THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, this is a departure from the norm but I was hoping to get your thoughts. How is someone supposed to find love at 30+ in today’s society? Not a hookup, real love. As a female who has spent her time focused on the “right” things it seems almost impossible once you hit the big 3-0. A bit of background: I’m an ex-model (agency represented so was a solid 9 in my youth) and spent the past 7 years building a career instead of porta-pottying around the world. I work as a technology consultant and pull down a respectable 6-figure income. I maintain my health and fitness through regular workouts and healthy eating. +2s make me a 32DD and I have an ITG from my fit lifestyle. I have no doubt that I will be a catch for the right guy. The problem is finding him. For some reason the men that actively pursue me are all married coworkers, clients, and ex-clients. I don’t “sh*t where I eat”, so anything workplace related is off-limits. Won’t start anything on a shaky foundation, so the married guys that seem to relentlessly chase it are off-limits too. Do you know how I can meet a sane, gainfully employed gentleman, who is looking for a deeper commitment? I’m not looking for marriage now but would like it someday with the right person. I’ve contemplated freezing my eggs because I don’t want to rush with anyone and am worried it will be too late by the time I meet my life partner. How is a girl like me supposed to meet a quality guy? Internet dating doesn’t work for me: eHarmony led to me getting a restraining order and I was too scared to meet anyone off Tinder… so ideally nothing online. Do you have any insights on where the similarly situated quality men can be found? I prefer maturity and stability over youth and a hot body, so my ideal match is 35-45 years old. Thank you so much for your help!
I have the perfect guy for you. Email me (firstname.lastname@example.org). Oh and YES freeze your eggs ASAP! You are on the clock.- nik