Tell Me What To Do
THE DIRTY ARMY: I need your advice, Mr. Richie. In many circumstances, I disagree with the way that you treat people, but this time I need your brutal honesty to save my relationship. My fiance is the love of my life. Him and I worked very hard to be together including changing cities and careers to make it work. I’ve got a serious problem. So far, I consider myself to be averagely pretty with a curvy (about 125 pounds at 5’8”) figure. The issue is that want to be very pretty, but every time I suggest having “work done” to my fiance like getting breast implants, having a lip augmentation, ext., he always vehemently disagrees. He pleads with me not to. Please don’t misunderstand, we have plenty of money. I work very hard and so does he. I talk constantly about getting “work done” so that I feel prettier, but he says that I’m beautiful just the way I am, and that he would be very upset if I attempted to change anything. I know that I’m pretty, but I know that with I little bit of work done, I could be very sexy. But here is the REAL issue: Lately, we haven’t been having sex. I mean NO SEX. No sexual contact of any kind. I beg for it, but he just isn’t interested. My first idea was that he was cheating on me, but believe me when I say that it is an impossibility. He has no time for it. I’ve dated cheating men, I’m not an idiot. He isn’t cheating. We are either at work or together. If I had to guess, I would say that it is because he is too tired or depressed. I’m trying, I swear. I’m always asking if he would like a blow-job, ext., but he just thanks me and apologizes. Is it me? Is it him? I love him and I know that he loves me. We’re so solid. We’re so happy. What do I do? I just want to feel sexy again. Everyone else I’ve dated, I’ve had to fight off constantly. How can he be so uninterested in sex and yet when I suggest making myself sexier, he seems to be totally against it? Like I said, I usually think that you are too harsh but this time I know that I need your honesty. I just want him to want me again. Tell me what to do and I’ll do it. Please don’t post my personal pictures. I’ll die. To Nik Richie Only: I submitted a photo of myself in a bikini this summer (I’m sorry that it isn’t good quality), a photo of my face, and a photo for you to post on the website. FYI: I’m a brunette with a 34B bust, 25 inch waist, 36 inch hip, no gap between my thighs, cellulite that I’m trying very hard rid of, and no tan because I don’t want skin cancer. I wish I could look like Shayne. I’m begging you, don’t post the pictures of me. I swear to God I’m not a sh*t head. I work so f*cking hard at not being a sh*t head. I just want to be happy. Please.
My honest answer is that you need to be selfish. Sex in a relationship is based on love and need. In my mind when the sex ends so does the relationship. From what I have read he is not your soulmate and only a friend says, “you are perfect and don’t need work done”. I personally think you need 3 separate procedures. Email me to discuss [email protected]- nik
If he isn’t interested in you sexually there is something wrong with him not you. He is your fiance, and men are usually wanting their woman a lot. You’re supposed to make yourself happy from the inside. Changing your looks by getting breast implants and what not, to me, is really dumb. No matter what anyone says you are beautiful the way you are. You need to be confident and happy with who you are. You don’t need any work done, no matter who you are.
Put her pictures up more bait
Somethimg wrong with her she is ugly my guy and i r in live he always pokes up and shows ne off ur guy probly doesnt want to be shown around u
My man always wants me and always pops up for me whats wrong with a woman that cant get a man to pop up
Lol u cant get a guy to pop up ha omg hilarous just like this post
Put ur pictures up ill tell u why ur guys not popping up im a guy above 10 abd gets all the hottest girls and i no fa a fact if a girls hot a guy will pop up
Have you every asked him WHY he’s not interested in sex? Did he just turn off or did things gradually decrease? All that comes across in your post is insecurity because the man you’re going to marry tells you he loves you the way you are but you won’t believe it. And what if you do get the surgery and everything stays the same? Have you considered that? The last place you need to be seeking relationship advice is from Nik Richie, who bases everything on how a woman looks (or at least projects himself like that).
Well put! Although I think Nik generally gives good advice. Why the sudden need to look better? Why not embrace the relationship and communicate with him.
Nik doesn’t give good advice, he’s a manipulative misogynist who gets off by ruining women’s self-esteem.
nooooo is right. Your an idiot if you even remotely listen to Nik’s advice.
he’s probably jerking off a bit to much. Check his browser history. Maybe buy some sexy outfit shave the legs do the hair and see if he bites if not then there is def something up
Ya right he isnt turned on by ur ugly self people r trying to spare ur feelings
instead of breast augmentations, spend the money on some psychiatric counseling sessions. you appear to have a man that loves you just the way you are. the only one with an issue in not loving themselves, is you.
sorry for the honesty, but you asked
I agree with the statment above, I know someone who actually just got out of a 6 year relationship today because she lost all this weight and started showing off… and he really did just like her the way she is. Sometimes like girls, guys go through phases where they are just not in the mood, the more you pester… they prob will not want too. He will come around, trust me, just have some confidence and let this pass over
I hope you seriously do not listen to this douche bag Nik! If you do, then you are a sh*t head & an idiot. he has a freaking crater face. I am sure his wife only got with him so she could get “famous.” No REAL self respecting woman would marry such a douche,
what are you talking about, Shayne is more famous than Nik. you’re the idiot.
Haha idiot.
First off get him to have a blood test for his testosterone levels….easiest thing to look at and fix.
You would be shocked how often thats what it is.
You sound like a loser !
She is a looser
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That’s a terrible feeling -I’ve been there. After having a very healthy sex life my (ex husband) was no longer interested in me. I tried everything and well, the whole thing is shaming. I knew he wasn’t cheating, but I also knew we weren’t having sex. As it turns out, and unbeknownst to me he was addicted to Oxycontins. For some guys, it decreases their sex drive and/or their ability to perform or want to perform. And like Nick said, when the sex ends or doesn’t improve, unfortunately so does the relationship. You deserve to be wanted and needed not only mentally, but physically. It’s so important! Anyway, look into the pill thing, you never know. I hope everything works out!
I can absolutely verify pain killers such as Vicodin, Percocet, Oxy’s & the like decrease sex drive w a man.
Ummmm come on!!! Shes begging to give bj and he says no and it’s HER insecurity?!?!?! No, it’s him. Something is up and relationship seems done.
Honestly, it could be your low self esteem. If he thinks your beautiful the way you are, why can’t you accept that? Constantly talking about changing your body can be a major turn off to some people.
Nope. You’re all wrong. Here it is.
“We are either at work or together. ”
Space is key. I can love someone.. and think they’re sexy.. but if it’s always there.. it’s just undesirable. So stop worrying about him.. do what YOU want to make you feel beautiful and sexy.. (spend time away from him..) trust me.. when you feel confident and hot.. and when you aren’t so readily available.. he’ll be much more interested.. and make sure to make him work for it.. part of the thrill is the chase.
Or he says he is at work when he is really at play.
Riiiight
that’s what I was thinking too. You never know these days. I knew/heard of a handful of men who claimed they were at “work” when they were actually messing around. Something is definitely up.
Sometimes, in relationship when you have been together for a while the fizzle starts to… well fizzle out. not because a lack of LOVE. but you just need a little bit of “spice” Take him to a Sex shop!!! Pick out some great things he would love!!! Man toys!!! get that spice back in there!! that hot sauce!!! It has nothing to do with you, from what you described you are beautiful, and he is probably right. you have nothing to change about yourself!! and the only person who likes fake ass b*tches, is NiK richie, so your asking the WRONNNGGG person. I mean.. look at his wife? gorgeous… but plastic. HAHA lets see if he even posts this cause of how bitch he is about putting himself on here. Nik is an idiot and has no idea what REAL beauty is. if he did… well f*ck that argument we all know he doesnt. Keep true to yourself, natural beauty is the best beauty – embrace yourself!!! Embrace the beautiful body and face and everything else you were born with!!! Your man loves you for a reason!! and your not the only one to loose a little fizzle, it happens in ever long term relationship, just gotta figure out some ways to get the fizzle back . without turning into a barbie as nik would probably suggest.
Best of luck!!! & wishes xox
Ok moron. You know nothing. You’ve never had a boyfriend??? Commitment?? Men love blow jobs, love em! A sexy nightie is a waste. Unless you give a bj wearing it. Niks is soooo the wrong person yet here u r! Nik knows beauty, by knowing pit fat is wrong. Lol
Hey “Girl, please” is my name on here! I didn’t post that! Or was a drunk and mean last night? Ooops! Lol
Nik Richie would be perfect for achieving perfection but to get to the source of your problems with your fiance, you should call Dr.Drew, he has a radio station, google it and seriously after listening to that radio station for like 3 years, ive realized your type of question is right up his alley. Like what if your fiance is cheating on you? Maybe thats why he doesnt want any?
He might be depressed. Possible thyroid issue. Maybe he thinks of you as more of a friend now. Talk to him, if that doesn’t work, go to couples counselling. Don’t quit until you have exhausted all avenues. People give up on relationships to soon these days.
He tells you not to get enhancements because he’s not interested in you any more and he doesn’t want to feel responsible for you making those serious changes when your relationship ends. He doesn’t want you to use that against him.
Sounds like a dumb bitch I know from Vegas.
That sounded just like my boyfriend till he had his testosterone levels checked, and the dr. said it was the lowest he had every seen. it causes depression, lack of energy, no sex drive, erectile dysfunction and other stuff too. many reasons cause it, so it is not uncommon. please google it and try to convince him to go get it checked. i know guys can be stubborn and embarrassed, but if he is low, he will totally thank you!
You are an idiot… Please don’t reproduce, there are enough incompetent people already.
Sweetie???
Walk.
You have to make YOU happy — if you want a little work done, go for it, dammit! This is YOUR life and you own it!
With the man in your life; tell him to have his testosterone levels checked. Seriously, it may be too low.
You’ll get through all this and you’ll be more than fine!
Tell me what to do????????
First of all, you should see yourself for who and what you really are: some dumb pimped out whore brainwashed by the MSM who is promiscuous as hell,which is 100% GUARANTEED where you and all the sodomites are going, eternal torment is your thing, I guess!
Your “fiance” HAHAHAHA = word for f*ck buddy is all.
Repent or face the WRATH of (gentle) Jesus!!!
John 3:36 He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him.
WHERE ARE THE PICS? SHE GAVE PICS TO BE POSTED WHY ARENT THEY POSTED?
it doesn’t matter WHY he doesn’t want to have sex, he’s not putting out then you need to dip. it’s sounds shallow, especially coming from a girl, but like Nik said sex is important in relationships, it’s important for our mental health.
don’t go under the knife though, i dont care what you look like. your boyfriend doesn’t want you to get surgery because relationships are more than looks. sure, theyre about looks initially because hey that’s what draws us to our significant other in the first place. but when you wake up to the same face every day, personality and confidence becomes more important to sustain a good relationship. confidence is sexy, as cliche as it sounds…
AND SEX IS GLORIOUS so you need to smack his d*ck back into shape or gtfo of there.