THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik this is Graham Douglas who I previously posted about. When I met him, I was a freshman, a virgin, and had hardly even kissed a guy. He is a senior and seemed like a normal, nice guy. We begin a texting relationship, and he starts to encourage me to touch a penis and that losing my virginity is a good idea. He tells me I should be jealous of my friends having sex. I consistently tell him to please stop texting me about it and that I will never have sex with him, but that I like him as a person. He is very persistent and asked me to come over, so I go over planning to hang out because he had apologized about it all. He gets me in his bed, and I say I’m too drunk. He still continues then suddenly takes my virginity when I had never even gone second base with a guy. He calls me the wrong name the next morning. At the time I thought it was an accident and that he was a nice guy, so we keep texting for several months, and I go back. I start to hear rumors that he had once raped a girl, and he promises me the guy is just lying and trying to get into my pants. I also discover that he had read all of my private text messages to his friends. He decides to suddenly cut off all contact with me, likely due to guilt. I tell him I feel uncomfortable with this entire situation and that I would like to press charges, but he tells me it’s my fault for choosing to have sex with him (I didn’t). I also discover that he lied about the number of girls he’s had sex with and that I could potentially have drd’s. I also realize I blacked out for a large portion of the night where I lost my virginity, and he refuses to tell me what happened. I ask to have a face to face conversation for the first time in months, and he tells me it’s possible. He then flakes, and I fly back home, where it is more difficult for me to take legal action. I missed three weeks of classes trying to make him talk, had to go to counseling appointments, get an drd test for the first time, and figure out whether I should press charges or not. This guy is one of the dirtiest, sneakiest, worst out there. It’s likely he’s getting away with everything he did to me.
Welcome to college, the land of wet hole chasers.- nik