I Need Some Ex-Girlfriend Advice
THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, DA Strong for years. I’ve always thought you give good advice and you always seem to know why people act in a certain manner. I’ll keep it short. I’m in college and the girl I dated for two years broke up with me about three months ago yet she still wants to hang out with me because she misses her “best friend.” She claims that we are never getting back together and that she just enjoys my company as friends, yet we still have sex. I don’t understand why someone who didn’t want to be with me still wants to be friends with me. I’m convinced she is just trying to exert her power over me because she doesn’t really want to cope with the idea of me being completely out of her life. I was completely over this chick and she keeps weaseling her way back in. Can you tell me what is going on in her head and what I should do? Thanks.
Bro, she cannot bare the thought of you sleeping with another woman so she is playing mind games like a selfish c*nt. You need to cut her loose before you look back at your life and say “ugh I should have f*cked more b*tches in college” (we all say it).- nik
You should run a test. See how she behaves if you go out on a date…..
This poor fella,….boy is he gettin’ played,….too bad, sounds like a decent guy,…your advice Nik was right on point,….
Nik speaks the truth, my friend
OP, please take my word for it: f*ck as many skinny, pretty 18-year-olds as you can now, because 25 years later you will look around and see that they have ballooned into monstrosities.
coming from a girl, i gotta say nik is spot-on. 100%. if you end up getting with a lot of girls (or another more serious relationship) don’t be surprised if this girl goes fucking cray cray or begs for you back. fickle bitties.
Nik, just keep inserting * in words which you don’t know the spelling of, and then you won’t be called out for your apparent lack of writing proficiency in English.
This is the best advice Nik has ever given. I banged so many chicks in college, and even I say that. There is always room for more chicks, bro.
she probably doesn’t want to give you up completely as shes probably afraid of that feeling, in a sense she wants you back
Couldnt have said it better myself. Girl’s just trying to keep you at arms length.
Uhh for starters you need to stop f*cking her. If you are “over her” then you need to show her by not riding the hobby horse anymore.
Everything else will fall into place.
Nik is correct, the other thing she is doing is making sure you dont meet or date any other chicks! Let me guess in public she acts like you are dating, she wants to go every where with you? Then she doesnt want you anywhere near her when she does things…she is using you until she finds another dude! You’ll be alone once she finds her next victim… Dude bang her best friend and make sure she finds out the next day!!! Game over!
I agree, smash her friend and move. You are being controlled by her, Stop having sex with her bro.
Unless the sex is truly awesome then get in one last good one. Then do her friend.
Bear
She probably is afraid to let go that because she wants to string you along in case her next relationship doesn’t work out. Know your worth and find someone that makes you a priority, not a back up.
This is so true.
If you don’t end this back and forth now, you’ll end up getting back together. Then you will break up and repeat the whole cycle again. Next thing you know your getting married. Then the whore cheats on you and you get divorced. You realize you just spent the last 10 years of your life with a dream killer. Don’t even be her friend, get rid of her in your life
She doesn’t want you but wants you still want her. Old trick in the book.
Is your name Steve?
I can understand wanting to be friends with your ex. I am. If things just didn’t work out but there is no animosity then that is perfectly fine. However, the fact that you are still having sex with her is a little weird especially since you were together for a while. She is probably out sleeping with other dudes too. She is just stringing you along. You don’t have sex with your ex unless there is still something there or – in her case – you are just trying to keep them on the back burner until she finds something better. You can’t have the best of both worlds and she really is being selfish. Friends, maybe. Sex, no. Cut that off immediately.
Anything with estrogen in the system needs the control. She has you exactly where she wants you…In her control.
RUN dude
She wants to keep you hanging on until she starts fucking someone new.. That way it will hurt you worse when she truely ends the relationship.. If you get laid before she does it will make her feel fat and ugly, and she will forever be trying to get you back to prove she is worthy. Believe me the best thing you can do is pull out.. Cum in her face, and never look back… This is coming from the female Nick. DO IT!
Change your phone number, block her ass on all social networks, make it private for the time being and completely ignore her when you see her. Humiliate her in public if she doesn’t get the point. After that, she should leave you be. Nik’s advice id spot on. She sounds incredibly selfish.
nik your so right!
leave that bitch outta your life.
next time tell her you have a gf
It is definitely possible to remain friends with an ex if both parties are over the relationship… That being said, a lot of girls in their 20′s have a hard time letting go of what is comfortable. It’s like a 20 something’s version of a teddy bear or security blanket. Your best bet is to just cut off all contact. She will have a melt down but in the end it will be better than dragging out this comfort relationship. If you truly want to be just friends with her, you need to tell her that and give yourselves time apart so she can get over the habit.
From a girl’s perspective she probably just get a little ego boost knowing she can treat you how she wants and you’re sticking around for it. I bet if you started dating or screwing someone else she’d get her pannies in a bunch as if you are still a couple. She broke up with you, her loss…you should go have some fun! you sound like a cool guy. I’d quit answering her calls/texts.
I agree… sad to say I did this myself when i was less mature. We all live and learn but don’t let yourself be her toy!! Respect yourself and she will respect you (not that you need her respect anyways)
Nik, you’re the man but sometimes your advice doesn’t mesh with what I’d do, but damn! This is your best advise.
Are you dating Taylor Swift?
ha ha ha….
She is holding on to him, until she finds something better. She wants the sex with him, but does not want the commitment. Also she broke up so she could have sex with other people at anytime without feeling guilty.
I would drop her and make her realize that she f-cked up by breaking up with you. Go out and sleep with as many hot broads as you can. It will make you feel better and will royally piss her off!!!
It is like she is working at one job, but waiting for a better offer to come in, so she is going to stay at her current job, because that is her safety net.
as a dude who went through the exact same situation (my girl and I broke up after 2+ years but we still hung out and had sex), that made things 10x worse.
After I cut off all communication from her when I realized how crazy she was, I went out on the town and nailed 5+ chicks in 2 months. And yes nik is right, all I was thinking about was how many more I could have been with if I wasn’t with her.