THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, 3 1/2 years, Mike Jones and I have been playing this game. We both spit from our longterm partners and found ourselves mingling with one another. For the first 6 months, we stayed in motel rooms until I got into a 2 bedroom rental. Even though 7 people in a 2 bedroom every weekend (his 2 kids, my 3 kids) seemed too tight, I invited him to move in. He took it gladly, and proceeded to use me for a babysitter, a warm place for his Lil Greg, and my 5 year old son, as well as me as a punching bag to help him feel tough. It was just emotional and verbal abuse until the day I came home on my lunch to help look for his $40 he misplaced due to severe sleep deprivation. Dealing with a bit of psychosis as well, he flipped on me and held me by me neck and jaw in the air, choking me.
Some of the things he did to my son were evil and juvenile, from crushing a days worth of snail hunting so that first thing in the morning, my son would run to check on the snails he loved so much, my son would be crushed. To spraying his toothbrush with bear mace in order to make my son seem disobedient at toothbrushing time and hurt him. Writing these things hurts so bad. Goes to show how abuse is blinding. For the next year or so he continued to stay out all night, pay for P4P’s, lie to me, and paint a completely different picture to all of our friends and families, separate me from all of my people, while treating me like I was the retarded clinger who deserved all that I lost and suffered from and pushed and shoved me as needed. The amount of humiliation this man has put on me is unnerving. The amount of hooked and women he has messed around with is disgusting. The lack of compassion and respect he is willing to give is a dead give away. He is so juvenile and selfish.
One of his most frequent responses is, “it’s my word, house, rules, car, or I don’t care I am all that is important right now, if you don’t like it then you can go.” He creates these huge displays of aggression or theatrics from nothing in order to end his relationship “forever,” just for a quick hookup and Lil b*tch gossip with his homies. This is merely a warning that all this abuser offers is drama and a guaranteed need for counseling once you’ve finally broken free. I am curious, is there anyway to create like a “douchebag hookup list”? Kind of like Angie’a List, but for Losers, Low Lifes, Limp Gregs, and Liars?