Kelly Schuchhardt AKA Kelly Smalley
THE DIRTY ARMY: This is a warning to any man she’s ever told or will tell that she loves them. I’m not psychologist, so these are speculation, but they sure do fit. She’s a love addict with bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and a victim complex as well as a sociopath and a compulsive liar. Bipolar disorder- “May exhibit behaviors characterized as impulsive or high-risk, such as hypersexuality or excessive spending”
Borderline personality disorder- “lack of identity (if she tells you she likes something or knows about something, don’t believe her. She only says that because she thinks you like it or knows that you do), frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment (overlapping sexual partners), impulsive or dangerous behaviors (unprotected sex with multiple partners), sensitive to feelings of rejection, criticism, isolation, and perceived failure, feeling of victimization (nothing is her fault or it’s just a misunderstanding), indiscriminate sex with multiple partners to protect against abandonment.”
With her every day is opposite day. Anything she tells you, believe the opposite. Not married? Lie. If you already know she’s married, she’ll tell you they are getting a divorce. Lie. They haven’t had sex in years? Lie. He cheats on her and spends all their money frivolously? Lie; she’s the one that does that. She tells people he beats her. Lie. She tells that lie because she is with/has just been with another guy and needs an excuse for why she can’t talk at the moment, ie she’s “freaking out.” She’ll tell you she’s “never done anything like this before” (meaning having a relationship while still married, even though their marriage is supposedly dead) and that “you’re special” (you’re not) and that “loyalty is important to her.” All lies. I’m pretty sure that proximity is the only requirement for her to pursue a man and that her loyalty is not her concern, only your loyalty. She’s been married for 11 years, but I’m pretty sure she’s always had one or more sexual partners on the side.
When she friended me on Facebook, I saw that her friends list was hidden from even her friends, but she forgot about ‘friend suggestion.’ I must have gotten over 50 friend suggestions from people in the previous town she had just moved from, and not a single one was a woman. She hid her friends list because 99% of her friends were guys aged 18 to 40 and she didn’t want any of them seeing each other and realizing how easy she is.
She’ll never give you a time frame on anything, because she never wants to be pinned down on anything. If you get angry at one of her lies, she tries to gaslight you and say you’re acting crazy. She told one guy that she was working on that she was “loyal to a fault” (same lie she used on me) and then 4 days later fucked another guy. If she tells you she’s going to spend the weekend with her mom, she’s going to spend it with one of her side dudes.
She told me I wouldn’t have to worry about being cheated on anymore since I was with her, then I found out about the three other guys and that everything she said about her husband was a lie. She’ll text you almost 24/7 then go dark for 4 to 6 hours, saying that her husband or former boyfriend attacked her and that she needed “time” when in reality she was with another man. Then she’ll want to call you so she can cry to you. If she’s crying, she’s manipulating you.
She will only admit to a lie if you have proof and then only as much as you can prove. Then she’ll justify and minimize. “We never had sex” (that was a minimization she used for two adults, her and a guy in Virginia, in a year plus relationship. Never believed that one), “it was only once and it was horrible and we used a condom” (found out she was with someone else then. The only way she’d use a condom is if the guy insisted). Her stomping grounds range from Richmond and Bedford, Virginia to Rock Hill, SC, from Asheville to Charlotte, NC.
I gave her every opportunity to apologize. This is the consequence of ignoring those opportunities.