John R. Spencer — Deadbeat dad
THE DIRTY ARMY: Any women in the DMV area or anywhere for that matter be sure to have him wear protection or be on birth control if you have sex with John Spencer of Warrenton Va. I would hate for another woman to be treated the way I have all because they trusted him. John Spencer and I met in March of this year and dated for a couple months. I cannot complain about our relationship too much. Physically he may not be most women’s cup of tea but I was attracted to him and adored him. A week after we broke up I found out I was pregnant. He was very caring and supportive at first even though he made it clear he wanted me to abort. Then that changed. When I didn’t do what he wanted on his time frame, he tried to scare me into an abortion using information from my past. When that didn’t work he started ignoring me. Since that point I’ve been constantly told how much I’m hated, told he was done with the situation until a paternity test was done, accused of not really being pregnant and being made to take a pregnancy test in the Walmart family bathroom while he watched to prove I was, told he was being cut off by his mother if I didn’t get an abortion to try to guilt me into an abortion, then when I didn’t do an abortion a second time in the timeframe he wanted was told he was done until a court ordered paternity test was done, finding out him being cut off was a lie just to make me feel bad for him, and last accused and arrested for assault which was dismissed. This man is probably 350lbs and over 6 feet. I’m 5’6” and at the time I was arrested 20 weeks pregnant with his child. He is double my size and could easily hurt me if he wanted yet somehow I assaulted him. Now I’ll admit I haven’t been the easiest to get along with throughout this situation and accused him of lying about something that he actually wasn’t lying about which I am truly sorry about but I’ve tried to be amicable for the most part. I offered to do a non invasive paternity test which he refused and that’s why he changed his tune to a court ordered test. I offered for us to go to counseling so we could work through our issues so we could learn to coparent together. He refused. I asked him to sign away his rights and that’s the one thing he’d consider. What kind of man refuses to take a paternity test especially if he has doubts? What kind of man has a th woman pregnant with his child arrested for something she didn’t do? I tried reaching out to his mother in hopes as a woman she would understand but she has stood by her son while he continues to behave in this manner. Now I do not know what she is being told but since he has mentioned a paternity test a number of times I can only assume he’s saying it’s not his and I’m just after money. Now again I offered to do a paternity test at my expense and to have him sign away his rights but who knows if she knows that. She even came to court to stand by his side when he had the woman pregnant with his child arrested. I don’t understand that. Even if she hates me for whatever reason she has shown no compassion for her own flesh and blood grandchild. I’ve even reached out to his attorney, Brooke Howard, in hopes he could talk some sense into him for the best interest of our child and that was also a lost cause. I can’t say if he has been telling John to act in this manner but John has said a number of times he doesn’t talk to me without talking to his attorney plus his attorney came to court with him so at the very least he stands by and allows his client to act in such poor taste. Anyways if you meet John he is very charming but do not have unprotected sex with him as I would hate for another woman to experience what I’ve experienced at his hands. And if needed I have the text messages to back up what I’ve said in this and can show the details of what has happened.