THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, my boyfriend of five years died tragically in a kayaking accident five months ago in September and it’s been such a hard time for me to be okay with it and learning to accept it but I think I’m finally at the point where I realize that I will never stop loving him and that he will be in my heart and mind for the rest of my life. I’m wondering if you think it’s too soon for me to consider being with someone else? I’m asking you this because I respect your honest opinions and I think I need someone as honest as you to tell me if I’m going through this process a little too fast. I suppose I may be feeling like any other woman who, at times, needs affection and that reassurance that someone cares about them. Even though I know that a lot of men will never be like him and I may never have that deep connection with another person, in your opinion, when is too soon? (The picture I posted is of my boyfriend a minute before he went kayaking).
If I was your boyfriend up in heaven looking down at you, I would hope that you would wait at least a year. Anything less would feel like you cheating on my soul up in heaven.- nik