Please Guide Me Nik
THE DIRTY ARMY: Dear Mr. Richie, first off I would like to say I follow your site relgiously. I value your opinion, and I need help. I’m a young college educated woman who has been in a devoted relationship for four years now. In the beginning, it was very good but the spark is now completely gone. I find certain habits of his (excessive drinking, placing his friends first) too hard to deal with. He never discusses any plans of a future with me, and when I ask him he just yeses me to death. His priorities aren’t in order at all, and I’ve tried several times to explain to him how I feel and was more than willing to compromise but lately I feel that all I am doing is settling. I wish there was a way to know where a path with or without him would lead me. I’ve been contemplating being on my own for a while now but I’m just scared and don’t know what else is out there. Everything with him is so repetative, and I’m not by any means spoiled but I believe the spark should never fade in a relationship. Please guide me Nik.
There is nothing to guide here. Break up with this loser. The person you are with is a direct reflection of who you are!- nik
I’m in the same bind(with a lot more complications) but first off admit that you wanna be spoiled. And have adventure in the relationship. Than you’ll come to terms that you can do and be better without him! It’s hard to go through a breakup even if you are ready for it. Just take the leap of faith. And hopefully luck is on your side and if its not, just be smart about every move.
I was with my ex for 4 years and I spent the entire last year thinking about leaving because I knew the love was totally gone and that he wasn’t right for me. When I finally ended it I was so relieved and felt so free that I wished I didn’t wait so long to do it. I was like you, terrified to leave because I didn’t think I would find anything better and I was afraid of ending up alone. I can’t even begin to tell you how much better my life got after that. Life is too short to stay in bad relationships. Don’t put a timeline on when you want to be married and have kids because that is the biggest mistake women make and they end up settling in bad relationships because of it.
Been there, done that. Dump him. There is more out there!!!
Is it me or does this image of Jesus look a lot like Tim Tebow
Better to be single than to be desperate
Your dumb and I feel bad for your bf. That is all.
Never settle for less! If you even have thoughts that isn’t the right relationship for you, it isn’t! You can do so much better & never resort to settling for less than you deserve because you’re “afraid you won’t find better”. Take the leap of faith & you will thank yourself later. I’m sure even being single will be better than where you’re at now! I believe the spark should never fade either & I believe their is someone meant for you out there! Once you find that relationship & experience how amazing it can be w/ someone, you’ll regret not leaving sooner. The longer you stay in an unhappy relationship, the longer it will take to find a happy one! You can do it, stay strong xx