THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I visit your site off and on and am becoming a fan of your honesty and advice.  I’m in a 3 year relationship with my fiance and the past couple of months we have noticed a disturbing sleep disorder he has, sexsomnia. Have you ever heard of it? We have googled, asked his counselor and he had no idea. There isn’t much information out there, maybe you know or can refer us to anyone who can help. Sexsomnia is when a person has sex, masturbates, fondles himself or another in their sleep, they wake up and have no recollection of it. At first, I didn’t mind, it was the occasional boob/butt grab but now it’s been getting worse. I have woken up to him having rough sex with me, biting me and one time he was even choking me. Help Nik. I really love him but, I don’t know if I can keep doing this. Thank you.

Sounds like Rapesomnia. So instead of sleep walking your dude is sleep raping. In most cases I would blame the ambien… but I personally believe he is faking the sleep part because he gets off on the fact that he is banging a lifeless body. It’s time to leave him.- nik