THE DIRTY ARMY: Hi Nik, I’m a huge fan of the site. I find it entertaining, refreshing and actually, insightful! But anyways, to the point…I need life advice, and I want to hear honest opinions from the DA! I’m trying to summarize for readers’ sake. I thought it would be fun for them to see the “other side” of the story. Why girls end up with sugar daddies or as escorts. My story and why I came to the US is too long, but let’s say my life has never been easy, bad family life, lack of money depending on dad being fired or not, domestic violence, etc… I have been through so much at 24 that I just want things to change and to be happy.
I’m a beautiful, exotic young woman from south of the border. Maybe not what you would find more than a 6 or 7 in your scale. But off internet people usually consider me a 9 or even 10. I look younger than my age, I am 120 lbs, 5’6, bubbly and extroverted. I get the most compliments on my face, specially from other females! I say this not because I’m conceited, I’m the opposite. It took me 22 years to realize how others see me because of my own insecurities. I moved to the US (legally) a few years ago and after having enough to survive about a month, by week 2 I took a low wage job behind a desk. Eventually, I got into service jobs and even though I make more, its never enough, took me so long to save for just a car. Keep in mind, no family and no credit. I just get by and work so many hours that I can’t go to school or move ahead in life.
I have a bf I love with all my heart, the only thing that makes me happy right now. He is nice but struggles like me. I’m about to turn 24 and I’m freaking out. My youth is slipping away, and even though I’m ok and technically happy, all my real dreams I had before, like traveling, having a college degree, being able to have my own place with no roommates, seem like might not happen or they may take forever. Due to this, I have recently considered getting a sugar daddy who would mentor and financially support me. I’m new to all this but, I just recently found out many girls I know have sponsors. Of course I’m jealous that I’m busting my ass just to get by and trying to live a normal lifestyle while they’re going to school, traveling and barely working. The worst part is a lot of people I work with have degrees, and guess what? They’re waiting tables! I feel I’m wasting whats left of my youth and I wonder, if I don’t end up with my boyfriend, will I regret not choosing to have a so-called sponsor? These are 2 girls that I think I more accurately look like!
Don’t do it. You will only find happiness for one year tops then you will be crying yourself to sleep so lost as to who you are. Struggle sucks, but losing yourself sucks even more.- nik