My Big Mistake
THE DIRTY ARMY: Hi Nik!! I am posting this because I need some advice and help with a relationship I have let go to far.. And I am posting this anonymously for simple plausible deniability should I be confronted by him or by my friends with this. For the past few months I have been in a relationship with a guy that is somewhat older than me. I am in my middle 20′s and he is in his middle 30′s. Even though I like him very much I find myself wanting out of this relationship. I find myself not wanting this relationship anymore and I don’t know how to tell him without hurting his feelings. Everything is nothing but a lie now. I put on a happy face and go along with the flow and I tell him how I feel just to make him feel good. But it’s not how I feel at all. Everything I say to him has become nothing but a lie. I have no real feelings for him at all beyond friend ship. We both work in the Dallas nightclub seen and it’s easy to get caught up in things and I have known him for quite a wile. I just put on a big show to cover up how I feel. I find myself trapped in this relationship with no way out. Everything has become so serious and I don’t want that because I am not ready for that type of life. I took him way up north of Dallas to see my family couple of weeks ago and he liked them and my family liked him. I thought it was time for that but I was wrong because deep down I really didn’t want that at all. I made a mistake. I thought the time we spent together was fun but I let it get to serious, I let it get out of control and I let it go to far. Now I have trapped myself in one great big lie. Almost everything I say to him has become a lie because I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I don’t want a serious relationship with him any more. I feel trapped with no way out. I have got to stop this lie. Just the other week I went to Houston to get a passport to travel outside the country and go to an island resort for a week with him just south of Cuba. I always wanted to do that with someone anyway and he just happened be there at the right time and place so I went for it. By doing that I got myself into a deeper relationship with him that I didn’t want. I was uneasy and uncomfortable the whole week. But I put on a happy face and went with the flow covering up my true feelings the whole time and made the best of it. I just wished it would stop. We got back just this past week and it was a relief. My life with him has become a trap for me. I don’t want this relationship with him and I want out. I am not ready for this type of life. And certainly no kids from this at all. That is the last thing I need to happen now. Nik I need out of this relationship now but I feel trapped with no way out. And I know it is my fault for letting go to far. I do not want to hurt his feelings but this has to end. I am tired of this lie. I don’t want to have a serious relationship with him anymore. I want out and I want out now. Some body please help me with this. I need some advice. I know I have repeated myself here a bit just to show that I really mean what I have said here. Please post this for me Nik!! I need help with this!! I want my friends help to stop this relationship and I don’t know how to ask them beyond this message. I don’t want to have to lie to him anymore!! I want out and out now!!! He is amazing and I don’t want to hurt him. Enough is enough and I need to move on with my life.
Just break up with him.- nik
First, your whack. Second, you must have failed spelling in school. Third, you repeated yourself so many times that I’m surprised he’s not the one running from your crazy arse!
You may want to take an English course yourself. It’s YOU’RE Whack.
Embarrassing when you try to be smart and you’re wrong too, isn’t it? Grammar Nazis that screw up trying to make fun of someone else.
I agree though. It’s like the OP was on pure cocaine when she typed that. TL;DR to the max!
Oh, question! Do u want out of this relationship?
I had to give this to some one else to post for me.
I no how site read IP address.
Yes I do very much. Here it is now Christmas and it just creates more problems. I am 26 and I do not want this anymore. I have been in a relationship with him since the last part of summer. The lie just keeps getting bigger. I want him to stop it. His is really a sweet person I just don’t want the relationship any more. I just want to be friends. I don’t want to hurt him.
LOL You actually thought that was a serious question… because you even mentioned it in “part 2.” You are one of the stupidest people ever.
Wow you have only been dating him since the end of summer? Thats hardly a serious relationship unless your Hollywood. Just end it if he’s in his thirties and working in the club scence he’s probably creepin’ on lots of young hoes.
He hates it when you talk, he is now trying to figure out a way to break it off with you. I read 2 sentences of that crap and I want to break up with you.
You must be trolling us, or you’re incredibly socially inept. Let the guy go. He’ll get over it.
First, you need to get over yourself lady!
you sound incredibly dumb. just keep on repeating this nonsense that you have been to yourself & eventually your dumb ass will do everyone a favor break up with him & probably look like a total bitch in the process, also doing everyone a favor. but it’s alright, you’re full on retard, you don’t know any better.
You’re an idiot.. Shut up and stop bitching.. What was the point of posting this long drawn out submission repeating yourself over and over okay.. We get it you feel trapped! You are a user you said you’ve always wanted to go to Cuba and he was there. And it’s time to grow up you’re “mid 20s” what are you doing working at a club.
just admit that he has a tonne of naked photos of you and you’re afraid that once you break up with him he’s going to leak that sh*t all over the internet. I don’t see any other reason for why anyone would be so hesitant to just cut the rope especially when this relationship has been going on for just a few months. I would understand a few years – then it would be difficult but a few months is nothing at your age.
You obviously are not mature enough to:
1. Spell
2. Write coherent sentences
3. Break up with someone
Get over yourself. If you dump him he will be sad but eventually get over it. If you lead him on and hope he will break up with you, he will hate your guts and never say a nice thing about you to others.
Grow the f*** up already. You are 26.
This proves it.. Girls are delusional retards!
Lol this post doesn’t help the female gender for sure
You are a dumb ho wow serious? i hope he chocks you in your sleep. That will end the relationship.