THE DIRTY ARMY: So Nik, I met this guy on a dating website and on face value, he is attractive, educated and seemed to be looking for a serious relationship. Initially, I thought he was a nice guy with serious intentions. Therefore, we went on a few dates. Pretty soon after, he stated he had to leave the state due to a “work project” and head to Florida. In the time he went away, we maintained communication via texting and facetime. He then invited me to see him and I obliged because I thought he was looking for a serious relationship. (Dumb on my part, I can admit.)
Ifeanyi Okoye-Aversion mentioned marriage and kids in his future multiple times. Also, when he courted me he was a gentleman. And mentioned how he isn’t into playing games and “I try to treat people the way I want to be treated.” Prior to me going to Florida, I expected that intimacy was going to occur and told him to bring condoms, as we knew each other for nearly 2 months at that point. But on the first encounter, while he had condoms he did not use them. I even asked him if he had it, and he said, “I have the condom in my hand.” I thought he was in the process of putting it on but he didn’t.
Of course, this freaked me out because I didn’t want to risk pregnancy or STD’s. However, he lost his erection soon so I felt that the likelihood of pregnancy or STD was low. On the second sexual encounter, he did not use a condom again. It was early in the morning and I was not completely alert, and he pretty much started having sex with me, with no foreplay. I guess this was another red flag. Again, he had condoms on him. When I asked him questions about his sexual history prior, he mentioned he didn’t have unprotected sex unless he has been in a relationship for 6 months. Yet he knows me for 2 months and had unprotected sex with me twice, despite me requesting condom usage.
I recently did testing for STD’S and currently awaiting results. I even informed him that I am concerned I might get pregnant and would get Plan B, and he was non-chalant and said, “If you get pregnant, f*ck it.” I inquired on the context and he exemplified that he meant abortion. Another red flag, for someone to claim to be religious, wouldn’t that go against his morals? And him being non-chalant was troubling. He did affirm he didn’t “come” in me though. Nonetheless, in the few days I spent with him in Florida, we seemed to vibe together. He actually implied twice that I move in with him. Stating how it would be fun if we lived together and how if I lived with him in the area, he wouldn’t be bored. Even before I visited him in Florida, he asked us to be exclusive by the 3rd date which I felt was too soon. Especially since I was dating other guys.
Continue reading- It gets better… He name drops Kevin Heart so lure women. Amazing.- nik