Successful Blog Scary Mommy’s Founder Jill Smokler’s Husband Comes Out As Gay

Successful Blog Scary Mommy’s Founder Jill Smokler’s Husband Comes Out As Gay

Back in 2008, Jill Smokler founded the Scary Mommy blog, which quickly caught on and became a hit, eventually getting purchased by Some Spider, LLC in 2015. Smokler is still involved with the blog, as the President and Editor-in-Chief of it.

Recently, Smokler took to her Facebook to bravely share some very personal news. Namely, her and her husband Jeff have decided to divorce, and it’s due to him coming out as gay.

She issued the news in the following note:

“Yesterday, Jeff and I told our children that we are divorcing, after more than 17 years of marriage and 23 years of togetherness. We also told them that the impetus for the divorce is the fact that Jeff is gay.

Without getting into too much personal detail, this is a reality which we have faced together for many years. And for a very long time, the deep love we had for one another sustained us through the more difficult moments that our increasingly diverging sexuality created.

We have spent more than half of our lives inseparable, and we are very proud of the life and family we have built together. We have been true partners and friends; we are a kickass team. And while we will no longer love each other as husband and as wife, we remain deeply committed to one another as partners and co-parents to the three most incredible kids we could ask for.

It’s our greatest hope that this experience translates into raising empathetic, caring and open-minded children who learn to embrace their differences… and respect and appreciate that which makes others different, too.

‘Love is love is love is love… ‘


Her husband then bravely followed up with a blog post on Scary Mommy entitled When Love Isn’t Enough: Divorcing My Soulmate.

“It’s been four or five years since I knew I was gay,” Jeff openly shared. “Of course I always knew I was different, but when you meet your soulmate when you’re 18 years old — only five years older than my own daughter is now — and that person is a woman, you simply think “thank God then, I can’t be gay.”

So how then do Jill and I now find ourselves in this moment? What changed?” he later questions for the reader. “The truth is, nothing changed. We were simply ready.”

The blog goes on to discuss how they are moving forward and that they recently ran into each other at Target.

He notes that Jill asked him “Are you as happy as I am?” 

“And I was,” Jeff notes.

We applaud this couple for being so open and courageous to share their story in such a public forum. In doing so, they have taken the mask off something that likely happens a lot more than is publicly discussed- a closeted gay man marrying a woman and coming to terms with his sexuality years later into the marriage.

We are also thrilled to hear that they are both finding their happy, something everyone deserves in life.

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