How Can I Help My Sister
THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, my older sister has been seeing the same guy for the past 3 years. She is consistently getting cheated on and he sometimes abuses her physically and mentally. In the past year she has been taking pain killers and anti-anxiety pills non stop to cope with everything he has done to her. I don’t know how to make her stop. She is not the same person, from the moment she wakes up she believes she needs to take a pill in order to have a good day. We have tried to intervene but it is not working. She blames her drug addiction based on her boyfriend and how much he has messed up her head. Anything you recommend we do? I don’t want to see her die because of these pills and her boyfriend.
Yeah, get her on a plane and send her HERE. As long as she is in her environment you will never be able to save her.- nik
look up the Plymouth House in Plymouth NH. I know MANY addicts who overcame their addictions with the help of the p-house. good luck.
I really hope your sister gets the help she needs. Prescription pills are killing people everyday and ruining families and lives. I watched my dad and step mom waste about 3 years of their lives, being so stoned they sometimes wouldn’t remember where they’d been that day. It’s an awful thing to watch. Good luck.
That place is in Asia? I don’t know Nik, that’s really far away, and I would bet the farm she’ll use it as an excuse. Addicts love excuses. She could just as easily go to a place out of State, and stay a few months if finances permit, then commit to a Sober House and outpatient treatment. Meetings seem corny but its good to know you’re not alone.
She’s GOT TO drop that boyfriend though. He sounds controlling as hell. Keeping her under his thumb. It sounds dumb, but gather family and friends that are GOOD for her, stage an intervention. Everyone needs to have bottom lines. Don’t wait for her to hit bottom. Her bottom could be death. Addiction CAN NOT be treated without medical supervision, especially with the anti-anxiety meds. Detoxifying from that can kill you just like alcohol withdrawal will.
See? Anyone who drinks and looks down on an addict needs a pan to their face. Alcohol is a trap too if you have the Addiction prone genetics.
I actually went through a similar scenario with my sister. She was with a total deadbeat loser that got her hooked on drugs and wouldn’t let her go. Sometimes family needs to step in. We took her home and got a restraining order against the guy and got her into treatment and therapy. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy because she didn’t want to leave but we managed to talk some sense into her. I hope you can get your sister the help she needs.
there are some women who like to be put in an abusive situation. i know of a couple who got the crap kicked out of them daily but refused to leave. go figure, love will do some strange stuff to the mind.
My father recently died from abusing prescription drugs he slowly faded away in front of us. Please get your sister the help she needs, even if she doesn’t think she needs it. It’s going to be a tough battle for her and also for your family but it has to be done before it’s to late and nik’s right she can’t change if she stays in that environment.
Sorry to hear of your loss.
That girl’s boyfriend needs to take several deaths.