THE DIRTY ARMY: Hi Nik, I need advice. A couple of months ago very private pics of me were posted online on a site that is frequented a lot by my peers and friends. The photos were private pics I had sent to a guy who at the time I trusted. I wanted him to like me and that was poor judgement on my part, now that they have been leaked people are saying terrible things about me. Completely false, calling me a wh*re and a sl*t and telling me it would be ok if I died. No one says anything about the guy who did this and its the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. I don’t sleep around and don’t go clubbing and have had a serious bf who loves me and has stuck me trough all this for the past couple of years. But I don’t know what to do, how to overcome this. What would I say if anyone was to ask me about the pictures. And why women constantly get persecuted for situations like this and the guy gets no heat. If he was the slime ball who revealed something private.  Something that was just for him. I am mortified and this has ruined my self confidence. I have panic attacks and am doing terrible in school and work due to me constantly obsessing over this. Any advice how to overcome this?

Time heals all mistakes. You have to ignore it. There is no such thing as privacy anymore, technology killed privacy. You just have to own it and learn from it.- nik