Harpinder Parmar — Violated
THE DIRTY ARMY: In the first week we chatted for hours every day and got along well. Our first date was amazing. I would call on our “set” time but as time passed he ghosted. I let him have his time to figure out what he wanted as he seemed confused and we reconnected after a couple of weeks. He said he missed me and still wanted to see me. But that his parents wouldn’t approve if they were to find out as we have a big age gap. I don’t look my age at all. We met up again and then he did the same thing. He stated that he had issues with his phone and was also missing messages / calls from other people. I could not tell if I was really blocked or was it a phone issue. I did look at his phone and it was in bad shape.
Then months passed and we matched again and he messaged immediately and apologized for his behaviour. We had a good conversation about his past behaviour, intentions and he said that now that he finished school he had more time for me. So I gave him one more chance. We met up, he didn’t even pay for my snack and drink although I was the only one eating and I called him out for it. It would have been a kind gesture since he was “apologizing” and all. He also apologized for that. Our physical chemistry was undeniable but soon to find out the same pattern. I had 3 dates and he basically lied to be intimate with me each time. After each date, he would be busy and would not communicate at all. The only way I contacted him was through another number. I feel extremely violated, almost to a sexual assault because I was only intimate with him based on certain context he presented to me. I am a single mom, I do not sleep around. He took advantage of me. He said sweet things, offered help so that I thought there was something more. I have been very clear on my profiles and conversations with him that I do not do hookups and was not a booty call. He emotionally manipulated me. He claims that he did not want a committed relationship. I never asked for a committed relationship, just respect and decency to at least talk it over but was ghosted and blocked instead. Then when I finally got a hold of him, he tried to flip it around and called me crazy… Clear signs of abuse that I know far too well. I have seen him on Tinder and Bumble. He is charming with a boyish naivete but is not to be trusted as he knows full well what he is doing. As far as I’m concerned he violated me.