Is There Hope For Two Addicts
THE DIRTY ARMY: Hi Nik! Love the advice you give to women because its honest so I was hoping you could help me with a situation. I’m a recovering addict (clean for over a year!) and I’ve recently started dating again. I met a guy who is really sweet, funny, successful, etc. BUT he too is a recovering addict and still hangs around some of his old friends, who are always drinking and partying. This worries me because he’s relapsed before. I really like him but I’m wondering if these people are going to set him back again and if I should just end it before it gets serious. I don’t want to chance my sobriety but maybe im being too guarded. Your advice would be very welcome Nik. And Happy Birthday!
The only reason you are with him is because he is an addict and has addict friends. Don’t get lost in the falsehood of your relationship. Two addicts wrongs don’t make a right.- nik
Its not his friends, it is him. He chooses he keep them and hang around with him. Every recovering addict learns that you are responsible for your own choices. If he uses again, its all on him, not the friends. Beyond that, your sobriety should be first and foremost in your life so if you feel he could bring that element back into your life, get out now. Be strong and take care of you. Also, no one should be in a serious relationship so soon after getting sober, you could be trading one thing for another, meaning obsessing over your boyfriend could be your new addiction. Anyway, you should be focusing on yourself right now and this should not be on your radar as an issue while you are so clearly in the beginning of your sobriety. It takes longer than a year. I know some will say that is not true but it is. You may feel better physically when your are off drugs but your mind has been psychologically screwed by your love affair with the drug. It takes a bit longer to get over that part.
Awesome words Persey!!1 Truth!!
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I’m a recovering addict an I can tell u from experience to move on from him. Do it now!! If he isn’t willing to stay away from his troubled friends then he is destine for failure trust me. The relapse happens long before he uses. If u don’t feel rt about the situation then u already no u have to leave. Do it b4 u get hurt. Good luck it hard to stay clean and harder when u carry an anchor!!
You are with him because you want to relapse. You already know the answer to the question you are asking. Move on and stay sober… Stay and become addicts together.
When you love someone its always hard to see the obvious faults but RED FLAG ALERT, this is heartbreak waiting to happen
let it go and get someone that will promote and further your amazing progress for the years to come!
Thank you for all the advice guys. It’s making this a lot easier to do.
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You gotta break it off with him. He probably has already relasped. Be careful, he may try to put all the blame on you. Just hold strong and get the f#ck out ASAP!
Plain and simple, he is your excuse to use again
Exactly. You will not remain sober because although you have come a long way, you are still very vulnerable. You deserve someone who wants both of you healthy. Risking your personal health is not worth anyone else’s high.