Harpinder Parmar — Violated

Harpinder Parmar — Violated

THE DIRTY ARMY:  In the first week we chatted for hours every day and got along well. Our first date was amazing. I would call on our “set” time but as time passed he ghosted. I let him have his time to figure out what he wanted as he seemed confused and we reconnected after a couple of weeks. He said he missed me and still wanted to see me. But that his parents wouldn’t approve if they were to find out as we have a big age gap. I don’t look my age at all. We met up again and then he did the same thing. He stated that he had issues with his phone and was also missing messages / calls from other people. I could not tell if I was really blocked or was it a phone issue. I did look at his phone and it was in bad shape.

Then months passed and we matched again and he messaged immediately and apologized for his behaviour. We had a good conversation about his past behaviour, intentions and he said that now that he finished school he had more time for me. So I gave him one more chance. We met up, he didn’t even pay for my snack and drink although I was the only one eating and I called him out for it. It would have been a kind gesture since he was “apologizing” and all. He also apologized for that. Our physical chemistry was undeniable but soon to find out the same pattern. I had 3 dates and he basically lied to be intimate with me each time. After each date, he would be busy and would not communicate at all. The only way I contacted him was through another number. I feel extremely violated, almost to a sexual assault because I was only intimate with him based on certain context he presented to me. I am a single mom, I do not sleep around. He took advantage of me. He said sweet things, offered help so that I thought there was something more. I have been very clear on my profiles and conversations with him that I do not do hookups and was not a booty call. He emotionally manipulated me. He claims that he did not want a committed relationship. I never asked for a committed relationship, just respect and decency to at least talk it over but was ghosted and blocked instead. Then when I finally got a hold of him, he tried to flip it around and called me crazy… Clear signs of abuse that I know far too well. I have seen him on Tinder and Bumble. He is charming with a boyish naivete but is not to be trusted as he knows full well what he is doing. As far as I’m concerned he violated me.


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  1. AssbustingSeptember 25, 2018 at 2:46 PM

    Sound like a hoe who put up before getting paid lesson learned hoe

    • SmartaasOctober 2, 2018 at 10:25 PM

      Ur craaaaazy girl! WTF

  2. VanSeptember 11, 2018 at 3:25 AM

    Did he use to be a cab driver in surrey…..?

  3. bonbonAugust 22, 2018 at 7:00 PM

    Let me get this straight, you spread your legs on the very first date. Then the second. Then the third. I can pretty much guarantee you invited this naive boy back to your place too. There’s one person who was definitely taken advantaged of here, and it ain’t you honey.

  4. LOLAugust 22, 2018 at 12:05 AM

    How is this rape?? You consented to sex! A lot of men will lie and tell you what you want to hear just to get you into bed, be an adult about it.

  5. AntisleezeAugust 18, 2018 at 5:31 PM

    You sound ultra sleezy tbh, get help

  6. WonderwomenAugust 18, 2018 at 3:56 PM

    Girl have some class! Why are you opening your legs to someone you just met?? Why are you online dating if you can’t be women enough to tell someone what you want? Be upfront and tell them no sex before monogamy! I hope you are not stupid enough to bring random guys you meet at home so your kid can see. Now you probably pissed off this kid by posting him and there is a good chance your picture will posted. Also the truth is people flake online, don’t take it so personal-just move on.

  7. dirdizapseAugust 10, 2018 at 8:48 AM

    Pure crazy

  8. ermaAugust 4, 2018 at 9:38 PM

    ur a dumba55

  9. DoItRightAugust 2, 2018 at 9:35 AM


  10. FudiAugust 1, 2018 at 12:11 AM

    Run him over in your vehicle.

  11. South Asian boyJuly 30, 2018 at 11:18 PM

    What does her being a single mom have to do with this? Are single moms not allowed to date? Are single moms not allowed to find love again? Single moms do the hardest jobs and get slammed either way.

    You people are so judgemental and not focussing on the real point here.

    He contacted her 3x, sweet tales and lied to sleep/rape her. She was probably vulnerable as most Single moms are.

    It was premeditated.

  12. Greg1July 30, 2018 at 9:12 PM

    From a guy’s perspective we do have to look at the details here.

    He lied. Manipulated. Get another notch in his belt.

    Doing whatever he could to get her in bed no matter the cost to her.


  13. AlybearJuly 30, 2018 at 7:15 PM

    I’ve known this woman for many years and she is truthful. I suggest to any of you cutting her down to hear the full story, not just one sided.

  14. Whaa whaaJuly 26, 2018 at 10:55 PM

    Get over it. So your saying you didnt want a commitment either? Then you’ve only hooked up/booty called, which is probably what you were initially going for. This website is meant for real dogs/chesters/low lifes. Not someone who blocked you/ignored your calls. I agree with others, you are the crazy one. Just move on and stop chasing and take care of your child.

  15. BatmanJuly 25, 2018 at 9:59 PM

    What a bitter little baby. Leave the guy alone you knew what you were getting into and the best part is he didn’t even play you! You played yourself and your bitter that he’s not giving you attention! Get over yourself lady!

  16. White girlJuly 24, 2018 at 11:36 PM

    I can tell you are Indian. I have no sympathy for you because it’s clear you haven’t stood up for yourself and have let him get away with WAY too much from day one.
    The second I heard “parent’s wouldn’t approve of age difference” I would have been out the door! You aren’t dating his parents, so why should he even care? he’s a grown man he should date whoever he wants!
    It’s you who let this go on and on because your culture and family don’t teach girls to have self esteem, or even that they deserve EQUAL RESPECT ..which he hasn’t shown you by the fact he wasted your time and lied to you. Would he treat his guy friends the same way? His father or brother? I THINK NOT!!!

    Seriously, you are part of the problem and have no one to blame besides your own brainwashing aka “upbringing” that teaches women are “beneath” men.

    My only concern is that guys like this try to date white girls, and can only maintain the fake facade of treating women with equality and not as second class citizens for so long… keep your sexist degrading culture in your own country and stop whining about it. Instead, actually take action against it, from day one, by raising your daughters with actual self worth!

  17. LolJuly 24, 2018 at 9:29 PM

    Girl, you sound like the crazy one. You clearly stated you could only get a hold of him off a different number… WOW

    TInder and Bumble are sites to find f*ckfriends. You should think twice before signing up, being a single mother and all…