THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I know that this isn’t “dirt” or anything like that, but you give such amazing advice out I figured you could probably help me out.. I am 21 years old and have been dating a guy since I graduated high school. He is older than me. At the beginning it was great, he was helping me out financially while I went to school because I went away and didn’t have a job. We had a great time time together. Well, after my first year of school, I decided to transfer to be closer to him and it would be cheaper in the long run. Anyways, I got a job when I moved back so I could buy a car and help contribute to our lives.. Well soon after I started working, I started paying absolutely all the bills, everything became in my name. When school started again, I cut down my hours a bit at work so I could focus on school and my education, since that is the most important thing to me right now, plus I take 16 credit hours a semester. He also stopped “going into work”; he convinced me he has a job and gets a pay check every 2 weeks or whatever, but I never see any of the money, even when we need it, such as my car getting reposed. He told me I needed to work more so that wouldn’t happen and that he wasn’t always going to bail me out in those situations. All he does is sit on his ass and play video games while I am at school or work, then gets mad at me if I am not making enough money to do everything that he wants to do. This has been going on for 2 and a half years. We almost broke up a few weeks ago and I convinced him not to break up with me because I was basically too afraid of being alone and starting over. I have been thinking about it over the last weeks and have decided that this has to end, I can’t do it anymore. I should have someone who is helping me out in life, emotionally, financially, etc. right? Someone who doesn’t just sit on their ass while I bust mine with work and school, so I can have something better than this life. Or is that too much to ask? How do I start my life over? I have basically nothing right now and no one since I basically dropped everyone for this douche. I feel so stupid to even get myself in a situation like this.. Any advice is appreciated it. Thanks soooooo much.
You need to do what 80% of all females do… line up a new guy (cheat) for about 28 days until you can make the transfer. Find a new guy now to answer the loneliness. Don’t feel guilty, feel proud that you are creating a better situation for yourself.- nik