John Verhoeven — Abusive, Controlling, Narcissist. Stole $31k from me & ruined my life.
THE DIRTY ARMY: John ruined my life. He was amazing at first until I moved in with him and after about 5 months I realized he wasn’t the same person I thought he was. He was extremely obsessive about everything. If I made a sandwich for lunch and left a crumb he would get upset then lecture me on how to clean up. Often times I’d be in the middle of making something to eat when he would come in and start yelling at me about how disgusting I was and didn’t know how to clean up after myself . That was the beginning of the worst 4 yrs of my life. He smoke weed everyday. When he was late for work he would call me on his way asking me what excuse he should make, then tell me I was worthless if whatever I came up with wasn’t what he deemed “a good excuse” . After a while he started using me for his excuses telling his boss he had to go help me because my car broke down, or he had to pick me up from the airport and got stuck in traffic. He ran late with everything and I noticed he blamed the reason he was late for friends and family on me as well. He blamed everything that ever went wrong on me. He would steal my adderall from me then when I’d run out and ask if he took any he would convince me that I take way too high of a dosage and it was causing me to have psychological issues and memory loss. I have taken the same dosage for years. When I met John he was taking 10mg a day. After 1 yr his dosage increased to 45mg daily and it def showed in his angry outburst and ocd becoming extremely problematic but when I’d try to talk to him about it he would always blame me.
He said he had to increase his dosage to keep up with me. (Not true). I went to bed every night around 10:30 -11pm and I woke up 6am during the week and 8am on weekends. Johns ability to wake up during the week for work became non existent and for 2.5 years he relied on me to get him up for work. If I didn’t, he wouldn’t wKe up. I noticed he started staying up all night. And often times when I’d wake up, he’d still be awake from the night before. John over time became extremely controlling and violent. (See photos) he started locking me out of the bedroom when I was ready for bed and I had 2 choices. Sleep on the couch or wait til he was done which often times wasn’t until 3am. Because I don’t feel like spending hours on this I’ll jump to the big parts. One day I got tired of waking John up for work mainly because he treated me like shot. So I didn’t wake him up. He got fired. Blamed me then forced me to pay him 20,000 via bank wire for costing him his job. I said I didn’t have that kind of money and that resulted in physical abuse. He head butted me one Saturday afternoon and cracked my nose. My nose is now crooked. He would throw me on the ground then scream in my ears as loud as he could, busting my left eardrum. If I fought back it got worse. He dragged me by my ponytail more than a few times. The worst it ever got was the night he threw me across the kitchen bouncing off the edge of the granite counter tops then head first into the wood beams on the wall before collapsing on the hardwood floors. I remember waking up on the floor not knowing what happened and when I tried to get up I felt the most excruciating pain on my right side. When I looked over at it all I could see was blood. I had a 4” in long gash on my hip . I crawled to try and the get phone and told me to stop faking, to get up kicking the phone out of my hand so I couldn’t call for help. When I tried to crawl to the neighbors he let my dog out to run away knowing I couldn’t run to get him. He let my dog out to run away every time he was mad or I did something he didn’t like. I ended up in the Emergency Room that night and I had to pay the $6000 hospital bill. I realized I was in an abusive relationship and I was scared. John convined me I was to blame for him getting fired so I wired him 14,000 because if I didn’t, he was going to turn me in for fraud. Obviously I’m not a fraudster but like I said, it was a very subsidize relationship and after 2 yrs I had no self love or self esteem. I believed everything he told me I was. Worthless. Trash. Fraudster, liar, disgusting… so I felt if I didn’t pay him what he wanted he would find a way to make me suffer even more and I was tired of being physical abused and verbally assaulted. He forced me to pay him in total $26,000 which was everything I had. I finally left him Dec 2016 after he killed my dog Tyson with poison then denied paying for the ER vet to work on him knowing I couldn’t pay because I gave him all my money. I begged him to pay and he said no. When the vet suggested euthanasia since his condition was worsening John happily paid for that. Sadly my best friend, aka My dog of 9.5 yrs suffered for16 hours straight before his heart finally gave out before euthanasia could be administered. John is a narcissist, he’s a bully. He’s addicted to weed, adderall, and porn. When I left him he destroyed my car costing over $5700 of damage to my interior dashboard and underneath. I had him arrested but he convinced me that if I dropped the charges he’d pay me in full for the cost I paid out of my own pocket. So I dropped the charges. It’s been 9 months and John still hasn’t paid me a dime. In total he took over 31,000 from me. He left me with not s dime to my name. He says I owe him money for his bail cost and attorney fees. John Verhoeven is not the person he pretends to be. In the public, he’s quite perfect, has a perfect life. But behind closed doors he is very very different.