Am I A Sex Addict
THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I just want to say thank you for posting sex problems, I thought I was the only one. I am 24 years old. I was never in to sex until I met my current boyfriend, 3 years ago. I was 21 and he was 34. I just want to say he is an amazing boyfriend. He loves me unconditionally and takes care of me in every way except sexually. It seems like sex is more of a burden then fun to him. I’m always the one coming on to him. I have tried everything from bondage, to sleep sex, to asking him if he wants another girl to join us. He actually got angry and said that he only wants me. He says he is just old and doesn’t have a sex drive. He actually has said that I’m a sex addict. I think he may be right. I have never cheated but I do have sex toys and I love them. I like to get off at least once a day. Is that wrong? I thought every guy would want a girl, who loves sex. I have looked through all his phone records and car gps but have found nothing of cheating. After work and on the weekends, he spends the whole day with me so its weird. When I ask if he’s cheating, he gets mad and says why he would cheat when he has someone as beautiful as me. I may sound insecure but I live in Scottsdale and as you know there are women everywhere, looking to jump in to any man who makes over 6 figures with no kids. I don’t know what to do. I’m I insecure, a sex addict or does he have a medical problem? P.S I just want to say I love your site since my freshmen year back when it was dirtyscottsdale.com. I find myself laughing or knowing someone.
I hate to break it to you, but after 32 guys only want sex three times a month tops. Also, the more we age the more selfish we become so don’t even think about having an orgasm with your dude anymore. If sex is your vice and you hate love, I say you ditch this dude for someone more of your age. Money should never guide you.- nik
Nik, I’m 41 and my wife and I have sex 10 time a week at least!
I used to like Nik but the more he comments the more I feel he is a closet homo. Its obvious he was a rich kid.
Liar! if you would have said you jerk off 10 times a week it would have been believable…
Im 33 and 5 years older than my husband and we have it several times a week. i know some people have low sex drive, buuuut it is not good for a relationship. it will make the other person unhappy and go looking elsewhere. sad but true.
i want to know when this site turned into the Dr.Phil show.is this now ask nik?im starting to think your apperance on TV may have ruined this funny gossip web site.
Well not all guys Nick, I’m 40 and havent found a girl that can keep up with me. If you want to trade desert sand from AZ for beach sand in Newport. Come on!
I am not sure if my situation is common, but at 42 I still have sex with my girl twice a day. I would be interested in hearing from other over 32 males to see what their experience is like.
You must be in a new relationship!
If 4 years is new…
Not necessarily. I’m 29 & my husband just made 40. We’ve been together for 7 years & have sex daily, sometimes two. It’s the obvious secret to longevity, happiness & friendship in a relationship/marriage! (That’s why the 10 year age gap makes no difference) I guess it does help if you’re super attracted to each other too. I love most of Nik’s advice, but this time I have to disagree. What man only wants sex 3 times a month? Show me this man! haha
I think it’s time for you to move on. Women’s sex drive increases in there 30-40 if your this passionate now I can only imagine.
That is so so true. its like when i hit 30 i was a teenager again. hell i want it more now than i did when i was 18.
Dude speak for yourself. Not all guys over 32 only want it 3 times a month and are selfish in bed. Try eating healthy and exercise, it will dramatically improve your sex drive.
It’s what Nik tells Shayne.
Tell him to use viagra to get it up. And let him breathe every now and then. If a guy is busy working, working out etc. to much sex can sometimes be overwhelming. I mean 1′s a day is fine but when its like 3-5 times a day. its crazy. I thought i had a sex problem until i met my ex friends with benefits. She wanted it 3-5 times a day everyday. That was def not fun. I told her i was tired and she would start s@cking me off etc just to get it up just because she knew I could. Too much sex is not fun either.
Lol, you’re right man. I had a girl like that too that was fwb and it was 3-5 times a day. I was like gd I’m trying to chill.
exactly, Dont get me wrong I love sex but damn woman let me breath lol. The worst part that was when we were chilling she would pull down my shorts/pants etc and start messing around with me and of course id get hard, she would say omg you are such a h@rn dog, a nympho when she was the one being like that. I would just be like -_- . Finally I gave her @nal a lot and that hurt her pooper and she didnt like it so finally i told her i dont have sex with out @nal and over time of her walking funny she got tired of it and finally left me lol.
Tell him to use viagra to get it up. And let him breathe every now and then. If a guy is busy working, working out etc. to much sex can sometimes be overwhelming. I mean 1′s a day is fine but when its like 3-5 times a day. its crazy. I thought i had a sex problem until i met my ex friends with benefits. She wanted it 3-5 times a day everyday. That was def not fun. I told her i was tired and she would start s@cking me off etc just to get it up just because she knew I could. Too much sex is not fun either. However
Nik is wrong. Guys want sex more than three times a month after 32. They just want it with other women. But since this relationship is new, the chances are that this guy is gay.
This is spot on. I really don’t feel like having sex with my girl more than once a week. I’ll definitely take some strange though.
If that’s how you feel, you’re with the wrong person. I’m 41, my wife’s 40 and we’ve been married almost 18 years. Things still work for both of us in the bedroom. Honestly, it’s better than ever. It helps web workout everyday so she looks great.
Dump His Ass!!! Get a Young Stud!!!
Speak for yourself Nik. Im 36 and fuck my 24 year old girls friend at least once a day. My sex drive is higher now than when i was twenty. Not Higher when i was 18 though lol.
I’m 34 and need to get off at least once a day (twice if I have a lady sleep over).
Does the poster want to settle for security over the sex? If do stay. If not move on.
Nik that is SO true! My husband is in his early 30′s and we have gone from doing it about 10 times a week to about 4. And he’s soooo lazy. I do almost all the work, but I love him to death so it’s ok. Bullseye on that no orgasm comment.
You are such an idiot….what’s true about Nik comment??? The reason why your husband is soooo lazy on your stinking ass is because he’s getting laid somewhere sooo good that when he gets home to you….your ass stinks to him and he just snub off you and you are gonna be putting up to that for the rest of your life because you loved him to death….stupid idiot lol
You are such an idiot….what’s true about Nik comment??? The reason why your husband is soooo lazy on your stinking ass is because he’s getting laid somewhere sooo good that when he gets home to you….your ass stinks to him and he just snub off you and you are gonna be putting up to that for the rest of your life because you loved him to death….stupid idiot lol
Nik, can you have her email me? I’ll give her any fantasy she wants.
I love how theres a bunch of 40 year old men on this site, losers.
Time waits for nobody sweet cheeks. Soon you’ll be in your 40′s probably not married trying to find some dude to love you but you’ll be past your prime so you’ll just get 3 cats and live alone forever. Then you’ll be a bigger loser than the 40 year old guys who are on this site
@Nik……sometimes you are just senseless. Wtf is wrong with the age 32 upward about sex drive? If you are within that range and you can’t satisfy your woman…. You probably have a personal problem & not the age. I think you do Nik….too bad for you.
What do you say about the black west African guys….even at 70 they are still going 3 rounds a night
. Maybe we should stop injecting our body with those shitty stuff we called foods & drugs here in America and our women won’t be running to Africa for big dick & long lasting sex.
To answer your question…..I think you should stick with him & also get some tips naturally that can help him to satisfy you
I think you have a good guy…..compare to those fool that beat up their girl. Sec is very important in a relationship and once you don’t get if from you man when you needed it….am afraid cheating might arrives.
Yup so its confirmed women are morons he should dump your slut ass I feel bad for him that’s all I gotta say.
Nik, is so far off track with this one. Don’t listen to him sweetie, not all men have their balls chopped like Nik. My hubby is 35, we got together when he was 18. The sex is WAY better the older we get. It sounds to me like you two just aren’t compatible,in the bedroom, you need to decide how important that is to you and either deal with it or move on.
WELL NIK YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT THIS TIME PAL. I AM 36 AND I AM STILL READY TO POUND DOWN 10 TIMES A DAY. SEX DRIVE OF A MONSTER. AS FAR AS ONLY WANTING TO SATISFY OURSELVES AS MEN AT THAT AGE IS BS TO. THAT WAS JUST AN IGNORANT THING TO SAY IN MY OPINION.
10 times a day? get real, unless you’re on testosterone thats not happening in your mid 30′s
Thats a bunch of BS NIK! My husband is 42 and I am 29, when the kids arent around its a sexathon, usually instigated by him. With that being said if you don’t have kids and youe not gettin any, stop being selfish, you said it you got toys use em. Stop worrying about you and shut up and listen to him, he might just want to take you to dinner and discuss HIMSELF, you seem kind of needy and I am not a man but thats a turn off.
Money shouldn’t guide you? Nik your the one telling girls they only have a small window to lock down a trout and move out of their hometowns to capitalize on it
Let him put it in your butt.
When I was 19 – 21 i dated a guy 10 years older than me. I also had to basically rape him every night! & it wasn’t until we broke up & I outed him on his porn collection did we finally have good sex. Man so glad I got away from that one! I can only imagine how vanilla our sex would be now that he’s 38.
I’ve been with the same man for the last 8 years. We’re both 36 and we have sex 3-5 times a week depending on his work schedule.. You should go see a doctor or find a new woman if you only want it 3-4 a month.. not normal!!!!
You’re not a sex addict. Just as your sex drive is revving up (really, for the baby making process), his is beginning to wind down. It’s a sad fact, scientifically proven and just more proof that life isn’t fair. In my case, my husband (31) works so goddamn much that he’s just tired as hell all the time. But when we do…. Omfg…. \:D/
If you love him and want to stay with him, don’t put so much pressure on him. It can be scary when one day you’re just living your life with your SO, and then alluvasudden a wild gf appears and she’s like “lets have a threesome, lets do bondage, ooooh lets bang when you’re asleep”. I blame fifty shades of grey for this madness. And then harping on a man about his lack of sex drive can be emasculating, even if he wont admit it. Stop doing that, he’ll stop banging you altogether if he thinks he isn’t good enough.
NOT TRUE…
my man is 33, i’m 21. He wants sex more than I do!
So maybe he needs to get more healthy or something to spice up his sex drive.
Nik is WRONG.
Testosterone shots
IM MOVING TO SCOTTSDALE!@#!@
Alan In addition to the sex 10x’s a week I probably jerkoff another 10x’s at least! My wife thinks I have a sex addiction though.
My boyfriend is 41 and loves sex. Wakes up every morning with a huge erection. So 3 times a month is bullshit.
My husband is 43 and i am 31. We have sex on average 5 times a week and it would be more if I could keep up. He is amazing in bed and loves lots of forplay. Not all guys over 32 only do it 3 times a month.My husband would do it 3 times a day if i was down.
I wonder if he is suffering from a hormonal imbalance? Or if he is on any medication that is causing his sex drive to be lowered… Anti-depressants sleep medication blood pressure medicine can all affect sex drive.
Another thought maybe he is closet homosexual, ask if he would want a MMF threesome, if he jumps at it see how he is with another dude.
Only 3 times a month after 32? Not my man! You’re crazy, Nik.
We’ve been together since we were 17, we’re 35 now and sex is awesome and we definitely have sex more than 3 times a month. I think if we didn’t, he would be kinda pissed. And so would I!
OP: your man is either gay or has way too much stress in his life.
Ummmmm….are you kidding???? I was with the sweetest guy for 7 years but we NEVER had sex…I just couldnt take it (We were around 25 when it ended. Then I met this HOT 35 year old and we both LOVED sex. It was the best year of my life. Sometimes he made me orgasm 7 times in one night. HOT HOT HOT. Too bad we had to end it
Nik – you’re gay. Poor Shayne.
It’s called low testosterone. It happenes to A LOT of men as they reach their 30′s. All of you men claiming that you still want or do have sex multiple times a day or week you guys are an exception. Also, a low sex drive can also be caused from stress, depression, & some medications. If you guys communicate well, you should suggest to him to see a dr to find out why he has a low sex drive. Please tell him not to be embarrassed to do so. Drs see this kind of stuff all the time. Trust me. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about!! Good Luck!!
My husband is 38 (makes an average wage, not rich) and im 22. We have sex almost every day and he makes sure i orgasm. I dont agree or know what nik is talking about, my husband has got it ; )
Im 37 and think about sex more now than I ever have.No thats a lie Ive been thinking about sex 24/7 since I was 8.Girl you need a real man my wife is 8 years younger and cant keep up.Im pretty sure your man is lame or cheating on you.
Untrue! I cant keep up with my husband and we have been together for 11 years. I would be hurt if he turned me down and dont think Id want to stay in the relationship. WE have 2 kids, work fulltime and try and fit it intimate time where we can but he always tells me, “Ill take it however I can get it from you.” love
We are 46 (husband) and 43 (wife) and we have sex daily and in most instances twice daily. Friday we had mornin, noon, mid afternoon, countertop while making dinner and after dinner sex! Married 4 years, together 6 years and sex just keeps getting better. We experiment together and always make time for sexy fun. Even with kids and full time jobs! There is a deeper problem if you aren’t getting it almost every day. Make it fun and playful, try new things, don’t ever let “routine” enter the picture.
He’s either really good at cheating or he’s gay. Get a Marine. Best sex you’ll ever have.
I’m 22 and my man is 37. He is also totally attractive so it’s not like some Beauty and the horny Beast shit. And he wants to have sex three times a day.. I don’t think it has to do with you being a sex addict but men that only want to have sex “three times a month” because theyre over 32, is a total lie. Something’s up with him and I don’t think you should have to work for something like that at your age.