THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, this is Dan Komenda. I would have posted him earlier but he threated legal action towards his exgirlfriend if any of her friends defamed him. I want on the record that I am not his exgirlfriend, she is unaware I am posting, she has advised against it, but everything I am about to say is the TRUTH and he truly deserved to be defamed. Dan is almost 30 years old, still living with his mom, still obsessed with dinosaurs and still in love with his exgirlfriend, Allison. Dan and Allison were together for 7 months. Allison broke up with Dan 6 months ago. Allison moved on and is dating a great man she is very happy with. Dan continuously tries to contact Allison. After being told multiple times that she wants no contact and blocking his cell phone, home phone, work phone and even his mom’s phone number, Dan just can’t get the fact the Allison is not coming back. He has resulted in emails. Love emails, hate emails, “I forgive you “emails, “I want you back” emails. His last email is the cause of this whole post. You see, this break up has impacted Dan’s life so much that he started to see a psychiatrist, at the suggestion of a friend. Dan’s emails have included statements such as his psychiatrist thinks that Allison is bipolar and her current relationship is not serious. His last email just sent me over the edge. He said his psychiatrist thinks that he and Allison should go to therapy TOGETHER. Ex-couples therapy. I don’t know what Dan is telling his psychiatrist but that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.
Since Allison is such a respectful woman, she refused to give me Dans email address for two reasons. Reason #1, it will add fuel to Dans never-ending-love fire, resulting in more emails and reason #2, I would make him cry. So Nik, please deliver my message for me: Dan, you need to move on. You have almost been broken up longer than you were together. I know Allison is wonderful, and I also know that she was your first real girlfriend but you just gotta get over it, man. Your obsessiveness is scary. I’m happy you are getting professional help but the fact you are actually getting professional help for a breakup that lasted 7 months means that you really do have some screws loose. Please stop contacting Allison. She has told you multiple times to stop. She does not want to go to therapy with you. She is in a SERIOUS, healthy relationship. She has moved on. Stop trying; it’s honestly NEVER going to happen again. Maybe if you grow up, move out of your mom’s house and stop playing with dinosaurs, you will find your true love, but it isn’t Allison, so give up buddy. PS. Please try to take legal action for this post. Please get your lawyer, your psychiatrist and your mom all together in a room and cry to them about how you can’t deal with a break up. Just leave Allison alone. At first it was funny, now it’s just sad. You are sad. Grow up. Move on. Thank you.
How do you maintain a relationship while living at your parents?- nik