I’ve Never Been Happier Thanks To You
THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I just wanted to thank you for your advice. I wanted to be with a guy that I had been going back and forth with between friends and FWB for a while. I just couldn’t let go because I always casually dated and never committed but felt like he was special. You told me not to push it and to move on. I did exactly that and stayed friends with him. Turns out seeing me move on was what he needed to realize he wanted the same thing. We’ve been together for a few months now and I’ve never been happier. It’s long distance now thanks to school (which goes against everything I use to believe) but I realized that it’s worth it and it works as long as you want it bad enough. Taking your advice was the best thing I could’ve done and I hope that you and Shayne work out because I aspire to have a relationship as great as yours.
My relationship is not great. I’m working as hard as I can to salvage. For some reason my advice to myself doesn’t work on Shayne, she has super powers I cannot crack.- nik
I’ll tell you why you cant crack them. because shes a complete f*cking b*tch.
Not that you arent a scumbag, but shes a lousy b*tch.
Shayne is awesome. Kill yourself
@Jeff, seriously you are a homo. No wonder why you hate on Shayne, I guarantee no chick will even touch you. Guys who tend to live in their grandma’s basements like you tend to also have hatred towards women.
What the hell is wrong with you? She is not a bitch; you don’t even know her.
I saw the show. She’s a f*cking b*tch.
Even nick is too good for that “diva”. “Go get me a coffee!”
Nick shoulda been like “you got 2 legs slut”.
It seems to me that Shayne married her ‘father’ (as many women do). If you look back to clips of him with his red laser pointer on “Am I Hot” I’m astounded of the similarities, at least on the surface. I hope that she is getting counseling to resolve issues in her childhood. there is something very deeply connected between girls and fathers. Especially if we’re still trying to live up to them in our own marriages. Be a wonderful dad and never leave that baby. Girls need their daddies FULL TIME. My own daughter’s dad left and she has big attachment issues at 22 despite having a loving kind strong step father.
We women are complicated creatures. Kudos on keeping the love alive. The very best thing a man can do for his children is love their mother. I’m so sorry you are lonely. So many of us are.I have noticed your tones in responses here are FAR more mature than years ago. I see a change I hope she can too. Ciao!
Hey Nik, all you have to do is keep showing her that youre in this for her, for the both of you. I swear the littlest things go a long way, like going to do things TOGETHER, if shes going somewhere, ask if you can go with her. Even plan a pic nic with your litlle family in the backyard just to show that you want to be a part of a family, yalls family. From experience, i think she is just hesitant bc she feels like whats the point of opening up if hes just going to hurt me. You just gotta keep working at it, let her see that youre there and want to be there. Buy her a SINGLE rose out of nowhere just bc… I only believe in love if both people ate willing to sacrifice their heart for one another, i believe yall habe what it takes with time… Good luck and blessings to your relationship.
WHY SHOULD HE HAVE TO DO ALL THIS SHIT? SHE KNEW WHAT SHE WAS SIGNING UP FOR WHEN SHE GOT WITH HIM, JUST BC SHE IS INSECURE ABOUT THE GIRLS ON THE DIRTY DOESNT GIVE HER THE RIGHT TO TREAT NIK THE WAY SHE DOES. SHES A BITCH. MARRIAGE IS A 2 WAY STREET AND CLEARLY NIK IS DRIVING DOWN A DEAD END.
Sorry brother, but that tends to happen with overnight-Vegas marriages. Good luck.
Nik, I realize I only know you and Shayne from your site & couples therapy, but you two are perfect for each other. Marriages go through phases, your daughter isn’t even a year old yet….you guys will get stronger & stronger.
I was a royal bitch after I had my daughter, it was a confusing time for me..but after she was about 2-3 things got much better…and the older she gets the better our marriage is getting..hang in there!
I cannot agree more with this. You guys are dealing with both a new baby and a new marriage at the same time. Either of these things are hard enough by themselves, put them together and it’s a hard time. Be strong and pull through and you’ll be able to get through most anything together.
I am wishing the best for you and your wife Nik !
I have been married 17 years, it’s sometimes hard but worth it, hang in there..
Nik that’s how you know you two belong together. She’s the Doomsday to your Superman, the Bane to your Batman one day she will break you in half and there’s nothing you can do about it. He!! I’m 6’7″ and I get broke down by a 5’5″ 101 lbs woman everyday. No matter how many times HULK bends over backwards for her it’s never enough. She beats on me like she’s the pimp and I’m the b!t@h! I take the punishment from her chicken wings because I can’t crack her.
That was HULK. Nik it’s still not saving my sh!t dude! Wtf?
life is short
why fight?
Ok Nik Richie, Real Talk – I may not always agree with your viewpoint, but I hate to see anyone fail when it comes to the things that really matter in life. You cannot change or fix or control the actions or reactions of your wife, ever. You can only change your own thoughts, reactions and patterns of behavior. Try to be your best self in the relationship. Perhaps seek individual counseling so you can work through the issues that you have on your side of the marriage w/o interruption or judgment. Hopefully Shayne will see the earnest effort you are making to better yourself in the relationship and decide that it would be a good thing for her to do too. She has to make this decision on her own though. Saying you are trying to salvage what you had is the wrong attitude to take. You have to make a fresh start, leave the past in the past and move forward together. You’re both going to have to swallow your pride a bit if you want to make it work. It will probably be challenging, and you’ll feel like youre driving the struggle bus for a while, but eventually the hard work will pay off. Things will never be perfect or even pleasant all day everyday, but you took a vow for better or for worse and if you cannot stand the bad times then it is time to reevaluate your decisions and accept the consequences of whatever you choose to do. I honestly do hope you can make it work for the best though. Best of luck to you and your family during what I am sure is a challenging time.
Nik, don’t take offense. Shayne needs a man. She is going to hold you up to the same standards you hold her up to. Your lacking in a few areas. For the lack of better words. Class, grace and elegance. Your coming across to me as a wishy washy little bich. Dont get me wrong, you got a set of balls. And I’m sure that’s the part she loves about you. But right now im getting an image of those balls being wrapped in a pretty pink ribbon. She’s looking for her superman. Fix yourself, and bring her and press along for th ride.
You know why Shayne is not happy Nik? Because she wants to go back to the life she led for years, getting banged by dozens of Hollywood d-listers, club promoters and anyone else who could fill her snatch for a few minutes. That girl spent years getting passed around LA and loving the c0ck all over SoCal, so why would she want to settle down with a short failure named Hooman?
That was nice of you.- nik
Holy sh*t, don’t listen to that Nik. I’m sure that’s not true. ALL RELATIONSHIPS go through tough times. Sometimes REALLY tough times. It’s how you conduct yourself during those times that will predict your outcome. Marriage is the hardest thing you will ever attempt and you will have to dig deep! Keep your head up.
You can’t let that get to you. Your response should of been mute or she’s all mine now.. think about this. Why do you think sinatra got the respect he did long after his prime.
Nik, I wouldnt even post really mean stuff like that about ur wife. The chance that she reads it and gets super offended and it will be taken out on you.
Truth– LIES. You don’t even know her.
Nik, I just think your girl is just not into you brah. You can tell a mile away. You too should move on son. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Hey! Nik! Did couples therapy help your relationship at all? OR was it all for publicity?
want to salvage your marriage. Set aside this website for a month take her some where far away. This site is the problem. i understand u need to maintain this site. But this website is the cause.
The website is NOT the cause… Her insecurities are. If its not the website, it will be something else.
This is the fakest self post that I have ever seen. Nik you truly are a loser.
Shayne isn’t happy because you run a website that tears people apart. You’re CONSTANTLY giving your opinion on how horrible women look and how they’re not good enough. Now Imagine being in Shayne’s shoes and she sees what you say about other gorgeous women daily…The poor thing probably has very little self worth these days after having YOUR daughter and watching you publicly pick women apart saying their earlobes aren’t perfect or their arm pits are disgusting…She must wonder what her own husband thinks of her…
If your marriage is REALLY as important as your claiming, perhaps you should consider selling the site and focusing on improving yourself as a person and making your wife feel as beautiful as she really is.
Here’s what I see, for what it’s worth…one of the biggest reasons Nik loves Shayne is because she is a woman who woukd NEVER be submitted to The Dirty. She is very self contained, in control and extremely aware of the public’s perception of anything she may or may not do. This is obviously in part due to her semi-famous parents and her subsequent semi-celebrity upbringing. Shayne has a tremendous amount of respect for herself and, maybe more importantly, a tremendous amount of respect for the havoc that rumors and harsh public criticism can do to a person’s reputation. Nik loves this about Shayne. A lot. He loves AND respects his wife, which I’m sure is a combination he thought he’d never have.
If you want a nice stable relationship, you need to marry a mature woman who has compatible interests and beliefs. The one who will let you be yourself and the one that you wouldn’t want to change either.
That wasn’t the case with your marriage, Nik. You married a woman you wanted to physically change while she married a man whose career she disagrees with. Shayne is also extremely immature based on Couple’s Therapy so you’re basically going to babysit her for the rest of your life.
Nah, long after Shayne is out of the picture, The Dirty will still be around. Nik you are way hot, brave, smartish, you can pull so many beautiful women.
It is ok to walk away from a relationship if it makes you lonely.
You tried, you produced a beautiful, truly gorgeous little girl, and maybe that is all it was ever meant to be.
Move on, it will hurt but eventually you will be much stronger, and happier with a women you have a fantastic marriage with.
I am married, i really don’t think if you fight so much it is worth it.
Life is hard, relationships with your spouse shouldn’t be!
Newsflash: Marriages go through ups and downs, things aren’t always perfect.
Encouraging someone of the opposite sex to divorce their spouse while complimenting them at the same time makes you sound like a whore.
I am afraid that you are NEVAH going to be able to crack the forcefield of the damage that Lorenzo did to Shayne.
Sorry.
I think you’re asking too much of YOURSELF here.
This is long, hard, internal work that she needs to do, and I’m NOT convinced she ever will!
(No hate even implied here, just
#realtalk)
(BTW–my deets for commenting are not being saved, either.)
Nik, I took your advice you gave me directly on your wife’s blog http://www.lamasrichie.com and my life did a complete 180 turn for the best. Its hard to make decisions when you’re in the mess. I think you should read your comments to submissions from before you met Shayne, when you met her and were in the honeymoon phase, and now. I’ve noticed a change in how you comment. Which means a change in your life and how you think. Your comments were very tame and respectful, almost as if you knew she was going to eventually read them. That, or you hired new ghost writers.
I don’t hire writers. Everything is me. This is my head, my thoughts, my journey.- nik
Yup, Lorenzo being married to Shauna and having another family while Shayne was growing up , he neglected her, then he marries a girl who is younger then Shayne and takes her last name…In his day he was smoking hottt and making some good coin, ..meaning he treated women like sex symbols and vapid bimbo’s were all he has ever dated.
Very ironic how Shayne has turned herself into a bimbo…silly, blonde, fake tata’s, long extensions, into fashion and looking good no matter what. Only she also has a lot of hatred for sexy blondes she think is a threat…One has always taking her daddy away and it is her fear for Nik too.
Nik bra, mad respect for you and you have taken on a lot of work marrying a girl with such deep daddy issues…
Don’t give up the dirty because if you and your wife do break up at some point then you won’t have either.
God bless & anyone saying the best thing you can do is love your baby’s mother is wrong. The best thing is love your daughter, and respect her mama..you can do this even if you are not with her, but you don’t have to love her for Press to understand you simply didn’t belong together but both have madd love for her.
I dont know why but Shayne treats you like her brother not her husband. She looks content on the show but doesnt ever seem happy with Nik.
Get some truth serum and find out what her issues really are.
All women possess these super powers to some degree
My husband calls it Pussy Power lol
Nik-
…did they take this pic from http://www.spursfan.com?
I took this pic like back in ’09 or 2010…
speaking of which… where are:
spurs
DG
kinky Bizzle
B.Hogg
Puhmelah pucker
medium pimpin’
wop
Anonomopolous
CBT
Merlin
GTFO
Moobs
kayden
jayden
ari
lamp
ghost
wet an_s
BIG drew
Bernie mac
timberfake
…etc
…Ahhh… nostalgic
- chef -
Nice job, Chef. I just noticed this pic was up here. Hell yeah, he jacked it.
Didn’t even show some love to either of us.
I think she is adorable and worth the effort. I believe she is a loyal to you and Press. That speaks volumes!!!
Nik, I have just started couples counseling in my own marriage and wanted to share. We have only been once, but I already see a change in us. Our therapist said it’s rarely about communication issues, or any current problem you have, Its almost always unhealed past hurts from childhood. All resulting relationship issues are usually stemming from those deep wounds,. Dr. Jenn is right about that. You both need to take the time to ask for healing from those things, and ask yourself one question. Who is the first person that made you feel COMPLETELY loved an accepted?
Also sex is the glue in any marriage. Unfortunately since your wife is a woman, she does not want to be intimate with you while you have issues. Try to wine and dine and charm her, whatever it takes. Something special happens between a husband and wife during sex that can transcend all the pain and resentment.
Good luck!
SHAYNE IS A MISERABLE CUNT AND TREATS YOU LIKE SHIT. HOW YOU PUT UP WITH THAT AND LET HER BITCH YOU OUT IS BEYOND ME. YOU DESERVE AND CAN DO WAYYYYYYYY BETTER. BESIDES SHE HAS BROWN EYES LOL
Nik,
your wife Shayne, obviously has a good heart, which it probably why you married her. But you can tell she is just a little bit spoiled. I feel like you two should live the peasant life for a year to see how strong your bond is. If you can be in love in poverty, you know its true love! I think that situation would make a way better reality show than couples therapy too!
Shayne seems to have a good heart despite being a bit spoiled. I hate that getting everything you want seems to ruin girls who are otherwise incredibly nice people…
I would love to see a “reality” show where a well off couple has to live in real poverty for 6 months or so. You know someone loves you if they can stay with you through difficult times. Just a thought…
Nik, my 2 cents, after seeing a bit of couples therapy and the dynamic between you two, i think it’s a classic case of ‘she’s just not that into you’. I mean, you’re a nice enough guy, you seem to be quite smart and quite willing to do what it takes to make her happy.. But she’s like a 10 and you’re kinda like a 7 in the looks department of things… She’s distant coz she’s not feeling the physical attraction so much anymore… i just think if you looked like an underwear model or say david beckham, you wouldnt be having these problems, coz she wouldnt have to try so hard to vibe with you… the only reason i say this is from experience.. i married a man for his personality, not his looks.. after several years of marriage and a couple of kids his personality changed a bit, and consequently so did my attraction for him… i relate to the frostiness i see from shayne… it’s hard to be open and loving towards someone you just dont think is hot anymore..
Nik, you are a good person. You are not as attractive as your wife and the reason you pulled her was because of your personality and convictions. If you are losing step and confidence, she can smell it. If she leaves you, you can definitely pull someone as hot if not hotter, but after the confidence of singlehood leaves you’ll be left in the same ditch. Grow those fierce, crazy, hairy balls we all like and be a MAN!!!!
All I can say is this….Shayne may have “daddy” issues that she is taking out on you…..however, you do not deserve to be treated like that from any person. We all have our faults, but she acts like she cant stand you most of the time. And mayb it was all an act on the show, but Idk if i could stick around to find out any longer then you already have. If she doesnt want to be w/you, then she needs to be honest and tell you so you both can let go and move on. Just saying, it takes to 2 people to work on a relationship, but she doesnt seem like she is really in it for that….
All of you that are saying he needs to be a man, just need to leave him alone. I’m sure he feels bad enough about himself without any of you putting your two cents in. Shayne is an amazing woman, every single person has problems, some peoples are just worse than others. Nik and Shayne, I genuinely hope the best for both of you, you are a beautiful couple.
Nik, I too am a spoiled rich girl, raised by an awesome dad that could not love me enough, give me enough, and still I live on the Tfund…but there is no other way for me, an only child of a huge presence of a man…I then married a small town guy, with big ambitions and alot of drive…now he is super successful like you, and thinks im a pain in the ass as well, but is crazy about me.
we have great fights, and we ALWAYS make up…we are meant for each other, piss each other off, but love each other a ton…If you love one another, you will make it…but marrying a spoiled girl, is very hard for the man…we have big expectations, and want a big pocketbook to match…but in the end we are so worth it… good luck!!