Nik, I Don’t Know What To Do
THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I would like to know your thoughts on my situation. I recently found out I am pregnant by a man I have been seeing for 6 months. Neither one of is are into drugs or the club scene. We are about the same ages as you and Shayne. He doesn’t want me to keep it but I feel super guilty even thinking about doing that. I feel like I am taking responsibility and doing what is right. Am I wrong for keeping this child? Am I ruining 3 lives?
Keep it. Don’t ever let a man dictate your life, you are not a slave.- nik
wow. thats the first thing nik has said that i agree with. ever.
If that is YOUR picture you are Way To Young to have a baby, YOU are a baby yourself
ahhahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahha
Truth.
If it is White, Flush It!! Black keep it.
brb, asking a guy who bashes people for a living, help on a baby situation…. do whats best for you, the father, and the baby itself. if youc ant support a baby, and give it a good life, may aswell not force it to live one that wont be to the fullest… but if you feel you can give it a fulfilling life, then proceed.
This is the first time i’ve agreed with you Nik!
Press is so cute!! Look at that little face…awww.
why is the childs picture posted
Keep it. It’s a BLESSING to have a child. I know quite a few people who can’t have kids and it’s very painful for them. If I could, I would have my own child but I too am infertile. Heck, I know my boyfriend would love to have with me right now too.
oh, nik–i’m at a loss for words…………………………..WOW, what a precious little ANGEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!what a pretty, pretty girl!!!!!! i can hardly wait until you tape her talking–please do it STAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!wishing you and shayne and pressy a long, fruitful, and healthy life!!!!everyone in the family must be PISSING themselves in delight!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am sure the Ritchie family appriciates your foul worded comment.
Clean up Greek, find god in your life, you need it.
“pissing” is not a swear word and i DO believe in God–my God doesn’t doesn’t judge, too bad yours does.
btw, clean up Toad, find a non-judgmental God in your life (you must be a barrell of laughs and fun!!), and learn how to spell, LOZAAAA…………………………f’ing CHOIRBOY FAGGOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Greek Goddess, you have NO LIFE. You spend all day and night on this website, with your lips firmly attached to Nik’s butthole. You’re CRAZY. You must think that you’re friends with him or something. Seriously, calling his kid “Pressy”? Get a life!
yes, i am crazy but not in the way that you think so FAK OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ps. i can call nik’s daughter pressy if i want to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What is wrong w/ you, you dumb bitch? Don’t you have anything in your life to occupy you, rather sitting on this site, day after day, trying to be “friends” with Nik? You are so pathetic. Phew!
i am not trying to be friends with ANYONE, don’t you get it?? STOP OBSESSING OVER ME!!!!!!
GG – You are an idiot.
your gut feeling is telling you something for a reason.. follow what you feel. it’s your life and not one elses dont let anyone ever dictate your decisions if he doesnt want a part of the child then screw him plenty of women do not need a man to help them with a child. do what makes u feel best before anything
serious cuteness OVERLOAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!i don’t know where to look and admire first: the chubby dimpled wittle hands?? the heart-shaprd mouth?? the big, beautiful baby-head??the eyes?? WOW, what a cute baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!it’s raining in dirtypeg and i was starting to feel a migraine coming on, but the total RUSH of endorphins while looking at this little picture/gift took care of that!! much happiness and health!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good to see women are logical about big decisions like this and don’t let emotion cloud their judgement.
Sh cute, but nothing special. Grow the hell up GG. Stop trying to suck Niks dick.
i have nothing to prove and nothing to gain by kissing nik’s butt. did it ever occur to you that perhaps i am spontaneously and honestly expressing my emotions?? man, you guys are soooooo tight–NO WONDER alcoholism and drug addiction run rampant in today’s society–F’ING LIGHTEN UP, TIGHTWADS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Flush it! We don’t need anymore people in this country!
Abort it…..better to be dead than miserable.
Your an idiot, too bad your mom didn’t abort you. Or maybe she abandoned you and that is why you have no brain.
It’s too bad YOU weren’t aborted.. Everyone should get a chance to live life, you selfish pig!
when did she ever indicate that keeping it would be miserable…i actually think she did the opposite. give this chick some respect for really thinking about this and wanting to do the right thing for HER emotional well being. plus, another human life.
whos that cute little baby?
Lol, the fact that you are turning to Nik Richie for advice on the internet shows your deep seeded immaturity. You are not ready to have a child anyways.
I completely agree with you, but I think the sill B* should have it and give it up for adoption to a couple who want and are more than prepared to raise a child…but it sure isn’t her, you’re more than right on that one.
“Keep it. Don’t ever let a man dictate your life…”
Says the man trying to literally dictate your life.
Gehrig what kind of a Russian name is that comrade?
It’s German.
Keep it, we have to increase the size of the white race.
LOL!
my advice to you…if you have it in you to raise this baby all on your own then go for it…don’t lean on this so called man of yours…I have personal experience with this kind of situation but I was married… He faked lied that he was on the same page as me to have a baby …once a conceived he turned on me …being mentally abusive. I have been raising our son on my own while he’s out partying cheating..He drained me out so much that I got severely sick and ended up in the hospital….He still didn’t man up and started beating me in front of our child …after 4 years I finally had the courage to report to the police and got him arrested and removed out of the home…my child has suffered along with me from the time in my womb and still 6 years later is having nightmares…. so think about it
bull sh*t. if you keep it he shouldn’t have to pay anything, granted you’re both idiots for getting in this situation, you’ll be ruining 3 lives and most likely throw your child in the middle of it. but don’t worry cause i hope your kid is only half as messed up as you are.
You’re such a piece of shit. Leave this girl alone. I’d like to know more about you and why you’re such a judgmental unhappy idiot making horrible remarks about people.
OP, please don’t take advice from some of these people! Keep the baby! Even if your man leaves you, give this child a chance to be a strong wonderful person. Show this baby that even through the ugliest times in your life, you can succeed and become everything you were meant to be
Good luck to you and God Bless you and your baby!!
truth hurts, she is being selfish and not thinking of three people (herself, the dad, and the kid). If she want’s the kid and he doesn’t she should bear the full burden. In fact if she has the kid and he’s forced to pay HE’S THE VICTIM.
if they didn’t want to be in this situation they should have used the pull out method.
THIS. I really think there needs to be a way for men to have more say in these decisions. People are saying its your life, and that’s true, but it’s his too. if you refuse abortion, maybe consider adoption?
I’m floored that some dumb bitch seriously came to the dirty for advice on whether to KEEP A CHILD or not. Fcking people these days… there’s no hope for the human race.
you arent floored that some dumb bastard left a pregnant woman in the position where she’s so desperate for advice she came here?
put your disgust where it’s deserved. this poor woman doesnt need your judgement, though i’m sure you think you’re perfect.
That’s a terrific idea! Create another single parent home.
Yea, all we need is another bastard.
Single parent households will continue to be on the raise. Obviously the past couple generations had a very difficult time maintaining two parent households. If a single person can financially provide & be a positive role model, there is not a problem. I think most people would rather do things on their own… Instead of dealing with a worthless & childish partner. That’s just the way things are going…
Keep the baby,you are not 16 …it’s time to be a responsible adult now and do the right thing. The guy will eventually get on board and support your decision & if not take him to court
he’s not even a man !
^ SMH ^ Yea that’s it take him to court. Because that solves everything. NOT
Do not get an abortion. It is soul shattering. Nik is so right… Do not let this guy push you around. His reaction to the pregnancy shows his true character… If he isn’t supportive emotionally, make sure he takes financial responsibility. Go talk to an attorney & find support in your friends and family. I’ve been through the same ordeal & I wish I would have handled things much better… My heart is still broken.
You’re doing the right thing… Do not forget that!
Keep the baby, I did and it is the greatest gift ever. Your life will only get better.
AGREED. Focus on the positive things in life and fill your life with LOVE.
how f*cking selfish, suck resources and pollute so you could have a gift and better your life? What if the kid didn’t want to be born into this shitty world? What if it’s just more fresh meat for all the pedophiles out there to poke at and fondle with? Once you spawn, your life has been hijacked by the parasite growing inside of you.
how the hell is that selfish?? my boyfriend was born to a single mother who was against all odds and she loved him better than almost any other parent i’ve witness. i think it is part of the reason why he is such a strong and loving man. and did any of us have the conscious decision whether we wanted to come into this world?? what kind of a dumb f*ck question is that? you need some serious perspective and emotion implemented in your life stat!
Keep that baby.
A baby deserves a whole family. Being a parent should be done with marriage. Your baby deserves the structure of a whole family & you should’ve have a kid just to try & keep a man around. Do you have a good job? Think about money for college& all the time a little baby needs. Don’t ruin a life to keep a man. Heaven is a much better place
Before everyone jumps on the old “the man is a shit bird due to the fact he does not want to have the child” train, why does he not want to keep the child? I have a feeling there are some hidden facts to this post.
Choosing to terminate a pregnancy in the earliest stages isn’t soul shattering, its being responsible. With that being said, if you’re immature enough to go to a website like this seeking life changing advice, you aren’t mature enough to have a child. Bringing a life into this world is a huge life changing decision that lasts a lifetime. I say have an abortion, and from now on make smarter sexual choices.
Agreed.
AGREED
I am shocked by the ignorant coments people make on here. I wish some of your parents would have aborted you. The fact that you would have complete lack of empathy for a young women going something like this is shocking. As for the person posting this, if the guy didn’t want to have a child he had the right to use a condom. I am only going to assume he didn’t. However he doesn’t have the right to make you have an abortion. You shouldn’t be guilted into parenthood but it should something you want. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like this isn’t YOUR descion. This is your right, your child. Make it based on what good for your baby and you. And if the father doesn’t want to be in his/her life then so be it. He will have to pay child support either way. He chose to have unprotected sex. I am so tired of guys and their desorted way of think when it comes to sex. They think that the “pull out” method works. Maybe next time he won’t be so careless.
“i wish some of your parents would have aborted you” wow that takes the cake for IGNORANT COMMENT.
Give the poor child up for adoption. Let some good family have their dream. Don’t be selfish and try to do this all alone. Don’t force you and your child into poverty by tring to do this task alone! The child deserves more than that!
If he doesn’t want a kid with you then don’t be shocked if he takes off. A man shouldn’t be a slave either just because the woman doesn’t take birth control. Plan a real pregnancy for yourself.
Well said.
keep it youll regret it later from personal experience as a woman youll mourn that loss for the rest of your life. on another note press is GORGEOUS!
Get an abortion. Your life will be ruined if you’re a single parent. Don’t expect this guy to do a turnaround and decide to stick with you. You’ll be broke, fat, miserable and alone. Every girl I know who’s a single mother hates her life.
You are an idiot. End of story.
Don’t have the baby. I don’t want my hard earned tax dollars going to another unwanted kid. If you need help pushing yourself down the stairs, feel free to ask.
wow, i feel horrible for this man. please go easy on him…
keep the baby you dont need a boy like that… and if you dont want it have it and change someone else’s life for the better…that cant have children
I’ve been thro this, its not an easy choice to make. I did what i thought i wanted and theres not a day that goes by that i dont regret it. Have the baby…dont listen to the A**
As a mother, now that I have my children I cannot imagine life without them. If you have to do it on your own-do it. Do you have a supportive family? If by all means you cannot $ support the baby, maybe consider adoption. I am pretty liberal on most things-but being pregnant in my opinion is one of those things that comes into your life for a reason. Oh, and screw that SOB that got you prego. There are good guys out there.
Im sorry for all the horrible things I have said
What a cutie pie!!! And I agree 100% with Nic, smartest thing you’ve ever said
Keep it, abortion is for whores.
Have your baby. You will never regret it. Good luck!
Unless u have a lot of $$$ don’t keep it, use a coat hanger!!
I would say to abort or put up for adoption, because he certainly does not want to spawn another human (good for him! at least he has respect for the planet)…If you have the child and keep it, then you’re both going to leech off of him and suck every dollar for the rest of your lives. It’s not fair, he didn’t want to be put in this situation, you should have taken your birth control. Stop reproducing you disgusting animals, you’re stealing food from hungry nations by farming on their land and taking the food back to your greedy populations right in front of their eyes, and causing poverty for half the global population! And destroying natural habitats for humans and other species with your f*cking pollution. Abort it, lady. Especially if you’re a white skinned blood sucker. Last thing the world needs is another white man if it’s a boy.
How about him using a condom? You sanctimonious asshole.
Amazing words!!
Hell yes!!!!
I was in the same situation a Lil’ over 10 yrs ago and I told my ex–with you or without she is mine(before I even knew it was a girl)! I was a single mom and I can say my daughter drove me to do better and I didn’t live off the government and didn’t get child support for 3 yrs. 10 yrs laters I am happily married and severed my ex’s rights a yr ago and saving now so my husband can adopt our daughter per her request. Keep strong because you will have your ups and downs, but keep on pushing forward and try to plan ahead!
Hey sweetheart. Same thing happened to me, I’m now the mother of a beautiful 3 year old girl. Everyone is completely in love with her, including her father (who softened during the pregnancy when he felt her kicking his hand and has been totally involved ever since) and his family.
Standing up to him and saying I’d raise a child alone if i had to was the scariest thing I’ve ever done.
My love for my unborn child, and what I felt in my heart was right, made the choice for me.
A baby is a blessing, mine definitely is. It won’t be easy, but i promise promise PROMISE you it will be worth it.
Get rid of the baby, and off yourself while you’re at it. People who seriously go to Nik for life advice have no hope for the future and under no circumstances should procreate.
kill him the baby and move to Cancun
Yeah…. Do you need a napkin to clean yourself up Greek goddess? The over the top fawning compliments are getting uncomfortable and stakeresq? Yeah I just made that word up.
I dont want to live on this planet anymore…
I’m almost 13weeks pregnant and my situation is very similar except we’ve been together a few extra months. He didn’t want me to keep it either but I don’t think I could of lived with myself if I had an abortion. Last week my boyfriend told me he was happy I didn’t get one
He will get use to the idea of it and be happy that you kept the baby….
the baby is soooo cute good for u for keeping her
Everyone who says, “Definitely keep it! You will NEVER regret it!” is a lying single mother who cries every day because she can’t find a man who wants to deal with the drama of a child that isn’t his. Everyone who says, “Definitely abort!” assumes you are poor and stupid because you posted this on TheDirty, and simply wants to avoid another impoverished child being brought into the world. The reality is somewhere in between. If you keep the child and end up raising it solo you WILL have days when you wish you didn’t. You WILL be lonely because it will be 100 times harder for you to meet and keep a decent man. If you abort you WILL have regrets and always wonder what it would have been like. Guess what? You didn’t use proper contraception and now you will have negative consequences no matter what. It’s time to pick your poison.
BEST. COMMENT. EVER.
Snoggies: You sound like a miserable, bitter pos! I have plenty of friends that found amazing guys that accept their gf’s kids. You make it sound like EVERY single mother won’t ever get a man because of their child or, I’m sure in your mind “bastard child”. Some of these comments are so small minded and ignorant I couldn’t stop laughing when reading them. Sending negative feedback like that shows your miserable person. Seek help and never give advice. What a used and abused twat you are. LOL! You’re pathetic!
You lie. I have a single mother living at my family house. I want nothing to do with her or her child. Why? She sucks.
Don’t let a man dictate your life? Says Nik, who dictates every chick how she should look like.
You sir, win at life.
Awesome.
Is that press? Looks just like her dad…..
Keep it. It’s the most amazing experience a woman could ever imagine. It changes you as a person for the better! I lost my baby in the last trimester and I was kind of on my own. I still wouldn’t trade the experience and would do it again in a heart beat.
like several others, i agree that this is one of the best/most upstanding answers you’ve given to a post. i’m glad to see you cherish human life…i always worried what i would do if the same issue happened to me (even though i’m on birth control)….i feel like i would be contemplating the same things as this poor girl. sh*t happens. doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or that you wont love your baby. the love of my life was a so called “mistake” when his mother was 20 and, against all odds and others wishes, she decided to keep him. he grew up into the most amazing man i have ever met and she is so proud of him. follow your heart! as far as those criticizing this woman as being an attention seeking, baby producing whore….you must be very callous. she is clearly contemplating whats best for her child, not herself. i am never one to advocate for reckless sex and procreating but this girl seems to be very sad and wanting to be a good mother. i hope she does what she feels in her heart! good luck
People should stop being so judgemental. We do not know this lady’s full situation. Maybe she is financially stable, maybe she was on.birthcontrol (it does fail sometimes) maybe shes asked a lot of people for advice and thought one more person (nik) wouldn’t hurt. Can we stop assuming we know and throwing out such judgementful words. Instead give her some real advice. This is your body this will affect you your parner and the baby. Can you handle all the ups as well as the many downs. Especially if doesnt stick with you. You have 3 options abortion, adoption, or keeping it. In the end its about the baby what will be the best choice. Sit down by yoyrself and reallg think this through please
Just because Nik comments on the way he thinks the female race should look when people come to him does not make him unintelligent even in the slightest.
Regardless of what the guy says it is your decision in the long run, if he doesn’t want it then don’t make him have anything to do with your child but be able to support the child to the fullest potential before raising it somewhere unhealthy.
Your the only one that will truly have to live with the decision you make.
That is so funny. 1st, kill yourself for comming to a site like this and asking for advice like that. Your a loser. 2nd, Nik says not to let a man dictate what you do, then tells you what to do. HA, damn your a retard, end it now so you don’t polute the gene pool with another retard like yourself.
keith,
before you insult someone…know the difference between “you’re” and “your”.
There’s nothing wrong with getting an abortion especially if you are not ready to be a devoted parent, and the father booked out of your life.
If you are NOT ready to be a good parent, please get rid of it. Who knows what kind of asshole you may unleash on the community at large.
ABORTION IS MURDER!!! DON’T KILL A BEAUTIFUL BABY.
yes, you will ruin 3 lives. neither of you sound ready. wait til you both are. then the 3 lives will be better off.
If HE doesn’t want it and you do, then let him off the hook and dont make him pay child support, ever hear about it, or have anything to do with it. THEN and only then is nik’s answer correct.
LMAO!!! Really?! Umm…No. It took 2 people to get the female knocked up. First of all, a woman can do w/e the hell she wants to do w/ her body. Secondly, if he got her pregnant he should suffer the consequences of her decision. Put his ass on child support! The best payback you could give him if he makes your pregnancy your problem. You guys are a trip! HAHA!
100TH COMMENT SWVGGIN ON YOU HOES
keep it forget what anyone says a child only bring happiness and beautiful moments to come congrats
To the OP,
This is a hard situation to be in; I know because I have been there. Do not base your decision on opinions expressed on the internet. You need to be real with yourself. Can you afford to possibly raise a child on your own and if you decide to terminate, can you live with that decision without regret?
The only way to come abut the right answer for you is to take an introspective approach. And if you do decide to terminate, be open to therapy.
I ended up terminating because I knew with my health issues, I could not raise a kid on my own and I did not want to burden my bf at the time or make his life miserable with an unwanted child. After the termination I shut down emotionally, and that guy and I broke up one and a half months later.
Nobody really knew just how hugely the whole situation effected me; by day I was holding down a full time job and volunteering my time to a not-for profit, local campaign, but by night I was getting wasted and going on long jogs til 3 am in the morning in an attempt to sober up and get my mind off things. I became openly bitter towards people and no longer cared about the feelings of others.
Although I still feel the best decision was made, a part of me still regrets it and I’m still dealing with the depression and anxiety that I’ve developed as a result. There’ll always be a catch 22 with any choice you make.
give it up for adoption, I want your baby. Give it to me before Angie takes it away!
That is not your baby. Stop feeling guilty.
Don’t keep the baby. You obviously aren’t taking its needs into consideration at this earliest stage. Thinking about the guy you’re with’s feelings over maternal instincts for your baby is a massive red flag to me. You’re still either at a very selfish stage in life or so wrapped up in the person that you’re with that you are willing to neglect a human life that will need you for EVERYTHING. That’s what the choices are there for. Keep living the life you’re living. You’re not ready.