Be careful with Em, she wants your money!

Be careful with Em, she wants your money!

THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, so I went on this date with “Em” from Tinder. Her profile said she was 26. We planned to meet up for drinks near Soma by my work, ended up at a place called Press Club. After talking a bit, she told me she is actually 30 years old. She is from the Philippines and has moved to America a couple times, but she’s only been in SF for two months. She also told me her past few guys she’s met from Tinder have been older and for some reason they cut her off eventually after hanging out a couple times. She kept telling me she wanted me to let her now what was wrong with her, if I could figure it out. She also told me her real name starts with a M and that’s why she goes by the nickname “Em.” Interesting, huh?

She had a glass of wine already when I got there and we ordered about three more rounds. I asked for the check and paid for all of it ($84). After we left, she pulled out a wax pen and we started hitting that. We were making out as we went to a bar at the top of a hotel, “The View.” We got up there checked out the view, she didn’t act like she was going to buy anything at the bar, and I wasn’t really feeling the place, so we left. Went to Lush Lounge on Polk for a round ($18), and then McTeague’s ($14). So I had already spent over $100 including the Uber.

Continue Reading- it’s amazing. Don’t worry my son, these are the times we live in.- nik

At the last bar after she order a round, I asked if she wanted to get that one. She did pay. She got pretty drunk and as we were leaving to eventually go our separate ways, she orders two hot dogs from a street vendor outside. When it comes time to pay she looks at me to pay. I didn’t have any cash, nor did I want to pay for something I didn’t even want in the first place, and didn’t ask for. So I tell her she can get cash from the ATM inside of the bar.

She takes about 15 minutes and eventually I see her waiting on the street for an Uber. When I go ask her what she’s doing. She shows me her phone and that she can’t get the Uber request to work. She was drunk and not requesting it the right way. I help her out, and we go our separate ways, but felt like we’d do it again sometime.

A week passes, she’s followed me on IG, and I see how she’s doing and if she wants to do it again. She hits me with this text that says she shouldn’t have had to pay for that one round, and that it’s not in her values and standards to do that. WTF. The convo went on for a few back and forths and basically she is delusional. Wish I could post the whole thing. Literally just happened an hour ago and she’s blocked me on IG and unmatched me on Tinder so I tried to gather up all I could find that I had screen shotted. She’s out to get paid for and that’s about it. I mean, usually girls will at least offer or pay for a round, is that so much to ask if I’m paying for like $150 worth? And it was the first time meeting! “Em”, I think I’ve figured out what’s wrong with you.

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  1. NonyabizSeptember 5, 2018 at 5:21 PM

    Dude, get some [email protected] you made the choice to pay and extend yourself each time. Then you continue to reach out after you discovered what she was after in the first place. Hate the game not the playa. Insecurity isn’t cute.

  2. Giovanni hotoJune 30, 2018 at 12:59 AM

    10 million Filipinas in The Bay and you got scammed by the 30+ one who prolly has 2 kids back in her village and lives with her uncle in Daly City or some sheeeit.

  3. Sosuave25March 31, 2018 at 7:16 PM

    Bro come on a 100$ I went to Colombia spent a 100$ on a first date with a girl I met off tinder and had an amazing night and rest of the year traveling with her . In SF you have to spend a couple dollars bro a relationship is an investment .

  4. EastbayFebruary 28, 2018 at 6:49 PM

    Dude shoulda for her a hot dog what a dum ass

  5. T From O.C.December 9, 2017 at 9:12 PM

    Did women pull this crap in Ancient Greece and Egypt?
    I am appalled.

  6. $1 Hot dog tipsNovember 21, 2017 at 1:37 AM

    A real woman doesn’t get drunk on a date , esp on a first date with a random guy she met off Tinder.
    Period. Did I make myself clear ??

    You’re obviously one of those dirty girls that go bar hopping yourself in your 30’s with random men off tinder , and expect him to play along and pay for each bar tab.

    A real first date consists of : Two mature adults sitting down together in a cafe , lounge or any casual setting. They either order coffee or a meal , whatever they feel like doing. That’s it. The guy picks up the tab and calls it a night. A mature person is wise enough to feel out the person and not waste their time by making the other person spend over $200 on one night.

    Cheap date isn’t based on how much you spend on a person. It’s how you ACT and CARRY yourself. You can spend $300 in one night and act CHEAP as hell by how you get drunk chasing guys in random bars. You can also be tasteful by spending under $50 in one night getting a coffee and seeing if you clique. Wisdom speaks for itself. The more you spend on a random person you just met , the bigger fool you make of yourself. :) Got that ??

    A cheap sleazy first date consists of : tacky girl with no class getting wasted , pissed ass drunk allowing a guy take advantage of her by taking her to several bars, and expects him to pay each round where he’s just looking to get laid.

    You get treated based on how you carry yourself. If you carry yourself like a lady by not ( getting pissed ass drunk going to 3-4 random bars with a random guy you just met off tinder , etc ). Point made clear !!!

    Real woman know their self worth by not stringing along men , bar hopping on a first date, expecting the guy to pay where they act more like hoes. Real women selectively give their time to men esp on a first date.

  7. Hot dog vendorNovember 20, 2017 at 2:43 AM

    Everyone seems to be commenting and not reading in between the fine lines. We don’t know the whole story. We can only give input at a certain extent.

    Firstly to the guy / girl or imposter posing as herself to answer your question on : ” You didn’t even get her dinner and she had to get a hot dog ”

    How do we know if he even asked her for dinner and if she was hungry or didn’t want dinner. We don’t know that. Firstly , she ran off to a hot dog vendor like an idiot didn’t even have a buck in her wallet. Why would she look at him to pay where she went out separately to get it. That’s tacky.

    It’s not like they were sitting down eating at one place. But i can see they were hopping around from place to place getting drinks .
    Why should a guy pay for a girl that wants to go bar hopping in many places. I would understand one place. But 2-4 I don’t think any real man would pay for a girl to toy him around like that. What if he wasn’t feeling her or didn’t like her that much ?

    Only a sucker would let a girl toy him around like that expecting him to pull out his wallet wherever she went. She was testing his limits and was hoping to find a sucker that would chase her and pay for everything. That’s obvious.

    A real woman wouldn’t make a big deal about pulling out a buck to get a hot dog. Actually she wouldn’t even get a hot dog if he didn’t offer it. She would cut the date short , not string him along hoping he would spend $200-$399 on her lame ass.

    Real women never let guys they just met spend a lot of money on them. ESP on a first date. They barely know each other. Even a coffee or drink would have been acceptable. Why commit to spending $200-$400 on one night on a random person you just met. What if you don’t want to see them again. That’s ridiculous. Only insecure ppl do that so they can brag to their corny friends how much he spent on her. Then dump him next day. Losers. Girl seems like she goes out on many dates for sure gets around. No doubt. Looking for a sucker.

    • jack.hahnNovember 20, 2017 at 11:13 PM

      @Hot dog vendor: You sound like two or more of: the OP himself, his wingman/apologist/bro, OP’s mother, or some other $30K millionaire.

    • BoomIgotyourboyfriendNovember 20, 2017 at 3:02 PM

      I’m not sure if your passive aggressive comment was aimed at me. But given the FACT THAT HE STATED HIMSELF that he wouldn’t buy her hotdogs coupled with the fact he kept a ledger of the date costs I think its safe to assume he didn’t ask her to dinner. That would have been way over his pay grade.

      Its tacky for her to eat? WTF is wrong with you? Were you dropped on the head as a baby? Are you really trying to stick up for yourself by saying it wasn’t your idea so she should have paid? (I’m convinced you are this green text loser). Thats not the way dates work. Don’t ask her out if you can’t afford to for the date 2. pay for STREET HOT DOGS 3. pay for round trip uber without her having to ask.

      You sound like you were raised by wolves. Simple & basic manners and etiquette…. “only a sucker” *facepalm* You are clearly an idiot. You already established that by submitting this post. ANY GUY with decent manners would pay for the WHOLE date and her transportation to and from. Why do you think you are so entitled to her time and money? When all men do is roll out of bed and get dressed. It takes a pretty woman at least an hour to get ready. The expenses of makeup, hair, clothes, nails, etc. and you are complaining about having to pay for the whole date? You’re pathetic. I’m pretty sure the reason why you can’t find any dates is because you’re so dumb. REAL WOMEN know their self worth and won’t let some FOOL take advantage of their time and attention. I don’t even know this girl and I can tell she clearly does not get around. Especially since you couldn’t even afford to take her on a first date and he respectfully declined your second date. You whiny a*s loser. Maybe if you got a better job and seek help for your under developed brain then maybe you can see what EVERYONE in here is talking about. You aka “this guy” is a cheap, poor, loser.

      You are the corny LOSER who is SO butthurt that he got REJECTED for having no manners and being cheap that you have to fight random strangers in the comments. I really hope she takes my advice and puts you on blast.

      • Hot dog tipsNovember 21, 2017 at 1:04 AM

        You’re obviously the girl defending herself. I’ve made my point clear. You sound like a lame pathetic person yourself.

        There’s no need to stoop to that level and call anyone a loser or cheap or whatever. You go on about that which is not tasteful.

        She clearly is the loser here, Any real woman doesn’t go on random dates with men she met off tinder.

        Period. Did that shut your corny ass up ?

        A real woman takes her time to get to know a man and if he’s worth her time he would be lucky enough to have a coffee with her. One hour of her time.

        Period. A real woman doesn’t get pissed as drunk bar hopping in 3-4 bars esp on a first date. No real woman acts that way.

        By you calling the guy cheap , loser , poor etc shows how insecure you are. He has a right to be cheap or whatever if he wanted to. A man usually leads the way. If he didn’t offer her food she should have starved and went home.

        No I’m not the guy posting. Theres no need to stoop to that level. My input is the way it is.

        It’s obvious he didn’t get her a hot dog bc she wasn’t worth it. He was pb considering her as a booty call option based off the way she was acting getting drunk as hell.

        Real women cut it short. Their time is valued. A man appreciates their time and is lucky to get an hour of her time. He didn’t suggest dinner bc she was pb more of a one night stand for him . He was hoping to get laid but didn’t. The girl was digging deep in his pockets vomiting on the corner after eye got drunk as hell. She’s lucky he called a cab for her and didn’t take advantage of her .

  8. BoomIgotyourboyfriendNovember 19, 2017 at 6:58 PM

    Also…..his green texts just go to show that people without iPhones really are cheap. #teamem

  9. ashNovember 19, 2017 at 6:46 PM

    umm pretty sure I’m not paying for ANYTHING on a date….this guys a moron no wonder he’s single and on tinder.

  10. Generation xxxNovember 19, 2017 at 2:41 PM

    She looks petite, no wonder the drinks got her tipsy. Sometimes women need to be taken care of. Didn’t even take her for a proper meal, what a degenerate.

  11. BoomIgotyourboyfriendNovember 19, 2017 at 10:38 AM

    Em- Please post a pic of this salty guy who can’t handle the truth. First of all, the cheap f*ck didn’t even take her to dinner? Just filled her with drinks……she had to resort to a street vendor AND YOU WERE TOO CHEAP FOR THAT?????!!!! What kind of life are you living that you are so oblivious how to court a woman? I really think HE should be blasted for being cheap and stupid. Its absolutely appalling that he not only was such a loser to ASK her to pay but then to get so upset she wouldn’t go out with him again he posted her on this website. He has serious issues. Probably the first attractive girl he’s ever been out with….and the screenshots he posted? Those were the worst he could come up with??? She wasn’t even being mean or anything–extremely polite. I wouldn’t even have been that nice. I would have blocked him when I got home. Fingers crossed his new job allows him to actually take someone on a real date and that posting this taught him a lesson on how the world actually works.

  12. €€€November 19, 2017 at 10:19 AM

    Op is packing a miniature hot dog, sounds like.

  13. 2017November 19, 2017 at 10:06 AM

    Wow you are a cheap bastard I can only imagine your face every time the bill came.. sorry never pay on first dates always offer but I never have to. You cheap dick I’m sure you will never get laid

  14. CasanovaNovember 19, 2017 at 7:49 AM

    Sounds like this guy just couldn’t afford a cheap $200 to finish the date and seal the deal she was obviously DTF and your crying about $150 you will never find love on tinder and if you can’t afford to pay for don’t deserve to play its the world you signed up for with girls on a app desperate to meet strangers online

  15. DisgustedNovember 19, 2017 at 4:54 AM

    You’re obviously poor and can’t afford to be dating. You shouldn’t even be trying to find a woman. Heaven forbid you do and you reproduce. Focus on earning some money. $100 is nothing. Broke men don’t deserve to get laid.

  16. BatmanNovember 19, 2017 at 1:15 AM

    They live in San Fran, but complain about having to spend $100 on a date. BWAHAHAHA!!!!

    • BethanyNovember 20, 2017 at 10:57 AM

      Hahaha brilliant

  17. Dating tipsNovember 19, 2017 at 12:19 AM

    Guys an idiot for asking her to go to the ATM to pay for the hot dogs and other round of drinks. However the girl is an idiot as well. I don’t understand why she had to run to an outside vendor to get a hot dog and look at him like he’s going to pull out his wallet. I mean if they were sitting at a table, that would have been different.

    But this chick clearly shows that she wants to lead the way and go out on her own , grab a hot dog and look at him to pay. That says a lot about her as a person.

    A real lady let’s a guy lead the way. If he wanted to get her a hot dog he would have suggested if she wants something else to eat and order it for her. Instead she runs off like a little girl hoping he will chase her and pull out his wallet to pay for her hot dog .

    That’s right. Why should he pay for that. So if she runs to an ice cream truck too he should pull out his wallet. That’s not how a date should be. You sit down on a table like adults and decide what you want to eat and drink together. Not run off like an idiot to get a hot dog. That’s tacky as hell.

    Point made : A real lady allows the man to be a man and lead the way especially on a damn date.

    Ladies learn how to act. Only a fool would chase this little girl. Shows she’s insecure with men leading the way. Just expects them to chase her pulling out dollar bills for her hot dog. A real lady would not want a man to spend all that money on her anyway. Just shows how insecure they really are.

  18. Stop "m"November 18, 2017 at 5:54 PM

    SERIOUSLY WE CAN TELL ITS YOU COMMENTING BACK TO BACK, EM. How awkward, you got put on blast. Let it go. It’s painfully obvious you are commenting defending yourself, no other comments on the dirty look like yours. I wouldn’t of thought low of you if you didn’t try so hard to pretend to be other people commenting 50x. You’re a lunatic. If you’re ashamed of what you did then maybe don’t be a gold digger. You’re 30, why don’t you have any money of your own? You can’t even afford hot dogs but keep calling this guy cheap.

    • Georgia97November 20, 2017 at 6:20 AM

      Sounds like you’re the cheap guy from the date.

  19. Freddy BNovember 18, 2017 at 1:44 PM

    Op you should start exercising sober dates; dinner, coffee and maybe a walk around east oakland.

  20. AriNovember 18, 2017 at 1:09 PM

    Also, I think she should be taken down and his stupid looking cheap, tacky face should be up as a public service. What an asshat

  21. AriNovember 18, 2017 at 1:06 PM

    Sorry, I’m with her. This dude sounds pretty obnoxious and classless. He’s talking about 100 bucks but you’d swear it was 10k to hear him tell it. Asking her if she wanted to get that round? Telling her to go to an ATM? Classless dumpster monkey for sure.

  22. TruthNovember 18, 2017 at 11:53 AM

    Holly sh*t this guy is cheap and dumb as a rock ! Just made himself sound like a moron

  23. TheRainMakerNovember 18, 2017 at 10:57 AM

    The OP should be embarrassed. This girl did nothing wrong. If you ask a girl out, you pay. You’re lucky she even considered a 2nd date with you.

  24. YoNovember 18, 2017 at 9:46 AM

    Feminism ends when the bill arrives. When who are not in positions of power will almost always insist on being courted in this way—it’s part of the rules of engagement. Figure a decent date in a city will be around 200.

  25. BaaabaaablacksheepNovember 18, 2017 at 8:50 AM

    WHO COMPLAINS ABOUT $100 ??!?!?! I don’t care if I have to pay but I’ll do it when I want. Its totally okay to split things. But if a guy is rude about it that’s a bit of a turn off. SanFran is expensive. They should have been financially responsible just in case their date was “broke”. And if they are broke then maybe he shouldn’t be going out on dates in SanFran! Can you imagine how uncomfortable they both felt everytime a check came. Again. I’m just assuming they are tight on funds since they are complaining about $100 and being asked to buy a round of drinks at age 30.

  26. Dirty BNovember 18, 2017 at 8:27 AM

    Females will brag on Instagram about their outfits, the restaurants, their drinks, and the awesome activities but dare they buy a drink or indicate who made it all happen… not a fat chance. #truth

  27. BatmanNovember 18, 2017 at 5:40 AM

    You have champange taste on a beer budget, Goldstein. Maybe you should to to trying to bang yiur sisters friends.

  28. BatmanNovember 18, 2017 at 5:37 AM

    Dude, do you want to get laid or not? THEN PAY. You dont “trade off” on dates. This isnt high school. Open up your wallet, Goldstein.

  29. SenaNovember 18, 2017 at 4:39 AM

    Any woman that eats from a street vendor is gross.

  30. Georgia97November 18, 2017 at 4:26 AM

    OP has champagne tastes on a beer budget.

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