THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I  see how honest you are on TheDirty and I really need some blunt honesty in my life (friends always seem to sugar coat things). I’m 22 and have been with my boyfriend since I was 16. We always had a normal relationship – occasional fighting, name calling – but always made up. Lately we have been fighting a lot and have just broken up. He says I’m not affectionate enough, although that’s not the reason we broke up. He was becoming very insecure and controlling and I told him that was not okay. I feel really bad that we’re broken up and want to make things right between us. I try to talk to him and he is being really mean and nasty trying to hurt me, saying he doesn’t care. What do I do to get through to him? Why am I so scared to let him go? Do you think he truly does not care anymore?

Why are you trying to get through? When a car breaks down and you get it fixed, it never runs the same. Time to take this car to the junk yard and never look back.- nik