Alex Charmchi Raped #MeToo

Alex Charmchi Raped #MeToo

THE DIRTY ARMY:  Nik, it took me awhile to have the courage to post this but I just want to thank you first and foremost for having this platform. It was my first semester at UBC Fall of 2016 when I met Alex Charmchi. It was a month into the semester and someone invited me to the Pit and I was having a pretty lousy time since I was basically third wheeling. On my way out from the bathroom, I bumped into Alex. He was a bit insecure, but overall came off a nice guy. We got to talking and he was telling me about how he had dreams of one day going to UBC for law. I also aspired to go into law, so we bonded over that. He kept buying me shots and I got drunk fast.

After a while I asked him if he could walk me back to my dorm. I was living in Totem at that time. All I wanted to do was kiss him. When we got there, he started kissing me and he started taking off my clothes. Then he started trying to go inside me and that’s when I said no. I was so drunk and nauseous and it all happened so fast. I didn’t even get why he was trying to go in. I told him to stop over and over, but he wouldn’t. I tried to push him away, but he grabbed my wrists and pushed them against the bed.

The next day I had bruises. Good thing it was cold and I could hide it with a sweater. When he stopped, I told him to leave. He left and I never saw him since. At that point, I only knew his first name. It wasn’t until recently that my friend who invited me out that night told me about the Dirty. She said I should see if he’s on here and he is. No, I don’t want to go to authorities, because it’s not going to solve anything. This happened over a year ago and Alex getting charges isn’t going to erase my horrible experience of losing my virginity. I just want everyone to watch out for this rapist!

Be free my child. Thank you for your strength and honesty… may you save the others.- nik

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  1. One of those punchable facesOctober 12, 2018 at 9:06 AM

    Alex is one of them dudes you wanna just punch in the face. A. Bc he’s a rapist B. Bc he’s a rapist

  2. Womanly featuresJune 3, 2018 at 2:41 PM

    Alex looks like he likes to be pegged

  3. zeldaApril 16, 2018 at 12:49 AM

    all you victims need to get together and take away his weapon ( cut it off ! ) what you do is have a girl he doesn’t know and roofie him and getter done ! don’t kill him just take away his weapon so he can’t hurt anymore women !

  4. So sadApril 4, 2018 at 1:18 AM

    Unfortunately their are way too many rape stories on the dirty of this man. May god be with the victims and their families through this difficult time. God bless.

    • Another one bites the dustApril 5, 2018 at 1:34 AM

      It’s sad that there’s probably more guys out there like him who keep raping women and are getting away with it. Just saw another post about him. Imagine all the others who haven’t said anything

      • RobberApril 6, 2018 at 4:26 PM

        Used to think these stories might’ve been fake, but there’s like 4 now. Numbers don’t lie

  5. #MeTooJanuary 9, 2018 at 5:17 PM

    Went to high school with Alex at McRoberts. Comes off a nice guy. Says all the right things and does all the right things to make you feel safe and secure around him. So you go and tell your friends what a nice guy he is. But the moment you let your guard down, he takes advantage of you. I was 15 when he raped me. I felt like I couldn’t tell anyone. After I ran around telling everyone what a nice guy he was, I felt like everyone would just think that I was lying. That I asked for it, but then I just changed my mind. But I didn’t ask for it. I kept begging him to stop, but the more I begged him to stop, the harder he would go and the more it would hurt. Seeing all these posts about him, makes me feel like I should have said something. I should have reported him. I’m sorry I didn’t speak up. I thought and hoped that it ended with me. I’m sorry.

    • #MeTooJanuary 12, 2018 at 1:56 PM

      Same thing happened to me at McRoberts, felt like I couldn’t say anything bc everyone always says what a nice guy he was. Felt that no one would believe me. Worst feeling in the world, I felt like someone took my voice away

  6. Brooke AJanuary 2, 2018 at 9:26 AM

    This POF works at Vancity Bank. Credit unions have no morals

    • Take Down AlexSeptember 6, 2018 at 8:22 PM

      Hi, I work for Vancity. Many of us know about Alex and are looking for any way we can take him down because we fear for the safety of our coworkers, but this is not simple.

      Vancity can’t do anything about this without legitimate evidence. If the articles were enough to legally remove him and charge him it would have been done by now. Things become more tense everyday as more people find out and I believe it will only be a matter of time but we want this over before anyone else gets hurt.

      If you have any helpful input, evidence, or are willing to come forward with other women. Please contact us: [email protected]

    • Shame shame shameJanuary 15, 2018 at 9:35 AM

      Shame on Vancity for hiring this rapist!!!! I’ve noticed that there’s 3 different women on here who have shared the story of their assault!!! Shame on Vancity Bank!!!!

    • Vancity is GarbageJanuary 9, 2018 at 4:58 PM

      Vancity Bank is garbage.

    • Dan the ManJanuary 5, 2018 at 1:14 AM

      Agreed. Everyone stay away from Vancity bank, is it really safe to give your money and financial needs in the hands of a serial rapist???? Let alone the bank who hired him?????

  7. NinaDecember 29, 2017 at 12:27 AM

    It is not too late for you to report him to authorities. Speak up, so there’s a record of your assault on file against him. His assaults need to stop. You’re not only saving yourself, you’re saving all future women who he may assault

    • Brooke AJanuary 2, 2018 at 9:27 AM

      Exactly, people who go through an assault must contact authorities — BE A VOICE

  8. LindaNovember 17, 2017 at 1:14 PM

    To the op: I’m sorry this happened to you and I’m even more sorry that you feel like it’s not worth it going to the law. I’m aware the system feels like a failure when it comes to these types of incidents but, there are times it does work. It’s not too late for you to go to authorities and get the justice you deserve, send this disgusting human to jail and with enough hope, he’ll experience what it’s like to be violated while he’s serving his time behind bars

    • TristanNovember 21, 2017 at 2:10 AM

      Too bad the VPD is too busy handing out “distracted driving violations” & speeding tickets at the bottom of a hill instead of actually working on REAL crime. Yes folks our high taxes in BC is going towards lazy cops who hide behind the bushes in hopes to catch you on your phone, so they can give you a $500 ticket – justice served.

    • Super MikeNovember 18, 2017 at 12:42 PM

      Oh good ol’ revenge

      Rapists should get raped in return as a form of justice

  9. Rachel MaNovember 13, 2017 at 11:49 PM

    OP, as a rape victim myself I advice that you should reach out to a rape crisis centre or support group. Vancouver isn’t reliable bringing justice when it comes to a sexual assault, but one thing it does have is outreach centres and support groups. I understand why you didn’t come out to authorities, b/c I never did but one thing I regret is that I didn’t seek out mental aid sooner. Please reach out, there are people who care and want to help you. This is too large or a boulder for you to carry on your own

  10. AshleyNovember 11, 2017 at 10:37 AM

    OP, you should have gone to authorities so this criminal can be put behind bars where he belongs

  11. FrankNovember 9, 2017 at 7:33 PM

    Never trust a guy who wears turtlenecks and has goofy eyebrows

  12. NicoleNovember 8, 2017 at 3:40 PM

    Bahaha Langara’s finest has finally been outed. I use to bump into this freak during parties and all he did was get girls really drunk and high then push his nasty self on them. Bout’ time some one blasted his rapist ass

  13. ChithraNovember 7, 2017 at 3:30 AM

    So you never reported this to the police?

    • PorcupineNovember 7, 2017 at 6:38 AM

      Well, she has now. The Dirty Police.

  14. NobodyNovember 6, 2017 at 11:46 PM

    Nice guy’s who keep buying you shots are doing it for one reason.

  15. AlishaNovember 6, 2017 at 11:11 PM

    Dang, this was so hard to read. So sorry this happened to you OP. I also go to UBC and I’ve heard a lot of girls experiencing this type of assault. People always say that theDirty is a horrible site, but it also has its upsides like being able to warn others. Thanks for opening up OP. I’ll be keeping my eyes open for this waste of a life

  16. jack.hahnNovember 6, 2017 at 10:28 PM

    OP: “…All I wanted to do was kiss him. When we got there, he started kissing me and he started taking off my clothes. Then he started trying to go inside me and that’s when I said no. I was so drunk and nauseous and it all happened so fast…”. OP, while I DO NOT in any way condone the alleged actions of this POS Alex, This WAS a preventable situation on your part. YOU were sufficiently drunk to be nauseous, YOU took a stranger home with you, YOU allowed him to remove your clothes, and you only said no when the assault was about to occur. YOU are at least partially to blame for allowing yourself to be victimized. People drink too much alcohol when they WANT to make bad decisions, not take responsibility for the consequences of those decisions, and cleanse their memory of their culpability for those actions. I learned that from observing my alcoholic father, and choosing to use him as an example for how to not live my life.

  17. PorcupineNovember 6, 2017 at 5:08 PM

    Good post. Need more guys outted for rape on thedirty.

    Best place to warn others. Going to the authorities won’t warn other potential victims.

    Thanks too Nik , for this platform. I hope the OP realizes she did probably save others… But that can only happen if ppl know about the Dirty like she found out. … it should def be common knowledge this site exists… One day!

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