THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I’m sorry in advance for this rant, but the comments on the post “Is my number too high” really f*cking disturbed me. I am a 22 year old female who just graduated college in June. I have only slept with and have been sexually intimate with one guy in my entire life. And no, I am not some fat slob that can’t get any. I am 5’9”, weigh 120 lbs, ITG, 32 D cup, no tattoos, and a pretty face (although I probably don’t meet your standards! Call me old fashion, but the way that the majority of people look at sex these days makes me sick. I keep seeing people write sh*t like “there is nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality”, and “real men won’t ask you what your number is, only insecure boys do that.”
Ummmm….WTF!? What man, or woman for that matter, wouldn’t want to know how many people their partner has slept with? And who would want to be with a person who has slept with a lot of people? It’s f*cking sick. No wonder so many people have DRDs these days. Sex used to be sacred and special, and it has been diminished to something that is meaningless. I’m starting to lose hope in finding a real man that can respect my values. I don’t know if it’s where I live, because I do live in Portland, or if people are like this everywhere. All I want is a real man, someone that can respect the fact that I have chosen to only be with one guy, someone with an education and ambition in life.
I am a smart girl with a good head on my shoulders. But I’ve always pictured myself being the typical stay at home mom that cooks, cleans, and takes care of the kids while my man works and provides for the family. Do these guys exist anymore? I don’t want some tattooed up, skinny jeans wearing, jersey shore watching, lady gaga listening, punk of a guy. I want a real man that is going to take charge and take care of me financially, while I take care of him in every other aspect in life. And by the way, no, I am not a prude. I am more than willing to sexually please my man whenever he wants if I am in a committed relationship with him, if he takes care of me, and if I can see myself being with him forever. I would never have sex with someone who I didn’t see a future with. Are my expectations too high?! Do I need to move to find a decent man that fits my standards?
Your vagina just doesn’t tingle like most women. It’s probably because you haven’t had real sex yet. I’m totally on your side, but when a random guy comes along and f*cks you into submission a light will turn on in your head. Women with high sleep numbers are in it for approval and stimulation. If you don’t want that and rather lay on your back for 7 minutes tops… more power to you.- nik