THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik This guy is a terribly heartless human being. When my ex of 1 1/2 years broke up I was going through a really sad time filled with pain and suffering. I started going out to get over him and after a couple months I found myself at an after party where I met this gorgeous cute guy. For a couple months each time I was there he would pay me attention which seemed genuine, and ask me about my ex, and made me feel better by taking an interest in what I did and touching me here and there like flirting and just being really nice. Finally I hooked up with him one night. I fantasized maybe we could get to know each other better since I felt like he had liked me. I was wrong. I found out he has sex with lots of girls, and I was devastated. I called him one night screaming on his voicemail because I was so broken. He kept apologizing and saying he was sorry, and that he didn’t want a relationship because he’d just gotten out of one that was 7 years long. Then the worst news came when I started hanging out with his friends. They told me he was still seeing his ex-girlfriend and then I found out they were still getting together. I was even more heartbroken. I felt used and manipulated. If he had just told the truth I would have had a choice to hook up or not hook up with him while knowing about his relationship. Its weird because he tells people (and me) that he doesn’t even want to be with her. I thought he was open and available but he was not. He just hurt me so bad and all he and his friends do is blame me, exclude me from parties when I used to be welcome all the time, and tell people I’m the crazy one when I was nothing but honest and real. I can’t even go places for fear of seeing him. Even worse, his brother wanted to hang out with me so I thought if the initial guy didnt want a relationship maybe his brother would want to at least see each other or something. I hooked up with him and then right after he told me he didn’t want a girlfriend either. That was ok and I was willing to be friends but when I asked him about his brother he got really mad and said we were no longer friends and told me to never talk to him again. Now both of them just talk crap about me and have threatened me with a restraining order when I have done nothing physically to hurt or threaten them. I tried to talk to them but had the door slammed in my face. No one really seems to care about my side of the story. I just wish I hadn’t wasted so much time trying to be friends when all he wanted was an easy lay. I’m not easy, I’m too trusting. This guy has made the past several months of my life very hard to make new friends and enjoy what I love because everyone here is connected socially. I never want to see him again but I can’t help but feel like I’m going to have to face him again. The sad thing is he cheats on his “girlfriend” constantly and is always drunk or xanaxed or doing some other drugs. Apparently his gf knows so now she tries to cheat on him, too. To me it seems like the dumbest relationship which isnt even going to work out, but who knows maybe 7 years of being polygamous is the thing. I’ve always valued monogamy. I used to be promiscuous but it wasn’t the way for me after a few years. I value relationships & honesty and I can’t believe people who are older than me have no respect for new people coming into their lives. They are selfish and only want to gratify themselves. I hope karma serves him his own medicine and that he chokes. He hangs out with all underage girls who arent even legal to drink yet he and his brother are 26. His brother has a son but he ran astray from the family and now just parties all the time. They think they’re the coolest people in the world because suddenly they got popular and so they step on others and have no empathy anymore because their minds and hearts are so clouded with their egos. Im sure they hurt a lot of other girls like me but no one will admit it. He goes by Jon Jon and his brothers name is Chris. All they care about are parties and getting messed up and getting with girls. Jon is on the left and Chris is on the right. Please tell me how I can forget about these losers yet live in the same city and find peace, and most of all, myself the way I was before I was caught in their web of sadness and loss. That’s all I see when I look at him. Sadness and loss, heartache and pain. I just want to heal and feel good about everything and be loved by everyone. I do what I can to make people happy. I just don’t feel like I get the same in return.
Did you really think I’d read all that about a couple a forgy’s…not that there’s anything wrong with that.- nik