How Do I Overcome My Private Pictures Being Posted Online
THE DIRTY ARMY: Hi Nik, I need advice. A couple of months ago very private pics of me were posted online on a site that is frequented a lot by my peers and friends. The photos were private pics I had sent to a guy who at the time I trusted. I wanted him to like me and that was poor judgement on my part, now that they have been leaked people are saying terrible things about me. Completely false, calling me a wh*re and a sl*t and telling me it would be ok if I died. No one says anything about the guy who did this and its the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. I don’t sleep around and don’t go clubbing and have had a serious bf who loves me and has stuck me trough all this for the past couple of years. But I don’t know what to do, how to overcome this. What would I say if anyone was to ask me about the pictures. And why women constantly get persecuted for situations like this and the guy gets no heat. If he was the slime ball who revealed something private. Something that was just for him. I am mortified and this has ruined my self confidence. I have panic attacks and am doing terrible in school and work due to me constantly obsessing over this. Any advice how to overcome this?
Time heals all mistakes. You have to ignore it. There is no such thing as privacy anymore, technology killed privacy. You just have to own it and learn from it.- nik
Such a perfect ass …. The dood she sent it to is for sure gay.
Im pretty sure that is not the girl in the picture that submitted it. IDIOT.
Really you look at a guys ass and go ya get it fixed
Privacy exists. Get rid of your facebook and instagram and twitter and stop sending nude pics to random ass hats. Done! Privacy is only difficult when you’re a socially obsessed, morally corrupt, fame chasing dumb shit and you don’t think before you act.
Privacy exists. Get rid of your facebook and instagram and twitter and stop sending nude pics to random ass hats. Done! Privacy is only difficult when you’re a socially obsessed, morally corrupt, fame chasing dumb shit and you don’t think before you act.
wait you had a serious boyfriend for a couple of years and you sent someone else pictures because you wanted them to like you? nice guy for sticking around.
wait you had a serious boyfriend for a couple of years and you sent someone else pictures because you wanted him to like you? nice guy for sticking around I’d say.
Boyfriends are the worst. They will always end up screwing you over.
Nik, I actually like your answer on this one.
This is why life sucks these days. Technology is ruined any privacy we had?
Who said you have to mail naked pics or even take any?
HEre is a good idea. Don’t send pictures to anyone and then they will never end up online.
Don’t send any you stupid girls.
This girl is pathetic. She needs a new boyfriend.
Whoever the girl in the picture is. Is truly amazing. Near perfection if you ask me.
come on. back tattoo? i have a feeling she has done this before…
She didn’t say when the pics were sent to the other guy. It could have been years ago. But to the poster, like nik said, own it! You can’t erase the image from anyone’s mind so just forget it. Ok they saw your pictures and they made comments. Do they make all your decisions in life? No I bet they don’t so just let it go. People post buses of themselves all the time. Sorry this happened to you but once u accept that this happened u will be able to move on.
no doubt like says shes got a wonderful bf of what..”couple years” and sends nude pics to some other guy? but u try and sound like a perfect gf then somehow your bf sticks around….pretty sure u didnt tell him who u sent it to n exactly y otherwise hes not supportive ….hes a goof lol
What does not kill you or prosecute you makes you stronger. What I’m starting to notice is people filming me or the people I’m with. I find that to be a little unsettling.
no doubt like says shes got a wonderful bf of what..”couple years” and sends nude pics to some other guy? but u try and sound like a perfect gf then somehow your bf sticks around….pretty sure u didnt tell him who u sent it to n exactly y otherwise hes not supportive ….hes a goof lol
You are in essence that ” guy” . How can you possibly advise someone about the exact pain you cause daily to fund your extravagant lifestyle. The girls you tear down made you. Your nothing without ” fame seeking sluts.” Honey let’s get real you are one. Having to have a ” dirty army” to back up your claims further proves your insecure even with your own opinions. You have no right to act pious. Exploitation is your job title.
Then why the fuck do you come on the dirty if you’re so against it?? Stupid son of a bitch
Great advice Nik, only advice really.. Just embrace it, it will pass faster that way I swear.
This isn’t really true. It’s pretty simple to remove your images from anywhere. You just need a good attorney and request it from the right people.
‘scuse me hun, you’re asking Nik how to overcome it, or to post it again? Crap, I posted a funny picture my husband took of me coming back from the gun range on a hot day in 2003 on Gayspace. People jacked my pic…it’s still out there…and chumps (including Android Apps) are making money off it for some lame reason…I was a fat ass then as well! HAHAHA! anyhoo….needless to say, you punch in “boobs and guns” in a search image and I’m still there…I’m over it though! Makes me laugh now! At least my face isnt showing, but I still have the same tattoos unfortunately!
sure it was easy to get over.
you’re face isn’t showing.
Ahh you are the meme
Nice guns by the way
Thanks for posting.
The rules have changed haven’t they? Things were so different when I was growing up. Mistakes were mistakes and you could move on and move past them. You weren’t chained to them for the rest of your life.
Nik, thanks for your thoughtful advice. Unfortunately some people just can’t heal from this. We’re not all built the same, and to some, this is devastating. As you know, this has already had some tragic consequences.
My advice? Drop the “friends” that are slamming you and get your name changed. If it was me, I’d even move. Get off social networking sites and live a real life. Don’t be so quick to trust anyone. If you’re not willing to do any of this, then develop a really thick skin.
Totally correct!
It’s this fun app called Snapchat
Jenna marie bunni
Ok, let me get this straight, you sent some guy naked pis of yourself, all the while you have a loyal bf???? And you’re devistated that ppl are calling you a whore? You need to take a step back and think about your behavior.
For the people who cant read: she sent the pictures to a guy years back, and now she has a boyfriend who is sticking by her.
Advice: who cares what people say about them. They’re trying to rile you up and make you feel bad about yourself because misery loves company and they want someone else to feel like the ugly pieces of shit they are. The best revenge is to rise above and ignore, like Nik said, and once they realize they can’t upset you they’ll move on to a new target. And honestly, what can any of them do to you? It’s not like you have to answer to these people or justify yourself, so fuck everyone and just live your life.
nik is right no privacy nowadays. My girlfriend of 2 years who i am going to marry still refuses to let me take or send me naked pictures of herself. cameraphones and facebook ruined the planet
Your bf has stuck by you through all of this for the past couple of years? A few months ago you sent a guy you trusted pics so he would like you? WTF?
My X bf sent semi nude pics of me to my mom as well as posting them online. At first I was embarrassed but then I was like ya know what I look good. His loss and a lesson learned for me. He just made himself look like a total douche.
If op is the girl in the pic…Then guuurl you have nothing to worry about…Nik has a point.
But….then again…. that could totally be a ladyboy in the pic, too….hmmm.
I feel very bad for you. I can’t imagine if that happened to me. I understand there is a level of trust when you send a picture like that. You are so in love with the person that you could never imagine they would show anyone or want to humiliate you SO badly like that.
What is on top of her tv? Toys?
the same thing happened to me except the photos were blackmailed out of me when I was 15 years old (I’m 22 now). This hacker found me on myspace and somehow acquired a lot of personal information about my family like credit info, address, phone numbers, socials, etc. I had to send him photos so that he wouldn’t destroy my family’s lives. I never thought anything would really come of them because I was so young but they showed up a year ago and the effects were devastating. People call me a slut all the time even though I’ve been with the same person since I was 18. I’ve had people follow me around school and even show up at my home.
The poster never said she sent the pics while they were together. And honestly, young girls make stupid mistakes like that all the time. She shouldn’t have to spend the rest of her life paying for it.
Girl…. Like Nik said, fucking own it. Show people that you can still walk around with your head held high and just be a decent person. If those people you chose to surround yourself with cannot accept it, then they were never your friends to begin with. But just know YOU ARE NOT ALONE. And you WILL be okay. <3
Hard lesson.
There’s only one solution for this–STOP “wanting people to like” you.
(That is just code for giving your power away!)
Life is ALL about how you leverage your personal power.
#dirtypower
Are you people retarded ? She sent pictures to a guy she was talking to BEFORE her current bf.she says her bf stuck by her even with the pictures coming up
and thats not her in the pic, guessing just a attachment The girl in the pic is from a college porn site .
Are you people retarded ? She sent pictures to a guy she was talking to BEFORE her current bf.she says her bf stuck by her even with the pictures coming up
and thats not her in the pic, guessing just a attachment The girl in the pic is from a college porn site .
If you are holding the camera, i.e. self-pics according to American copyright law you own the copyright to the photos. Submit a DMCA notice to the site and by law they have to remove them.
That’s not completely true. Trust me.- nik
ive had my nude pictures put on line and even videos of me having sex and naked, the first time it happened i was really embarrassed and ashamed of my self because of other people around me. I weighed around 190 lbs and was chubby and she thought i was super skinny and my girlfriend was around 5 foot 4 and weighed 3 60 lbs. My girlfriend made me have sex with her in public or she was walking so i had sex in public and now it turns me on when i see people looking at me when i act like a whore and have public sex. so do something for your shelf and be proud of your body instead of hiding it. public sex with lots of onlookers. will relax the body and get rid of the shame that should not be their
You have to be a lot of dumb to be sending boyfriend’s naked pictures. All the stories of this going wrong and ladies are still not learning? Sorry, you do something stupid like this, you deserve whatever this leads to. It doesn’t matter if you have been going with a guy, for weeks or years. Never take pics for just a “Boyfriend” or “Fiancee” and if you do, have a contract or some kind of an agreement and have him sign it.
There’s no such thing as privacy on the internet , lol .
Don’t send anything like that out and you won’t have nothing to worry about .
Stop being an attention whore .
Nik is once again making excuses for all the morally blind people who lack basic empathy. Sure, maybe she should’ve used better discretion, but really?! Her bitter and spiteful ex-boyfriend isn’t held at all accountable for being a terrible human being?
Welcome to slut-shaming. And people say we’re past sexism…
If the shoe fits…
If you have a serious relationship wtf are you doing sending nakie pictures to begin with? That should be the first question. Thats probably part of why you got that reputation. And here is some good advice, idk if anyones ever told you this before but listen very carefully, you cant fully trust ANYONE. That should help you, and dont be so naive.
Let’s slut shame some men…
Anyone have any pics?
I’ve made that mistake before.
Hollywood, you still look at that pic you received? It’s okay if you do, I’ll autograph it for you if you’d like.
Who is the jerk that leaked the pic? He should be on blast to protect other girls in the future.
If people paid attention you’d see that the photos were LEAKED a few months ago. And look chick if this is you in the photo then you have nothing to be ashamed of. I know how upsetting it is to do something intimate for someone you like and to have them use it to bite you in the ass. Pretty soon it will be old news, people will forget about it quicker than you realize
mm…how is it a lie when they call you a wh*re when you’re sending out naked pics? lmao i love sl*t logic.