I’m A Girl That Needs Some Help
THE DIRTY ARMY: Dear Nik, I am a 17 year old girl with a very rough past which includes loosing my virginity at 14, Developing a drug problem, and having naked pictures sent around my school freshman year. Now I can’t blame this on bad parenting because I come from a wealthy family with good values, for some reason I thought doing blow and having orgy’s at 15 was the cool thing to do. Thankfully I know now that it is completely f*cked up which is why I am writing to you. I discovered your website last summer which really gave me the push to get clean and leave behind all my sl*tty f*cked up friends. Although I am doing a lot better, have good grades, a good relationship with my family, and a healthy life style, I need advice on how to stay on this path. I have no social life because I don’t yet trust myself to say no to drugs and alcohol while I am out. It is also really hard making friends with nice, respectable people or finding a quality boyfriend at my highschool because everybody still remembers me as a sl*tty druggie. I have relapsed twice this year due to this, I feel as if I have no support system, and nobody to turn to. I am a cute girl and should have the world at my fingertips so why can’t I keep it together? I feel as if I am wasting away my teenage years hiding away because I don’t know how to act as a regular person. How can I develop a normal lifestyle away from the sleezy drugs and partying?
Your environment is everything. The more people look at you and whisper, the more pressure you will always be under. Create a new path in a new enviroment. Ask your parents to send you away to a new school and new life. You don’t have demons, you have enablers.- nik
nik gave you great advice, change environment, live healthy take yoga classes and don’t date until you find i guy that wants you for something more than sex. Studdy and you will feel better if your marks are great, volunteer somewhere… Respect yourself, and love your self don’t damage your body don’t ruin yourself.
Nik is so right…you need a do-over in a different environment.
FAKE SELF POST!!!!
Good advice except for one thing… YOU have to change first before a new environment will help.
My 28 year old daughter has seriously wrecked her life (all my fault, of course) and yes, she talks about moving and starting over.
OK. Starting over and doing what???
Still actin’ a fool??
Well. Good luck with that, Einstein.
Drug addiction is a disease. Easy advice to give someone to just stop doing drugs. Most people can’t even quit with help.
Mazel Tov to you Nik- for giving good advice and not Racist Ignorant spew. Addiction is a problem and should be taken seriously.
Probably the most sincere and helpful thing you have ever said on this website Nik.
More and More girls in Toronto are becoming blow heads, its a sad sad truth. You have your whole life ahead of you. Dont fall into this bullshit “night industry” trap, its all a bunch of coke heads, and whores. Keep clean, and while they may hate you know, just know that eventually they will see the real you. Im proud of you, keep your head up.
I understand everything you are saying. You need someone you can count on who will be there for you. You need a Black Man to help you get your life together. A Black Man will take care of you and protect you, he will be there when you need someone and not hurt you. Just think of all the White people who used you and made you do things you shouldnt of done. A Black Man will never do that. It is a fact that Black Men are more stable and will protect you. Find a Black Man tonite and start your perfect life.
KOAB pls stop being full of shit.
Yeah cause you know what they say, “once you go black, you’ll never get child-support payments back.”
So true. Just think about all the fatherless black kids. . . That about sums up a black man.
Pimp
the best advice nik has ever given
I’m so sick of these fake posts that this staff makes up. Get a life you queers trying to make it seem like this site helps women, please….
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oh wow. nik the puke said something I agree with!
listen to niks advice. i was doing this back in my hometown and then i was sent away… to clean up my act.. YOUR ENVIRONMENT IS EVEYRTHING
I basically went through the same thing in highschool. It was very hard to make new friends and even now I feel I have less friends then ever. I’m off any drugs though and I don’t feel like I need them anymore. I’m in university and it’s very hard for me to make friends because everything is so fast paced. Since I didn’t have any good friends from highschool I came here with no one. I know what your going through. But really in the end it feels good knowing your not out there doing stupid shit.
Don’t scare yourself into not making friends! A lot of people are open to new friends and if they’re not, then you don’t want somebody like that anyway. I’ve never done drugs, I’m not a big drinker, I don’t go out. Because of this a lot of people don’t consider me a close friend (because I’m not out with them every second night). But I DO have close friends, only enough to count on one hand. And that’s enough for me, because they’re all GOOD friends. What I would really recommend to you would be to join a club, or get a hobby. It’s a great way to meet people with the same interests as yourself.
This is thee best advice if ever seen this site give.
My basement seems to be the answer to everyone’s problems lately!
Look at the post for SAIRA B
wow this has got to be my favourite post & ADVICE on this site thus far
NIK SHUT UP DUDE YOUR SITE SUCKS AND IT IS DEGRADING, STOP TRYING TO MAKE IT LOOK LIKE IT DOES ANYTHING BENEFICIAL
the stuffy nose, the lack of energy, the shivers, the fevers, the hungrinees, lack of appetite, not being able to eat a piece of bread because it felt painful, like it was scratching my throat. and above all, the depression the next day. oh my god the depression, the weird impulsive behaviour, the urge to smoke cigarettes like crazy, just because of the high. cocaine makes cigarette smokers, who don´t even smoke that much, smoke a lot more while being high. My lungs feeling shitty for the rest of the week.My lips turning purple because of the lack of oxygen and too much nicotine. the panic attacks, the lack of sleep.
…..ughhhhhh those are all things I truly do not miss. god knows those are things i do not miss. oh and getting kicked out of every job.
um..yeah….SERIOUSLY .get off it now……while you can. or expect all of those things i just mentioned.urning with the sun light…the list could go on….
your eyes b
this is fake because in canada there is no such thing as a “freshman year”
Agreed I have never heard someone say it is Freshmen year!
the bitter taste. the bitter smell. ughhhh god..I feel like throwing up now.
My story is similar. If your parents are actually wealthy, go to boarding school. It was the best thing that EVER happened to me. It changed my life in such a positive way. Do it, because going away for university/college won’t have the same therapeutic effect.
Oh wow, I totally relate to this post! I used to be the biggest coke head, I finally smartened up after 7 years. Now I’m almost 23, I have a wonderful life on paper yet I am so lonely because there seems to be no solid, sober people these days.
There are sober, decent people out there. Stop looking so hard and they will find you…When you least expect it, expect it. I wish you well…
You can’t even find people that don’t drink, everything should be banned except for marijuana.
I have never stepped on a stoned persons shoe by accident and gotten punched in the face.
I have seen raging drunks and crackheads do it though.
i agree with you. I stopped the drinking and excessive partying to pursue a more meaningful life and i realize how many degenerates there are in society. I feel lonely a lot as well,
To OP: this story sounds a lot like mine when I was 17. Unfortunately, I did not transfer schools for my senior year. Nik is absolutely right, do not try to clean up your rep at your current school, it’s high school, it wont happen and you will end up getting hurt and relapsing again. Transfer to another school district. Also, social networking makes it so hard for you to let go of people/things from your past. Delete your facebook/twitter/blog and start a new one but only add friends who are your family. Otherwise, unfriend everyone who is a bad influence on you, make your profile private, and DELETE any photos of you that show drinking/partying/looking like a slut! Add pictures to your profile that show who you are, things you like to do for fun that arent partying (sports? family bbq? your dog? etc). Then once you start at your new school you can add new friends. Another thing to always remember “Your past does not make you who you are” you can always change, you can always be a better person. good luck.
Without taking the piss…..but these agony aunt articles you have going on seem a bit FAKE
Great advice. Also, cut all ties/contact from these enablers completely.
Even if you find it hard to finish high school w/ your bad rep, once you go away to college, you can completely reinvent yourself. No one in college needs to know anything about your past, unless you want to tell them. Be careful who you trust w/ secrets about your past. Just make sure you choose a great university where none of your classmates are going. Get yourself far, far away and start over honey!
Sooo your making self posts now thinking your gonna get a TV show or something??What what..what is this,I don’t get this,There is no way people are turning to you for advice so whats your plan man
I am a 43 yr. ole female who at an early age became addicted. By experience LET ME TELL YOU, you have to CHANGE YOUR ENTIRE ENVIRONMENT. This means friends, places, and EVEN WHERE YOU LIVE. I promise you if you do NOT put 110% into this, you WILL REPEATEDLY FAIL. I NEVER sugar coat anything, this WILL NOT be easy but I AM living proof it can be done. The question is, HOW BAD DO YOU WANT IT???
Aren’t you too old to be commenting on TheDirty.com?
This is not a self post, and everyone’s comments are very much appreciated.
You need to figure out if you are an addict/alcoholic or just a problem user/drinker.
If you are an addict/alcoholic then one is too many, and there will never be enough. If that is the case, join a 12 step program. If you used/drank every day, then go to a meeting every day. Work the steps like your life depends on it, because it does. You can get clean, stay clean, meet great friends and be a productive member of society. You will comprehend the word serenity and you will know peace.
You aren’t alone, there are people out there just like you looking for you. They want to help you. They can’t stay clean and sober unless they too give it away.
I did just this. Was using heroin for 8 years and got up one day, flew as far away as possible from east coast US to a tiny Pacific island over by Asia where there was no dope. I stayed there for 6 months now I’m back in the states, married, great job, happier than ever! It sounds wayyyyy too simple but it was the only thing that worked for me. I had been to over a dozen rehabs, been arrested twice and was on probation for three years of my life. CHANGE EVERYTHING and your heart will follow.
What I did that has kept me clean and helped me make a new life, MOVE SOMEWHERE TOTALLY NEW FOR A YEAR OR TWO.
Seriously. Go enroll in a different school, get a job (to meet people), and just work hard. It gives you a totally different perspective on life. You learn the value of money(working for it yourself), you have no distractions so your school gets done, and you meet decent people at work or school. Just don’t try ‘be cool’. Being cool is being yourself, the ‘cool kids’ are the fakest bunch you’ve ever met.
Just start over, you can do it. Don’t FORGET your past, and when you can help others thinking about going down the same road you did with your stories. Good luck.
Moving to try to get sober is called pulling a “geographical.” It might work, might not.
Wherever you go, there you are. We must change ourselves. If we change our location and not ourselves we are bound to fail.