The Dirty Army: Nik, my brother confided to me that his wife and him of 13 years are not having sex?? They have kids pre teen children and both work a lot. They do everything on the weekends together with a full schedule loaded for their kids. I thought from the outside looks that they were like.. The perfect couple?! But, he told me that when he wants to have sex with his wife she gets angry about it? He told me also that his wife told him that her friends also don't have sex with their husbands and it's just a normal thing in a marriage? Is this true? I'm not married and have no kids. I have been in some long term relationships and lived with the worst men but I really cared about them and never kept sex from my boyfriend? I can see fighting and being turned off. I never married because I always assumed you had to be in real love and want to have sex with that person forever! Turns out maybe I was wrong? Do married people stop having sex?? He also told me that his wife doesn't want to do anything new in bed and doesn't like to perform oral sex? He told me that she gets really uncomfortable and feels like she's being put down! Wtf? I told my brother he needs to leave ASAP and that this is not normal at all?! He agrees but isn't sure he can really leave cos of his kids! He says he just doesn't want to be used like a roommate tho cause the guy is loaded. It really broke my heart that I've been so wrong about my brothers marriage? And then, I realized how lucky I am as a person because I actually do know what love is! I would never marry to have kids or to get rich. I really have saved myself for true love and so what if I kissed a few frogs. I didn't jump into a marriage without being absolutely sure I was in love! Hearing my brothers story has helped me see how I would never do this to any man! It made me realize the times I did and how much that must have hurt my ex BF. I have kept sex off men to be spiteful and I think it's so immature. Seeing my brother love this way helps me see why there is a culture of play for pay or whatever you call it. Lol?!! I even told my brother to get some action. He would never do that tho. He did get videos and some toy and his wife found it and flipped out? Nik, what is your advice here? Am I being too harsh cause I don't understand sexless marriages? They are still in their 40's.. I'm 23. I just know if anyone can help me here it's you because you have been thru this a couple times in life(married). I also don't have any married friends to ask besides family and I can't ask them! Thanks for your help!