THE DIRTY ARMY: Dear Nik, I’ve been Dirty Army strong for a few years now. Your site is a blessing to the internet and is something that brings a little joy to my day. Anyway, for the last few years I was in a miserable relationship with a DreamKiller and I was too blind to realize it. When I got laid off and went back to USF to get my degree, I guess I lowered my standards a little and started dating a girl that was a little chunky…didn’t think it would turn into what it did. For the last several years I’ve gone to school full time, worked full time, and pulled sidejobs fixing computers and websites. When I got my own house, I moved her in and that’s where things went downhill. First, she started packing on the pounds…she was already a little chunky when we started dating, within a year of moving in it was like I was living with a humpback whale. Second, she never cooked or cleaned up after herself, always griping at me to clean the place up. Third, she was horrible with the rent…it was like I had to beat it out of her sometimes, but she always had money for clothes and mani/pedi’s weekly. Finally, she keeps demanding that I “shift my priorities” away from working so much and onto her. She even suggested that I not go to law school and instead “start our lives together”. Over time it was really getting to me… I was miserable, tired, and sick of busting my ass day and night with school and work for someone that didn’t appreciate it. About 6 weeks ago, it finally clicked. I was trapped by a DreamKiller. I broke it off with her and got her out of my house and life. Within a week of her leaving, my house was absolutely spotless. I was able to get my stepbrother and a friend to move into the other rooms in my house, so now I actually have people paying a good chunk of the mortgage and bills. I also got myself into the gym and started eating right; down a few pounds already and my gut is vanishing. Finally, I went out and after a few rebounds, started dating this awesome chick that looks a lot like Bar Rafaeli, and also loves your site. She’s beautiful (+2′s and no nose job needed), intelligent, amazing in bed, has her own good-paying job, and actually wants me to do the things I am passionate about and excel in life. It’s incredible, Nik…I’ve gone from a 4.0 to like an 8.5 or so and love it. Much thanks to you and the Dirty Army, Nik. If it weren’t for you and your site, I’d probably still be trapped in a relationship from hell and might have actually ended up marrying that chick. I’ve never been at a happier moment in my life, and it’s cause I finally cut through all the BS and just kept it real. Thanks so much bro, keep doing what you do.
Never get locked in with a loser. DreamKillers are selfish women who love to feed off your misery. Be a champion and let the right person find you. Real girls want to better themselves off your happiness.- nik