THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I could really use your advice. I’d been with my boyfriend for four years, and it wasn’t going anywhere. Not living together, no ring, no kids, and to top it off he had a terrible temper and I caught him in some major lies. Then I met a new guy, who treats me well and wants to lock it down. The problem is, I’m still in love with guy #1. He claims to have done a complete 180 and promises to stop the bs and start moving things forward. He’s been treating me like a princess and it makes me miss the early days, before he got lazy and stopped caring about the relationship. I’m having a hard time letting go of him and I want to give it another chance, but I’m scared to miss out on a great guy if things don’t change. What should I do?

People don’t change, they just get softer. Don’t blow your new deal.- nik