Dude.. it’s called denial. If you ever question it, you’re probably gay. Nothing wrong with being gay though, it’s just who you are.
Personally, as a straight guy, i have never even questioned being gay once. I think it’s one of those things you are or you’re not. Nothing changes that.
How do you know he’s not sleeping with someone else? Most likely, he IS, or he is mentally in the process of breaking up with you. He’s probably looking around right now for someone better, or already has someone in mind, but doesn’t want to lose what he’s got until he is totally sure.
HELL I HAVE NEVER TURNED DOWN SEX
My boyfrined is a fucking dick he doesnt wanna have sex with me either.. I dont know wtf is wrong with him! I think that fucker is gay.
Im in the same boat! Not even for my birthday which was yesterday! I’m really sick of the rejection too bc I try to flirt w him… Talk dirty… Offer oral first. I’ve seen the girls he was with before me… They r nothing special so I can’t imagine it’s that I’m not hot enough He used to be a booty call before bf actually. We’ve been seeing each other over a year & the only explanation he gives is we fight a lot & that makes him not “feel” like doing it. Yet he watches porn all the time & stares at other girls so clearly he has testosterone. I feel like he is punishing me by not sleeping w me & creating this drama that he doesn’t want it when he will be sitting there with a hard on rejecting me. The thing is the fighting is bc he is always getting pissed at me. He’s like a frigid old woman who just needs to get fucked. If we fucked more I but he would be less angry all the time… He’s pent up. It’s unnecessary bc I am always willing to please him but he won’t let me. I’ve thought of playing hard to get but he is really jealous so flirting will not peek his interest just piss him off further. I really can’t do anything but wait for he mood to strike him & it seems totally unfair! I pay all our bills & he is always giving me a hard time. I just wish he would go to counseling with me bc I know we could work out our issues but again no he won’t. He’s not giving us a chance to work things… So I’m just at a loss. Please advise.
This is an old post by the looks of it! But Ima reply to it hoping that someone of similar experience can see. I am a guy.
Ladies, if a guy does not want to have sex with you there is a HUUUUGE problem – hear me out. He is just not into you sexually (The honest truth from experience). We “men” after seeing you do any sort of sexual thing to us no matter what kind of state you are in (fat, ugly, too skinny, ugly) we will need to fill that need of sex unless we are getting it elsewhere (masturbation, other girls). If you are wondering why he does not perform sex to you ask him, does he masturbate or involve himself with other and why he doesn’t do it with you.
Your thing in-between your legs has the key to open many doors for yourself no matter what type of person you are and I have found that out over many years of experience. You can use this to make large amounts of cash or to tease guys to understand who are trustworthy.
If you are looking for a long relationship don’t offer that piece of merchandise so easily, it is the only defense you have against those whom want a quick lay.
Ladies if you are looking for the one; don’t offer yourself so quickly. Masturbate before you go out on a date to stop the urge and never carry condoms on you. If a guy truly cares about you he will ask you why you aren’t performing sexual acts with him. Men, the ones worth getting in a longterm relationship with unless you want to wear the boots, will tell you how it is straight up and honestly. There will lots of emotions and complications if this guy does care about you but that is just what comes with relationships and also what you look for in a guy.
Basically, too all the girls/ladies out there don’t offer yourself so easily to guys whom you are looking for long a term relationship with. In the end it, unless he talks to you about sex or other guys with you over a period of time, he ends up sexing up some random chick behind your back.
It’s just how the world works with men.. just to fill the void. Out of the many guys in this world, I know, I will never do anything behind her back but sadly, there many… many others who will. Be hesitate and keep your morales first before your satisfaction.
Make him wonder.Example: my man leaves dnt wanna say where hes goin I say”ok baby”,yea Im bothered but I bite my tongue!He goes comes right back but he comes home and says “I gotta watch you” ive said NOTHING a mystery woman is sexy over time people forget how to make him wonder! It turns him on after all this time…In closing nobody should be feeling like they are not desired in anyrelationships,friends,coworkers,siblings etc. so leave if it happens because its not a relationship at that point.People you must understand we all will mess up over the course of forever with our SOS so know before you go to My boo status…IT TAKES WORK WORK WORK,COMPROMISE, and FORGIVENESS
Make him wonder.Example: my man leaves dnt wanna say where hes goin I say”ok baby”,yea Im bothered but I bite my tongue!He goes comes right back but he comes home and says “I gotta watch you” ive said NOTHING a mystery woman is sexy over time people forget how to make him wonder! It turns him on after all this time…In closing nobody should be feeling like they are not desired in anyrelationships,friends,coworkers,siblings etc. so leave if it happens because its not a relationship at that point.People you must understand we all will mess up over the course of forever with our SOS so know before you go to My boo status…IT TAKES WORK WORK WORK,COMPROMISE, and FORGIVENESS