THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I just want to say thank you for posting sex problems, I thought I was the only one. I am 24 years old. I was never in to sex until I met my current boyfriend, 3 years ago. I was 21 and he was 34. I just want to say he is an amazing boyfriend. He loves me unconditionally and takes care of me in every way except sexually. It seems like sex is more of a burden then fun to him. I’m always the one coming on to him. I have tried everything from bondage, to sleep sex, to asking him if he wants another girl to join us. He actually got angry and said that he only wants me. He says he is just old and doesn’t have a sex drive. He actually has said that I’m a sex addict. I think he may be right. I have never cheated but I do have sex toys and I love them. I like to get off at least once a day. Is that wrong? I thought every guy would want a girl, who loves sex. I have looked through all his phone records and car gps but have found nothing of cheating. After work and on the weekends, he spends the whole day with me so its weird. When I ask if he’s cheating, he gets mad and says why he would cheat when he has someone as beautiful as me. I may sound insecure but I live in Scottsdale and as you know there are women everywhere, looking to jump in to any man who makes over 6 figures with no kids. I don’t know what to do. I’m I insecure, a sex addict or does he have a medical problem? P.S I just want to say I love your site since my freshmen year back when it was dirtyscottsdale.com. I find myself laughing or knowing someone.
I hate to break it to you, but after 32 guys only want sex three times a month tops. Also, the more we age the more selfish we become so don’t even think about having an orgasm with your dude anymore. If sex is your vice and you hate love, I say you ditch this dude for someone more of your age. Money should never guide you.- nik