THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I’m an avid visitor of The Dirty as well as Tabrag. Well done on both sites. I find it courageous to be so outright with your harsh critics and opinions but nonetheless I respect them. I am writing to you asking for advice with a tough situation I am in. I am a 25 year old college grad with a great job. After returning to my hometown after college and studying abroad for a few semesters and being out of the loop with everyone, I became involved with a 28 year old single mother.
She is smoking hot by many people standards and by no means looked like a mother or to be anywhere near 28. She’s a little over 110lbs and probably 5’8. When she takes off her clothes she does have some evidence of child bearing and birth but weirdly enough it doesn’t bother me because she’s worked off all the baby weight and pretty sure weighs less than she did before she was pregnant. She doesn’t even visit this site but is into having a strong ITG. She has a troubled past and has hard a rough time up until before she had her child when she was 25.
She moved to New York from Iowa when she was 17 by herself and pursued a modeling and “promo girl”, actress career and has had a few minor stints at success. Before me she’s be honest with me about her drug and alcohol problems (mainly Pepsi). As well as telling me she’s had 21 different sexual partners (is that too many?). Including her father of her child who is a complete loser and 10 years older than her. He is “self employed” and on the verge of being broke. She accidentally became pregnant at 25 with this guy after being with him in a superficial party drug induced relationship for a year. She made the choice not to have an abortion. She quit the party lifestyle and became a healthy responsible pregnant woman. After her son was born she started partying again in moderation but soon realized she needed to get her life together. She cut down on the Pepsi diet is and finally cut them completely out of her life a year ago along with breaking up with her no good useless baby daddy.
She now works in customer service and pretty much gets paid to sit around and look good with a bunch of other girls. But still wants to be in the entertainment field and has aspirations beyond her current occupation. Her baby daddy is involved in the child’s life and she and him are on good terms and speak regularly. I tell you that huge story to ask you about my involvement. She and I have been together for over a year. I enjoy her company. I can be honest and acknowledge that she is damaged goods and has seemed to have a tough life despite her exterior happiness and beauty. Nonetheless I still love and give all the sh*ts in the world about her dearly. I treat her well and am getting to know her son quite well. I am young and have a future in front of me. She is someone who loves me for me and is grateful of what I have to offer beyond finances and sex. I am totally respectful of single parents and know that it’s not always their decision. Single parents don’t deserve to be single forever do they? Their child is in this world and the parent is having the maturity and integrity to take care of their child. In this scenario, she was a wild child and made a mistake but rationalizes it and praises herself for doing it because it made her into who she is today. I know I can be a great dad and I love the way she makes me feel. Am I crazy for wanting to be with this girl and help her and her son out or what is your advice on this Nik? Is she not going to amount to much more because her child is holding her back? Is she a dream killer?
You can do better. I would cut bait. To be the best person you can be you need to be with someone that will help advance your life and future. All you are doing is killing time and justifying actions. The fact that you wrote me this long love letter means their is doubt. That is not love, that is lust. You like the fact you have automatic sex and you are justifying the statistics of the situation. Bro, you had fun, but you are not a life saver. Go find your happiness.- nik