THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I was wondering what you think of parents who physically abused you. This site has it all; from roid junkies beating their girlfriends, psychotic exes, corrupt cops, drugged-out money-loving wh*res who expose their children, people who let their teenage daughters get plastic surgery, etc etc. But what about parents who beat the snot out of you? Where is the line when it isn’t okay to beat your children? To what extent is it no longer considered beating out of love? It constantly crosses my mind. My parents were extremely abusive when I was younger. My mother held a knife to my neck when I was 9 just for being mouthy, and my father would pick me up by the throat. They thought control was love, and they’ve stopped now. But now they try to buy my love but I’ve grown to be bitter. I know you are no therapist but I just wanted to know what you think. I just don’t really know how to make sense of it all.
You need to get real therapy, don’t mask your demons or try to justify them. I’m not a professional so asking me will get you nowhere. I don’t think putting a knife to a kids throat is love…we repeat our parents patterns so please go get help before you decide to have children.- nik