Ask Nik Richie — I’ve caught him texting another Man
THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, my situation is this, I’ve been going through hell these last couple of weeks, I’m going on 10 years married. We have been on and off because he has left me twice, first for a barwhore who was in her 40’s then we “solved” our issues. This was in 2012, in 2015 he left to work out of state and the same thing happened, he left me for a nasty ass stripper.
Well as a wife who still believed could make our marriage work, I took him back, I know, stupid me. Well our issue now is that I’ve caught him texting this chick who’s not even from the same town, comfronted him about it and he stopped, then I found out he was still messaging with her. He says he is not cheating, but in the messages it says how bad he wants her. So isn’t that still cheating??
I also caught him sexting with another man, and saw that he was looking at gay porn!!!!!! Like WTF!!! To top it off, he blames me because I don’t give him attention. Ummm, I work 40 hrs a week at a daycare, all I want to do is come home and relax. He says he is not gay, that how could he if he is “homophobic”. I don’t have nothing against gay people, but I do have a problem if he is and is just using me to cover up the real him. This isn’t the first time I’ve caught him. I just dont know what to do anymore!!! I don’t even know what to expect anymore! Any advice is appreciated, thank you, I just had to vent.
The answer is simple. Stop putting his heart before yours. You need to cut this confused man out of your life completely! Take three months to yourself to heal and then find a new guy… one who will genuinely care for you. – nik