THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, usually I’m pretty good with complex issues, this time I need a ruling from a professional. I have a buddy, from grade school, who recently confessed to me that our local parish priest had molested him for years as a child. He said he forgives this guy; it’s in the past, and doesn’t want to prosecute or call any attention to himself or family. He shared the information because he’s contemplating entering the seminary and becoming a priest himself. He asked that I write a letter of personal recommendation for the seminary regarding his faithfulness and moral terpitude. I said I’d think about it and get back to him. My head is spinning. I have just replayed the last 30 years of my life in my head & tried to recount any questionable or fruitty behavior on his part. My fear is he’s going to grow a Key West Butt Tickler moustache and head off into to the sunset to club Pee-Pee Toucher based on my recommendation. I can’t live with that or the thought he could victimize others. My moral compass tells me, as much it will pain him & damage our friendship, to politely say no and that I have serious reservations about his motivations. Nik ruling please – am I being a d*ck & way out of line OR on the money?
I would never write that letter. It’s so sad that God and his employees cannot be trusted around children. Every time I see a church these days it makes me wonder.- nik