THE DIRTY ARMY: Dear Nik Richie, I promised myself I would never write you. I am one of your “secret” readers. By secret, I mean those of us who would never post anyone because we like to think we are better than that and come from good families and have good friends who we don’t want to find out.
I am a 29 year old attractive female, although not by your standards (Don’t worry I’ll send you my therapy bills later). I would send you a pic of me.. but I’ll be the first to say it, I don’t have think I love myself enough or am strong enough to survive being torn apart because you don’t like my eyebrows.
I have promised to never write to you because I like to hope that I am better than that… although I have written many letters to you in my head…I have “Dirt” of course, was cheated on by my successful, attractive, intelligent husband by some random younger beautiful girl he met at a bar… I wanted to send you emails and pics I found and make this girl and my EX husband’s life a living hell… and say horrible things to embarrass them. And I have wanted to write you angry emails and tell you how I loathe you and your views on women and the sadness and self-hatred you are spreading in a world where your own daughter will grow up in.But Im sure you’ve heard that before.
BUT, recently some of your comments have got me thinking that maybe you aren’t as big as an ass as I thought you were… and maybe everything isn’t so black and white… like the fact that I still read your site and have so much anger towards someone I dont know and came so close to publicly humiliating people who are just like me… HURTING. and trying to BE LOVED and ACCEPTED in this cold, sad, mean world. As a teacher, I literally weep at all the hurting kids out there who take such drastic measures to get attention.
Its sad Nik, don’t you think? That me and you and all these beautiful (and lets face it some unattractive people) CRAVE this attention. It actually made me cry. I feel bad for these women (and men) because I get it. We all want to be loved. We all want to be told “you may not be perfect, but you are beautiful on the inside and out.” and most importantly “I ACCEPT you and LOVE you.”
Nik, I wanted to start a conversation with you about this…what do you think? I like to think I’m a good person Nik and I want to at least try to leave something good in this world… which is why I teach… I say all this because I have seen you on TV (Couples therapy and some other clips) and I think maybe, just MAYBE you are a good person too and not as horrible as I wanted to think you were. You have a beautiful daughter and wife that you love tremendously.
The reason I’m successful is because I don’t live for other people. As in, I don’t care what others think of me. I don’t care if you love me or not… that issue is in your mind. I care about honesty and living in reality. People who chase love will never taste life.- nik