THE DIRTY ARMY: I need your advice, Mr. Richie. In many circumstances, I disagree with the way that you treat people, but this time I need your brutal honesty to save my relationship. My fiance is the love of my life. Him and I worked very hard to be together including changing cities and careers to make it work. I’ve got a serious problem. So far, I consider myself to be averagely pretty with a curvy (about 125 pounds at 5’8”) figure. The issue is that want to be very pretty, but every time I suggest having “work done” to my fiance like getting breast implants, having a lip augmentation, ext., he always vehemently disagrees. He pleads with me not to. Please don’t misunderstand, we have plenty of money. I work very hard and so does he. I talk constantly about getting “work done” so that I feel prettier, but he says that I’m beautiful just the way I am, and that he would be very upset if I attempted to change anything. I know that I’m pretty, but I know that with I little bit of work done, I could be very sexy. But here is the REAL issue: Lately, we haven’t been having sex. I mean NO SEX. No sexual contact of any kind. I beg for it, but he just isn’t interested. My first idea was that he was cheating on me, but believe me when I say that it is an impossibility. He has no time for it. I’ve dated cheating men, I’m not an idiot. He isn’t cheating. We are either at work or together. If I had to guess, I would say that it is because he is too tired or depressed. I’m trying, I swear. I’m always asking if he would like a blow-job, ext., but he just thanks me and apologizes. Is it me? Is it him? I love him and I know that he loves me. We’re so solid. We’re so happy. What do I do? I just want to feel sexy again. Everyone else I’ve dated, I’ve had to fight off constantly. How can he be so uninterested in sex and yet when I suggest making myself sexier, he seems to be totally against it? Like I said, I usually think that you are too harsh but this time I know that I need your honesty. I just want him to want me again. Tell me what to do and I’ll do it. Please don’t post my personal pictures. I’ll die. To Nik Richie Only: I submitted a photo of myself in a bikini this summer (I’m sorry that it isn’t good quality), a photo of my face, and a photo for you to post on the website. FYI: I’m a brunette with a 34B bust, 25 inch waist, 36 inch hip, no gap between my thighs, cellulite that I’m trying very hard rid of, and no tan because I don’t want skin cancer. I wish I could look like Shayne. I’m begging you, don’t post the pictures of me. I swear to God I’m not a sh*t head. I work so f*cking hard at not being a sh*t head. I just want to be happy. Please.
My honest answer is that you need to be selfish. Sex in a relationship is based on love and need. In my mind when the sex ends so does the relationship. From what I have read he is not your soulmate and only a friend says, “you are perfect and don’t need work done”. I personally think you need 3 separate procedures. Email me to discuss [email protected]- nik