THE DIRTY ARMY: Dear Nik, I really need your advice on my relationship. I have been going back and forth on wether or not I should post this partially, because my significant other does read the site. Let me just jump in, about a year ago I joined SA just to see what it was about and to help pay for college (don’t judge me) I ended up meeting a really nice man who happened to also be married (btw his wife knew about it. They had an open marriage.) The moment I laid eyes on him I knew he was my soul mate and the man I wanted to marry. Fast forward a couple months into our relationship and he divorces his wife and we move in together, he bought me a really nice diamond ring and told me he would propose…we’re a little over a year into our relationship and he still has yet to propose, I’ve never met his kids, family, ex-wife or his friends… I feel like I am a mistress of some sort or like I am a secret. He tells me one day that I’ll meet them and has me lie to the people I love and tell them that I am very involved in his life, when in reality I am not at all. He rarely will even tell me what is happening in his day to day life. It’s either “too stressful”, he doesn’t want to talk about it or worry me. Nik, I really need to know what to do. I’m a young and extremely attractive girl and have a lot going for me and a lot of life to live, but I have put all of that on hold for the man I am in love with. We have talked about having children and are even buying a home together. I love him with all of my heart and have no idea what to do or if I’m just a rebound chick. Please help me! I’m so lost and quite honestly feel like a complete idiot.
In his mind you are just a warm hole, much like comfort food. Let’s be honest, he will never tell anyone he met the love of his life on Seeking Arrangements… so your whole relationship will be a lie. If I were you… take your payment and move on. He doesn’t love you.- nik