My Boyfriend Is An Alcoholic
THE DIRTY ARMY: Dear Nik, I need your advice! I have been dating my boyfriend for about 7 years now and we live together. We originally met when we worked together at a bar. Back then, we were both huge party animals and went out drinking a lot. Since then, we have both settled down, started real careers and I have pretty much stopped drinking completely. My problem is that he still goes out drinking often, and gets ridiculously wasted with his buddies. He comes home and acts like an idiot. He almost always tries to start a fight and sometimes is so drunk he pukes all over our apartment (and I’m the one who has to clean up). Drinking changes his personality so much and I’m so sick of having to deal with it. It was never an issue when I was drinking heavily too, but now that I’ve cleaned my life up it is getting beyond the point of annoying. When he’s not drinking he is amazing and our relationship is amazing. I don’t know how much more I can take, but I don’t want to tell him to stop drinking completely. He is almost 35, I kind of thought he would be over partying like this by now. What should I do?
You should make him read this.- nik
he’s a loser and you’re not. match NOT made in heaven.
7 years and he still hasn’t put a ring on your finger? I’d leave. Sounds like a waste of time to me.
Ummm not every woman needs a ring! I sure as hell am not interested in one.
I spent 10yrs with an alcoholic and let me tell you it doesn’t get better. If they don’t think they have a problem and want to change it won’t. I also came home to find dried puke all over that I had to clean up. The last straw was me waking up to him pissing all over the closet. I then had to sit up with him all night because he was so out of it he kept wandering over to the stairs. I didn’t want him to fall down them and break his neck. I left shortly after. It isn’t worth it. You will always be second to his alcohol.
I had the same experience. Waking up to this person peeing in the closet is attractive let me tell you. Then one night (well it was around 3 am) he went downstairs to the front door, butt ass naked, and tried walking down the street. I had to literally tackle him to the ground and fight him to keep him from leaving the house. It can suck being with an alcoholic. Leave before he gets a DUI and he’s slapped with court fees and possible jail/prison time. Even if he goes to rehab, it rarely works on the first try. Don’t get married and if you haven’t already, don’t bring kids into this. Then again your leaving him may scare him enough to get him to shape up and you guys can live happily ever after..? Good luck OP
You cant change him, he must change himself. The harder you push the worse your relationship will get. You have two choices, deal with it or walk away…he must realize there is a problem on his own!
Whew!!! Atleast it isnt marijuana. Right everybody?
35 years and still acting like that? I bet this guy never had the college or frat experience. This is why everyone needs to join a frat. You get in so much drinking and fucking that you can actually be a normal member of society by the time you are 25.
“I’m so sick of having to deal with it.” Ya I bet you are, and I bet you still let him stick his greg in you every night. Sounds like you two losers belong together. Just realize now that you have wasted your life.
Your boyfriend can hold a lot of urine at one time
Addiction Is his problem not yours. Give him an ultimatum and be prepare to walk away.
get as far away from him as you can. You are in a losing situation.
Since you havent even gotten married to him in 7 yrs sounds like you are just as much a loser as he is
Since when is there a time line of when you have to get married? Been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and we’re not married or engaged? No interest in it anytime soon either, on both ends.
Dear Poster,
I feel your pain. About a year and a half ago I became serious with a true alcoholic. I knew what I had signed up for, as I had known him through friends for several years. He was even married to someone else and had ruined his marriage consequently for this reason among others. Anyway, I laid down the law with him and said it was me or the drinking. At first he chose the drinking, but then came crawling back a few weeks later. After that, he became boyfriend of the year for a while. But here’s the catch; I stopped drinking too. It sucked for me to have to pass on nights out with my girlfriends, etc. But I felt it would be unfair of me to preach about his drinking and then go out and do the very same thing. Personally, I was always secretly afraid long after he stopped drinking for him to slip up. I hated not being able to bring him to family or work functions for fear of him humiliating me. So, here’s the bottom line. Get out while you still can.
So you’re proud that you were fucking a married man?
Let some other desperate betch deal with him. He’s 35 and still acts like that?!? Maybe call A&E/Intervention.
leave him or u will have a very sad life
nasty ussy i dated her fr 2 montes she knw
Take photos and video/record him while he’s trashed, let him look or listen the next day. That works sometimes!
Give him some crack to smoke or heroin